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**betty boop** · January 20, 2007, 05:13 AM

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Pebbles,

That's a difficult one, Like you say C is the best option .......

I'f facing the exact same dilemma in 4 weeks as we're going to florida and eat out for every meal and ususally that means beer or wine, and then more when we get back to the hotel ....

Anyway have a lovely time & let us know how you get on .....

Love & Hugs, Paula xx :h :l :h :l

**Flip** · January 20, 2007, 05:40 AM

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I have a similar situation coming up. I would go for A. It's often easier to not start than to try and control it once you've had a couple.

f

**Quiescent** · January 20, 2007, 10:05 AM

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don't drink until 2-3 hours before you plan on going to bed. In other words, don't give yourself time to get sloshed.

My 2 cents

**Pebbles** · January 20, 2007, 11:08 AM

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Thanks for the input so far.

A of course would be the most sensible...But I think I'd be miserable and stroppy and be a martyr for the week and everyone would be quite suspicious. 'P' NOT drink a drop, you are having a laugh !!

If I swap the lunchtime ones for diet coke nobody would notice ( and I may even ski better).

If I give the beers a miss - I'd save money and calories.

Just sip the wine with the meal ?

Pebbles

**Breez** · January 20, 2007, 10:07 PM

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I personally would go with A. There have been times where I thought if I didn't drink it would be boring or people would notice. PeeShaw! People notice when you do drink & make an arse of yourself!

But you know yourself better than anyone else. Have fun!

**ihavebeenherkind** · January 20, 2007, 11:58 PM

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I like that idea of not drinking until 2-3 hours before you plan to go to bed. That might really help you keep things under control.

Sounds like a real challenge. I know you are up to it! Best of luck to you! You can do it!:thumbs:

**hidden_gem** · January 23, 2007, 03:31 AM

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Pebbles,

Will there be anyone else there not drinking?

Gem

**Pebbles** · January 23, 2007, 04:49 AM

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yep, my partner barely touches it and at least one of the other girls doesn't drink. There's no real peer pressure from them on me...it's just my own weakness !!

**Olly** · January 23, 2007, 08:32 AM

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Hmm.. I understand this is a tough one. Maybe if you imagine yourself "loosing control" with the wine at dinner (because you're ready after the vin and beers..) and having to wake up early the next day to go out skiing again! Headache, dry mouth, no energy, guilt, mild depression, maybe embarassment, maybe not remembering, maybe something worse.... getting the picture? Now, think about passing on the drinks, or trying to see if you can control the evening wine... feeling good, feeling proud, and waking up the next morning full of energy and ready to hit the slopes again!! It helps me to remember just how awful I will the feel the morning after the night before!!
Good luck Pebbles, enjoy the scenery and here's a big bunch of sunny lovely weather vibes!!
Olly

**gabby** · January 23, 2007, 12:38 PM

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Good one Fan!
My thought is....hurry and get Topamax!

**Pebbles** · January 24, 2007, 08:10 AM

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Thanks everyone,

Fan, I know what you're saying, and don't we all know what to do, it's doing it that's the hard thing.

Gabby, yep got me Topa, can only take 25mg tho' without forgetting who I am, where I am or what I'm doing there!

This may be the last post (so to speak) before going, will let you all know how it goes when we get back. Just hoping for enough snow !!

Pebbles:thanks:

**YoungAtHeart** · January 24, 2007, 08:24 AM

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Good luck, Pebbles!!

**Paddyoverseas** · January 24, 2007, 01:49 PM

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for me ...I don't think it is possible to moderate ...that's the problem part of my drinking . Once I get afew in the ability to control drifts away with each one ( "one is too many and two is never enough" )

I also went skiing , for the first time,a few weeks ago. It was the event I needed to stop drinking- despite the fabled apres-ski.!!!! I drank non alcoholic beer( austrian) in the evening which was quite ok and got me overthe 'first drink' of the evening problem.I was also so exhausted from the exertions of the skiing that I really enjoyed my sleep and was up fresh every morning.Learning to ski was just like the metaphor Irishlady explains in another thread here

I have decided that the only way I can get the drinking under control is to stop altogether. Just like when I gave up cigarettes many years ago I realised after some time that cigartettes were not my best friend after all.!!!! I expect it will be the same with drink.
I can relate so well to your fear of standing out and not being able to have fun. That has been my greatest concern also. As long as I can remember I have associated a good time with drinking.But I think I have been fooling myself and seeking out the company of those who similarly fool themselves. Apparently normal people don't need to get pissed to have a good time .
I am determned ...well at least I am hopingto fill my life with positive learning and other things that I can enjoy ( like learning to ski) rather than seeing 'sober' as a boring / negative experience which I must grudgingly come to terms with

I am told by others who have been there a long time ( see Irishlady thread) that the 'Deep end' and the 'black slopes' are a 'bloddy wonderful' experience when you have a clear head and sober vision

**gabby** · January 24, 2007, 02:05 PM

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Yes good luck pebbles, I be thinkin bout ya!

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