The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

[Georgie]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Great poems everybody! Oh MB, i am sorry to hear about your home troubles. Sun......I will surely pray for you daughters friend. I came home from work tonight to my own set of troubles but after reading here tonight I think I will just be silent and count my blessings. Try and have peaceful rest tonight my friends. Love Gina

Bird I am here for you, I too am fighting the weight war, I am 192! We can be each others support partner on this.

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

sunshinedaisies;1239609 wrote: Okay - my turn for trouble. My 25 year old just came over in floods of tears - she is best friends with two sisters - one of them her age - 26 next Tuesday - well, she (the one who is 26 next Tuesday) has gone missing - for 5 hours now. She texted her mum all her bank details, also said that she didn't want (3 names entered here) to come to her services. She has closed her facebook account, switched off her phone, is VERY depressed. the police are looking for her but have no idea even where to start! Oh gosh - as my daughter said "the waiting is SO hard!" Don't people know what they DO to folk when they do things like this? I hurt so much for my daughter - she lost another friend last year to a car accident. Now to have to wait and see what is going to happen here? OMG Please everyone - pray for my daughters friend........

Hugs, Sun XXXX

Oh Sun, this is just too awful to contemplate. Life is so precious. I've been right to the edge myself, didn't want to pull myself away but it was the thought that maybe
it might hurt my family, even though I doubted it at the time, that stopped me.
I hope this poor, troubled child realises this before she goes too far.
I will add you, your daughter, this girl's sister and family in my prayers.
Waiting is excruciating.
All my love and hugs. :h:h:l:l

[tlrgs]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

hey there just read back and im sending hugs and prayers .. that things work out for one and all ...

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Update for you all - the police have found her in a hotel with a load of tablets. Taken her to the ER but she is okay. Daughter will be - I am going to bed. Thanks all for your love and support and concern. Love you all SO much,

Hugs, Sun XX

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Jan, I feel for your predicament...I had to watch my home go into receivership after my ex-husband threw in a bring-home paypacket of two and a half thousand dollars a week job because 'they're all a bunch of wankers,' and I had to work a 60 hour week in security for five months, then an 84 hour week, week on, week off (less money) while he lay around in his underwear on the couch, feeling sorry for himself. That's when I cleared out alone, knowing he wouldn't last with the kids for more than a few weeks (he lasted two) and he still lay there, depressed, while the gardens died, the kids (I'm so ashamed of this) had to take raw potatoes to school for lunch because there wasn't anything else, the chooks (including my little Chickadee) died because he couldn't get off his bum to feed them. If he'd just made an effort to help me keep up with the mortgage and the bills...but it didn't happen and we lost both houses. The one he had rented to his brother (the now-famous Mick's step father) was greatly devalued by the neglect and disrepair it had fallen into, not to mention the holes he and Mick had punched in the walls. I didn't learn until last year that even so the sales didn't cover the mortgage by about $20 000. He apparently made arrangements with the bank to pay it off himself, which I am lead to understand he only completed doing a couple of years ago. At least he spared me that as he'd managed to go through my inheritance money (enough to buy 4 houses at the time) plus some.
When I went to Adelaide with Eddy The Moron Brooke gave him my car which was in both our names. He drove it into a tree drunk within a couple of months. He'd never made a payment or helped with insurance and I still had $5 000 owing, not much after all was said and done. Naturally, being unable to find him, the finance company came after me. I said I didn't know where he was but it was likely they'd find Osama Bin Laden before they found him if he didn't want to be found. Eventually I said I had a way of finding him but that if I did my daughter (Ashe, living with him) would never forgive me, so I would pay it off from my Disability if it took me the rest of my life. Bless the dear man to whom I spoke. I received a letter from him saying the finance company had written off the debt and wishing me well.

Oh dear, off on an emotional purge, but I still remember the horrible feeling of of losing our homes. Stupid, stupid me for putting the houses in both names because I loved him My heart goes out to you because I still remember clearly the strain of that time all too well.
And I haven't even started on the next installment of the Ashelee saga.

