Hi All, Confession time ........

[Breez]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Paula
Our roads to recovery are many. As long as we go forward & not backwards is all that matters.

No need for this :hitme:

Onward & upward.

[Guest]

Hi All, Confession time ........

OMG - i am struggling big time and can only say WOW to 17 days.
i would be beating myself up too after having a couple of GLASSES (b/c i do it sooo well) BUT in mamma land if i could do 17 days ABS i would have not drunk about...130 glasses of wine -
i think you have done amazingly well - i started off ok - but i am slipping back into my pattern of every night or so.
and just think - you didnt consume 13000 calories in that 17 days
please send me some lovin energy to try and achieve even 10 days ABS!
x
MM

[Lou]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Mamma Mia...... sending all my love and energy to you right now....you deserve it!!! Just do me a favour and send me some back!!!

Love and best to you

Lou-Lou x x x

[pixie]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Paula

I know it's hard to stay upbeat when you stop your AF streak (I've gotten as far as Day 12) - but you have to remember that it's not a numbers game. It's a behavioral change, and you've changed your behaviour big time. Whether you have 30 days in a row AF, or 16 days plus 14 days with a 2-glass day in the middle, or several 2-glass days, it's a major accomplishment in all cases. I think in some ways the counting can be detrimental because it becomes too rigid, and any break can be labeled a failure when it's really not. And if you look at it as a negative (wrong in my opinion) you're at risk to start thinking "what the h*@#, I've already blown it, may as well drink tonight too". Don't go there!

Hope this helps a little, and congrats on what you've accomplished!

pixie

[Popeye]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Hi Paula
I'm sorry I missed you last night. I like my sleep too much.
You're doing great. Keep it up.
Love.

[Shaman]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Hi, Paula. As everyone else has said, well done for the 17 days. But I think the important thing here is to learn what happened. I'm on day 18 today, and I can assure you that there have been a few times that I would have cracked if there had been a bottle of wine right there in front of me. Maybe you should tell your husband that if he wants to buy some wine he should keep it out of the way. I'd certainly need that. Well done for only having two glasses - but it can happen that the first night you have two, and then convince yourself that, hey, look at me I can just have two glasses. Next thing you know you're right back where you were. I'm pretty sure you know all this, and 17 days is great (I'm congratulating myself every day), but I do believe it's vital to learn what happened so you don't lay yourself open to the same thing next time. Expecting someone like me to cook with a bottle of wine in front of me would be too much at the moment, so maybe you should think about how you could make it easier for yourself? No disrespect at all, but it sounds like your husband might not be quite on the same page regarding what you need in order to get through. I find strategy is pretty important, as part of me will be looking for an excuse to start drinking. A bottle of wine right there in front of me would be all the excuse I needed. All the very best with it.

Steve.

[Shaman]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Hi, Paula. As everyone else has said, well done for the 17 days. But I think the important thing here is to learn what happened. I'm on day 18 today, and I can assure you that there have been a few times that I would have cracked if there had been a bottle of wine right there in front of me. Maybe you should tell your husband that if he wants to buy some wine he should keep it out of the way. I'd certainly need that. Well done for only having two glasses - but it can happen that the first night you have two, and then convince yourself that, hey, look at me I can just have two glasses. Next thing you know you're right back where you were. I'm pretty sure you know all this, and 17 days is great (I'm congratulating myself every day), but I do believe it's vital to learn what happened so you don't lay yourself open to the same thing next time. Expecting someone like me to cook with a bottle of wine in front of me would be too much at the moment, so maybe you should think about how you could make it easier for yourself? No disrespect at all, but it sounds like your husband might not be quite on the same page regarding what you need in order to get through. I find strategy is pretty important, as part of me will be looking for an excuse to fail and start drinking. A bottle of wine right there in front of me would be all the excuse I needed. All the very best with it.

Steve.

[Shaman]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Hi, Paula. As everyone else has said, well done for the 17 days. But I think the important thing here is to learn what happened. I'm on day 18 today, and I can assure you that there have been a few times that I would have cracked if there had been a bottle of wine right there in front of me. Maybe you should tell your husband that if he wants to buy some wine he should keep it out of the way. I'd certainly need that. Well done for only having two glasses - but it can happen that the first night you have two, and then convince yourself that, hey, look at me I can just have two glasses. Next thing you know you're right back where you were. I'm pretty sure you know all this, and 17 days is great (I'm congratulating myself every day), but I do believe it's vital to learn what happened so you don't lay yourself open to the same thing next time. Expecting someone like me to cook with a bottle of wine in front of me would be too much at the moment, so maybe you should think about how you could make it easier for yourself? No disrespect at all, but it sounds like your husband might not be quite on the same page regarding what you need in order to get through. I find strategy is pretty important, as part of me will be looking for an excuse to start drinking. A bottle of wine right there in front of me would be all the excuse I needed. All the very best with it.

Steve.

[Floyd21]

Hi All, Confession time ........

I think that drinking just two glasses ( which is actually recommended as quite healthy ) then stopping is maybe a greater achievement than staying totally AF!

Well Done!

:goodjob:

Floyd

[Rocky]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Splendiente!!!:goodjob:

[Shaman]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Floyd21 wrote: I think that drinking just two glasses ( which is actually recommended as quite healthy ) then stopping is maybe a greater achievement than staying totally AF!

Floyd

Hi, Floyd, 2 glasses of wine a day is the suggested upper limit for women. Some dieticians recommend 1 glass of red wine per day for the antioxidants etc, but I don't think anyone would actually recommend 2 every day. And that's based on a glass containing 4oz (118 ml) of wine. I don't know about you, but if I was to pour myself 2 glasses of wine, they'd probably be a lot bigger than that. Most alcoholics don't drink small glasses of anything, in my experience. Also, what might be healthy for someone who has been moderately drinking for some time is not necessarily the same as what's healthy for someone who is just starting to get AF. I've had plenty of times when my first night drinking again was limited to a couple of drinks, which became a couple more the next night and pretty soon got back to where I started. But besides that your body needs a lot more time to recover before it is going to find anything healthy in wine. Your system will still be running on alcoholic mode for a while, so I wouldn't go having a glass of red wine for health purposes until it's had plenty of recovery time. All the best with it.

Hey, Paula, I don't mean to sound at all negative, but I think it's a bit premature for anyone to be suggesting you've cracked the moderate drinking, as I'm sure you would agree. I'm just sharing some stuff from my experience, and I find myself confused and angry the morning after succumbing. I also find it helps to get straight back on the wagon, if you can manage it. It can be very hard not to end up bingeing again for a few nights/days, and I think it's vital that people give you the right kind of support, which in my experience is a mixture of realism, honesty and caring, as well as an acknowledgement of what you've shown you can achieve. I hope you're getting what works for you. Rooting for you.

Steve.

[Floyd21]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Hi Shaman,

You are dead right about the health issuse and I shouldn't have stated that.

I guess I just wanted to say it was admirable to stop after just two as I know I woudn't have the will power at the moment!

Kindest regards

Floyd

[Shaman]

Hi All, Confession time ........

Hey, nor me, Floyd. Two bottles, more like! I'd like to do moderation one day, but not a chance at the moment.

[lucky 2.0]

Hi All, Confession time ........

The book suggests a minimum of 30 days abs prior to attempting mods. I think that is important to remember. However, for those of us who find ourselves here, mods is a utopian goal in my opinion. One or two here may be successful moderating but it is definately not the majority. Abs is soooooooooooooo much easier anyway.

All the best-

[Java]

Hi All, Confession time ........

i agree, if i said i could drink on weekends or once a week, i would be back at it all 7 days a week!!!