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    A little dissappointed

    Saw my therapist today. I kind of expected exactly what I got. She's wonderful, truly wonderful. But she is of the AA mentality. She has helped me through so many things, a divorce, suicidal tendencies, depression, she really has been great. However, I'm great too. I don't really BS her. And I'm not doing AA, and I told her that's just not my bag baby! So, she's going to support me in my efforts to do this program. I guess I didn't really expect her to be super gung ho, I mean it's been said for YEARS, decades, centuries maybe, that the only way to beat this thing is to do the 12 steps and all that, so what is she supposed to think. Oh well, just thought I'd come here and vent a bit. Nothing really substantial to say.
    :k
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    "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
    -- Oliver Wendell Holmes
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    #2
    A little dissappointed

    Don't give up hope...

    AA is NOT my bag either. I had a hard time listening to the same depressing stories each time, and also, I got tired of telling mine. For me, it kind of kept me in limbo instead of helping me move on in my recovery. I have apologized to the ones I love and hurt, and I have also received apologies from the ones who hurt me in return. I am aware of what I have done and whom I have become, and want to simply move on with it.... So, no, AA isn't for everyone. But like you said, it is ingrained in most professionals mentallity that AA is the W'AA'Y to go. It works for many... but we are all different.

    At least she was positive about your therapy here. Whatever helps, helps. Unfortunately professionals aren't aware of all the different avenues there are for obtaining controlled drinking or sobriety. But I think you already know this.

    Things will get better in time for you. Keep the faith, and keep reaching out.

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      #3
      A little dissappointed

      HI,

      My adopted mum is an aloholic, and went to AA for many years without any success. I remember my Dad (when I was very young) saying it was a place for drinkers to go and talk about drinking - he never felt it was in any way helpful.

      Guess i've grown up woth the same opinion.

      Went to Al-anon and they told me how I should feel about my Mum, no consideration of what I did actually feel.

      Then when felt I may be coming down with a little problem of my own, I went to five or six diff meetings in diff places and really could not hack it - it was like being obsessed (like being on a diet and not being able to stop thinkink about food).

      I think people who tend to obsess (me!) are better off without AA type situations.

      The again it helps so many people.

      Love
      cashy



      xx
      "Life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans" - John Lennon

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        I agree with all of those sentiments. I have only just come around to actually saying ' I am an alcoholic ' to people that I love. But even those words are said between ' clenched teeth ' ! Mainly because I do not think that putting a label on someone helps At All. I have been to AA meetings, and there are souls there who have not drunk in 20 yrs, but still have to stand up and say ' my name is ***** ' ' I am an alcoholic '
        I think that this is compartmentalising people. I want to stand up and say I have not had a drink for X months. This is who I am, and you will not pigeon-hole me. I cannot see one positive outcome of this, it just msakes you dwell on what once was, but not allow you to move forward.

        ok... rant over ( forgive me, 1st night alone ) !

        Em
        XoXoX

        p.s I think I made that 'compartment.. etc ' word up in my own mind Ha Ha !!!

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          #5
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          No that word exists - particularly in the study of political theory

          And I agree sooo sooo much - who needs to be put into a box.

          I just don't want to think about alcohol all the time - the less I think about the stuff the less I want/need it - like chocolate on a diet

          Cashy
          "Life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans" - John Lennon

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            #6
            A little dissappointed

            Yeah, this is going to be a process for me definately. I hope my therapist is along for the ride. I read somewhere that AA only has a 5% success rate and that 80% of the people who quit, do so without AA. So, when she was telling me that AA is THE authority on the subject, I was thinking, hmmm, I don't really think so. I didn't feel like arguing about it at the time. I'll discuss all that with her at some point. I felt like she would just think I was justifying anyway. I need a little success under my belt before I start pulling that stuff out anyway.

            If anyone has any research on that stuff (AA success vs other paths, I'd love to hear it)
            --
            "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
            -- Oliver Wendell Holmes

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