Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

[techie]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

myhappyplace;1266254 wrote: Morning Undies! Interesting pontification Bridgey...must do some R&D on Elizabeth Kubler-Ross...

Well...Mr Happs hasnt been well, just waiting for blood tests to come back but too soon to guess. They are testing for my ultimate joke, Ross River, what do you know?? anyway hes taken on the lifestyle changes happily. Maybe he, like me, was ready for a change. And I'm not rubbing your nose in it Raggsey, its early days.

On the FIL front, he's going into hospital in the next few weeks for a total knee re-construction. Will be in for SIX WEEKS....I dont think they will be paying the nursing staff enough for that gig...

Wishing your spouse the best Happs. I agree with the nurse about Mr. Rags. I too feel that same sense of denial. You know, that point in life when you need to step back and think of all the things that affect us, whats important, and what we need to do to adjust as we get older. Well I told my Doctor I'm willing to sell my bikes and retire from Tri sports. I'm thinking of buying a kayak.

Sunny, I'm sorry to hear about your work issues. Management does strange things at times. Leaders in business do the right thing. Mangers do things right. There is a hue difference there. Find some comfort in that thought. You'll be be fine. I always tried to do the right thing for my employees.

[MumOfTwo]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

Guitarista;1265863 wrote: Both positions are available. You're hired! :welcome:

Mr G - Can I join your band too??? I can play the triangle

[MumOfTwo]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

Sunny - sorry to hear your boss is being a real D%$%head. I agree with the other posts, log every little minute you work. Hugs to you and bubs xx

[tawnyfrog]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

Listened to some of the Memorial Service at Christchurch this morning. Good thoughts for all our Kiwi cousins.

[coriander]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

oh I've been away for a bit, just coming back on to say hello & see that lovely draggy has passed away, & Ragsy you're having a shit time with your husband, & Sunny you're having a distressing time at work.
haven't even SEEN the news to see what's happening over in NZ - better get informed.

stinkingly hot over here & no person in their right mind should step outside. I'm even thinking of letting the magpie in.

[Miss Behaving]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

yes, it's been a slightly sombre day here. I've got a friend staying with me for a while from Chch and it has been interesting hearing him talk about what it has been like.

I was really sad about Draggy too - I really liked her too. Boozehag met here when she went over to Ireland a coupe of years ago - I must see if I've still got her email and see if she knows.

Bridge your thing about getting stuck in the depression stage and not moving onto acceptance rang a big bell for me - thanks!!

Rags, how are you doing today?

I've been feeling really anxious all week about this coming weekend - first parent's weekend at Mr B's boy's boarding school, and we just weren't sure how things were going to pan out with Mr B's ex who is going to be there as well. There are lots of social events, picnics, athletics etc etc and we thoguht we would be bound to bump into her at some point and how would I handle it (and how would she handle it) Lo and behold, pigs flew today, and she rang Mr B to organise who would be at what. To be honest, I suspect that she had the same dread of bumping into us as we did of bumping into her Anyyway, there is now a clear seperation between the things we will go to and the things she will go to anad the only thing that we'll be at together is the whole school athletics at which we can all melt into the crowd -

[coriander]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

hi Missy - that's a relief that the ex may actually be a bit considerate for a change!

what's been happening in poor Chch?

are you Ok?

I wonder the reason for draggy dying : al related or not. Just makes me feel very distressed, reminds me when foamfollower died & I missed reading all his jokes.:upset:

[sunshinetoday]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

Evening all. Home from work. Thanks for the thoughts ya'll.

Rags, I hope you're doing okay darlin.

MB, sounds like the weekend should go better than expected.

Techie, How are you coming along?
MOJO, nice work on your third week.
Bridge, I think you hit the nail on the head. I used to volunteer in hospice in America and I found the study of death and dying very interesting.

[sunshinetoday]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

HP, my co worker and her husband had Ross River. Now she is making all these lifestyle and food changes, and is at her best yet.

[sunshinetoday]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

P.S. Does anyone know how foam follower died? I often wondered, he was such a lovely person it seems.

[sunshinetoday]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

What's happening? Have you all gone to bed?