I spent two hours on FB chat with Marcy (Chris's mum) last night, during which time Chris rang her and said he's going to take the kids for a day, but in reality, he's getting Marcy to drive down and take them back with her to Gingin, about 2 hours drive from here so about 4 hous from where Ashe is.
I really wish I didn't know about it for 2 reasons: 1. Ashe doesn't know about it and it's not a good feeling knowing this and also knowing I'm not going to warn her, because as you rightly say, they need to be in a stable environment and part of me is really pleased that it's taking place, but I feel disloyal in one way. Reason 2. Marcy wants to spend a couple of days here with the kids so I can spend some time with them.
I want to see them so desperately, but I said I couldn't be a party to that. If I want Ashe to trust me and come to me when she's ready, then I can't have anything to do with it at all. Oh, the arguments Marcy put forward to change my mind. You can imagine the guilt trips she tried to put me on. "But you're Nanny, aren't you...they need to see we're united in this, Ashe might be angry at first, but she'll thank you later for being there for them....blah, blah, blah" ad infinitum. In the end she said she was very disappointed and couldn't understand my point of view. I said I'm sorry about that, but I'm fighting for my daughter's life here and I stood my ground.

I'm probably the only person she knows will be there for her no matter what.
She trusts me completely to let her find her own way back, which she's done before and I believe she will do so again. How on earth could I do anything to break that trust when so much is at stake? When she comes around she'll be my authentic girl again, happy and a wonderful natural mum.

When the conversation with Marcy came (finally) to an end, my head felt like it was ready to explode. I was exhausted and went to bed, but sleep evaded me (thanks for the well wishes re that anyway, Fen), so I was up at 5:00am out in the front garden, pulling out weeds...very cathartic. I imagine I'll sleep very well tonight.

Fen, I passed on your well-wishes to James, and he was very chuffed, but said what must you have thought of him with his hair sticking everywhere and without his teeth. I told him you'd said he was like a diamond in the rough, and I think that pleased him mightily.
He's still working his way through a mountain of problems, but he's applying some of the principles I've been teaching and instead of waving his arms around and looping out he's learning to calm down, listen carefully to what's being said, and put his brain into gear before opening his mouth. He's stunned at how well things are working out for him. Hopefully, soon he can start doing it all on his own without needing me there to help him!!! Not that I mind, but it's been a long haul and I'm just happy to see him learning and applying things in his life. Yay, James.

Anyway, my lovelies, it's wonderful how we help one another with our burdens, even if we can't carry the load. You're all such a blessing and I love you all.

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Three hours later and just had a call from my very distressed older daughter, Brooke, who's living with Mother and carrying the lion's share of treatments, appointments etc...Mother isn't eating half what she's telling the doctors, or drinking very much...and the dietician, the doctors the nurses and Brooke are trying to reson with her. Mother isn't used to anyone else calling the shots and isn't too happy about being admitted into ER and put on a drip and kept in overnight, so she's been given the option to eat, drink and co-operate by Sunday or into hospital she goes. I have to deal with her tomorrow, Monday and Tuesday, which will give Brooke a bit of a break, but I'm starting to wonder when it's going to be my time for a break from everything that seems to be coming at me from every direction.

Oh, forgot to mention earlier that I omitted mentioning to Marcy that I've been in contact with Ashe and have her number.

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Oh my, Oh my! What terrible troubles, and terribly strong women, I see here tonight. And thank you men for pitching in too with your support.
Sun, WHEW! That girl has been on my heart since you posted, woke at 2 thinking of her. At least now, it's not too late. And YES, you have to be drained. Help YOUR daughter deal with this the best way you know how, and we'll all pray the friend's family will do the same by her.
Mish, there is no answer for the mistakes of our youth. I was spared much of that, but have seen up close too much of it. My sister is 4 times divorced, plus numerous other men, and has run on hard times even with her inheritance. You have to follow your path. I don't feel you're being untrue to Ashe by what her ex and his mother or doing in respect to the children - let them be cared for while you concentrate on your daughter. So glad James is healing in so many ways.
MB, try not to worry. It won't help, honey. Take as much action as you can, pull out all the stops, but sometimes it seems we have no choice in what happens, and worrying only makes it harder. So many have shared here about their losses, and Hub's biggest complaint with this site is that I seem to take each one personally. Maybe, I feel if I can share in the pain, the load isn't as heavy for my friends. We'll get through this sister.