[Miss Behaving]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

I'd never heard of Ross River. HAd to google it.

Just here briefly Sunny - just had a meeting after work and then community choir practice. I have to say I am loving it - about 200 people every week attend. No auditions, no necessity to be able to sight read, casuals welcome, lots of world music sung. The musical director is just fab and with a wicked sense of humour - and it all culminates in an incredibly high levels of enjoyment and fun in eight-part harmony.

coriander;1266309 wrote: hi Missy - that's a relief that the ex may actually be a bit considerate for a change!

what's been happening in poor Chch?

It was the first anniversary of the big Chch earthquake today Corrie. Very sad for lots of people - those directly affected, but it really had a big impact on the whole of NZ.

And I'm not sure the ex is motivated by consideration - this may be unkind of me, but I think it is more about her need to present a good face in public and wanting to be in control of how the weekend goes. Anyway, I dont really care what her motivations are - I'm just relieved that I know what to expect for the weekend, and that there will be no surprises to discombobulate me

[Cinders]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

Hello Undies,

I was just wanting to touch base with some friends. (I hope some of you consider me a friend, even if it is just a virtual friendship.) I see others are going through a rough patch right now and am sending hope that things get better soon. As I always say, "This, too, shall pass."

It is 5:30 in the a.m. here. I have been up since 4:00 sneaking around my parent's condo trying not to awaken anyone. I had my requisite six hours of sleep.

I will be away from my husband another month or so. It is difficult. I miss him and I miss my dog!!! (Not sure which I miss more..)

Mama is fading fast. Her mind is only with us for small amounts of time. She cannot carry on a conversation which makes sense. Her dementia causes her to be unable to pull up the right words for what she is trying to say. In an odd way, it is sort of fun to try to figure out what she is saying. Like a puzzle.

Sometimes I simply smile and agree. Unfortunately, that is not always the right answer for her. :-(

She is sleeping constantly and I know it is her heart.

I do not want to let her go but she is almost gone anyway. My dad has an appt for her in April with a cardiologist and I truly wish he would just let her go in peace without continuing to keep her alive with medical help. Although, after 66 plus years of marriage and many years together is children, I can completely understand his desire to keep her with him no matter what.

On the very wonderful side, there are still those precious moments when she is my mama. If I put on a movie or show with children or animals, she brightens up and smiles and laughs.

Yesterday a neighbor came to visit because she heard my mom was hurt (she fell in December and fractured her pelvis and smashed her wrist.)

This woman's visit frightened my mother. I had to hold my mama in my arms for quite a bit until she calmed down. It felt good to be able to give back some of the love and caring that she has always given me.

Anyway, today I take both my parents to the hospital. My dad for pre-op work for a procedure to help his back pain. My mom to get the two screws and the bar taken off her arm from her fractured wrist.

This will be a very stressful day. My mama is afraid and that means her dementia will go through the roof.

Meanwhile, my dad is in total denial about how bad my mother's dementia is. To the point of actually expecting her to be able to drive after they move to the new condo!!!

I am pondering ways to deal with this without causing angst for my mom or my dad. I think I will call the nurse in charge of her in-home care for the wrist and pelvis and talk with her about how to deal with this on the side. If the law will not let my mother drive due to her diminished mental state, my dad will not fight that.

I just needed to vent. I am not sure why I chose the Underoo thread except perhaps some of you are awake. There is nothing anyone can do except me. I have to go drink some coffee and man up to what I need to do in the continuation of a struggle to give my mama the best last days of her life.

Thank you for listening.

Love,
Cindi

[myhappyplace]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

Hi Cindi. Regardless of your mama's dementia I believe that she would know what a loving caring daughter she has. You're pretty special.

[myhappyplace]

Underoos and Affiliates, February, 2012

I've jumped out of skulk mode to have a little whinge...how come someone who's sick can still find the energy to get onto ebay to buy - ta da - a metal detector....but not just a metal detector a "sensitive metal detector deep treasure hunt target snoop finer waterproof". I do not lie....the postage was $30 and he "won" it for $10...I think the fever's really got him...if he buys the matching hat to go detecting I will introduce the citizens divorce rule...