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Good Morning everyone - oh gosh Mish - what problems! I so feel for you. All I can do is send hugs to you :l and hold you in my prayers - I have no idea what your answers are, but trust that things will work out as they should. you are certainly being givent more than your fair share of trouble right now.

Good Morning Rubes - yes, I was so relieved when Daughter called me - she is coming in to see me at work today - I imagine the girl will be in hospital for the required three days at least. She obviously needs help. But what it does to others in the meantime..... anyway - I need to get ready for work - early shift again.

Thank you all so much - it meant a lot to me to see you all rally round and be here for me last night - so comforting - like a giant hug. I so love my family here.

Hugs to all, Love, Sun XX

[bird]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Hi all
Sorry and big hugs to all of you, the problems seem to come all at once. Loving the poetry now. Must get ready for work and then the Y. Pouncer caught a mouse this a.m. but ate it outside.

[Juja]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

I don't post here very often, but want to say I'm sending prayers, positive vibes, and everything I can think of for everyone with such horrible troubles. Gosh, I'm so sad for all you going through such rough times.

I will say the same thing seems to be happening in my neck of the woods. Deaths, illnesses, economic hardships--what's going on???? I had such high hopes for 2012, but actually, it's just a date, right? Life goes on, with all it's trials and tribulations, regardless of a number.

One foot in front of the other--literally. I've been there, and am here to tell you it can be done.

Things can't be bad forever, I promise.:l

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Sunny, as I said, when you live long enough, and have as big a network of family and friends as I do, and my parents did, you can't help but be touched by either the threat or action of suicide. I've always said, and I haven't changed my mind, it is a cruel and selfish act, and condemns those left to a lifetime of their own guilt. Just by what you said she messaged about 'the 3 she didn't want at her services' the girl was trying to get the last word, condemning a lifetime of guilt on people. But if she had succeeded, they would have lived their lives, for better or worse, and she wouldn't. Something goes wrong in our reasoning when we think there is no future, that the unknown is better than the present, and that it's better to hurt people who love us than face our problems. I've known children of a suicide for 40 years. It's still very much a part of their lives. I had a suicide on one of my properties. We've not rented the place since. I could tick off a dozen others, but it all ends the same. Those left suffer terribly. So you take care of your girl, again, and we'll pray for the other family.
'From the perspective of the one committing suicide, his or her act can be one of the most perverse forms of moral manipulation, as it abandons those left behind to their shame, guilt, and grief. Suicide is something like a metaphysical "I gotcha!" It is often an attempt to kill or wound others.'

STANLEY HAUERWAS


Bird, I LOVE your take on life. You struggle in ways most of us don't, PLUS you're dealing with teens :H, but every day you notice everything around you - the owls, chickens, cats, weather. I don't mean to diminish your own problems, but you truly live in the world you're in.

Rubes

[IAD]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Good Morning Jammers ! Looks like it's going to be a beautiful day......Will go outside and smell the roses. ( And pick up after my two darlings.....Ace & Jack ! ha!) Keep Jamin' man !

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Speaking of picking up, Tony, I was cruising the net this AM and found a Rottie in a shelter, abandoned by it's owners. I've made the first calls, guess I'm hooked. He's a youngster, not a full Rott from the looks, but he will be put down next week. Yes, the hook is in. TMB will set him down if he is full of himself!
Just got and EMERGENCY (aren't they all!) call to drive about 20 miles and pickup granddaughter who's sick. Such is a wonderful life for this grandma.

[IAD]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

Hay I get adoption proposals every other week ! Ha! Having a daughter who works at a Vet Hospital part time.....you can imagine the possibles....Ha! ( they do a lot of work for the Baltimore SPCA and the pound ) Hope your granddaughter is doing ok Rubes.....Tony

[not quite a swan]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for JANUARY 2012

self pitying screech....can i have a hug????????????????? arggggg