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[ladyjan]

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Thankyou all for you words, I'll reply more when I come back..
crying my eyes out packing the bag of clothes with his little blanket and slippers to take to Bonnies with the dogs so we can visit,
plus drop food off as she can't afford another mouth to feed..

it's fucking heartbreaking....


p.s. zennie we're ok, I know you didn't understand all wot was going on..xxxx

[dixon]

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Sorry to hear...

LadyJan,

The life seems complicated but has to face anyway ...People who has a big heart usually get such a problem .God gives problem to those people who have capacity to solve it so please take care yourself and give him a love as well.. Its hard to face but no way out ..I have been also charged under domestic violence and learning to help myself first and get happiness so that I can share to others...
Our big hug to you !
Dixon

[ladyjan]

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Just come back from dropping clothes & food off...shit it's hard, just gotta think it's a weekend break and sort the house out and relax...........Hmmm
he will be in my mind every second..

a thought..
dunno what you all think? is if Bonnie takes pics of all the hurt he has done to me, and just keep it for later, the forensic has done all that but he has not seen it..

if maybe it will help him to see the hurt he does when he get's mad..I dunno just a thought..??

what do you reckon??

[GingerDust]

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Jan, as you know, I've been more concerned for your well-being than Ollie's for a while now. Some of the things you described previous to this episode pointed to really a serious, dark kind of mental illness called Conduct Disorder. I agree with others. Refuse to take him back. If the things he does are about gaining power, knowing that he physically hurt you won't likely have much real impact on him even if he says otherwise.

I found a really neat forum that might be helpful for you. It is for parents of children who have a conduct disorder. It looks very active with parents supporting each other and exchanging information.

http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f6/

Good luck, Jan. Hang in there.

[mama bear]

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I am here Jan

[Rags]

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Stirls, Ruby and others have offered much the same advice that I would, and they can say it better than me.

You really cannot let his behaviour towards you continue. You need to get help. Can Bonnie assist you by going to the authorities with you now. Not next week.


I have had a massive amount of help over the past month from my MWO friends with some problems I've had. I had to do the work but they were here to help, advice and be a shoulder to cry on and vent to. You can take control. And you wil have so much support here to keep you strong.



PS Ginger Dust. Love the name, love the avatar.

[ladyjan]

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Rags;1273058 wrote: Stirls, Ruby and others have offered much the same advice that I would, and they can say it better than me.

You really cannot let his behaviour towards you continue. You need to get help. Can Bonnie assist you by going to the authorities with you now. Not next week.


I have had a massive amount of help over the past month from my MWO friends with some problems I've had. I had to do the work but they were here to help, advice and be a shoulder to cry on and vent to. You can take control. And you wil have so much support here to keep you strong.



PS Ginger Dust. Love the name, love the avatar.

Hi Rags,
Bonnie came with me in the police van, Ollie & Bonnie's boyfriend went in the other.

She was the one that insisted I make the denoucia(complaint) against him, said "mum if you won't I will)..!
I just hope he gets help for the anger or bi-polar or wharever it is...
I personally think he's just copying what he saw volker do to me...whitout really knowing he's doing it,
as I know he loves me very deeply, same as I do him.
some of you have said I shouldn't compare him to Volker, but I truly think this is part of the problem.
He has NEVER had help for his abuse he suffered and saw...

Thankyou all for talking with me about this:l it does help soo much :h

[ladyjan]

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Help....my heart is broken in milliom pieces

I have made zero progress in the house ..it's a mess all I've done is sleep check in here and go back to sleep
just got up took doggies out, saw Ollie, totally ripped my heart out and tried to seem normal on the phone to anyone...gonna go back to sleep..

still no booze..but I have a bucket of pills I might try, just to get me to sleep, nothing else....

just miss my Ollie sooooo much it's breaking my heart....

[Guitarista]

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Hi Jan,

I hear ya. Take care of yourself.

[ladyjan]

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Guitarista;1273629 wrote: Hi Jan,

I hear ya. Take care of yourself.

Thx Mr G-spot :l

[Guitarista]

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I'm a bit worried when you say 'bucket of pills'.

Are you going to be okay?

[RingingCedars]

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Jan, lack of sleep never killed anyone. You have an addictive personality in a vulnerable situation. I agree with G "bucket of pills" sounds insane. I understand it is very hard, believe me I've had three children ripped from my heart. Different circumstances but I totally get the separation anxiety. Can you play mindless solataire on the computer or some kind of repetitive game til your sleepy? Those pills could easily lead to the booze too. Please plan your actions consciously.

[techie]

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I agree with others. Jan, take a step back. Look at your situation. Are pills the answer? This is my daughter prompting these words. I agree with her. The answer is in your heart. Grasp it and move forward not backward!

[rubywillow]

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Insist he gets help, love, and stay away from the pills. They're a slippery slope too, and make natural sleep harder later. I understand your pain in a small way, but he needs you to be strong and see he gets what he needs now, instead of going down a road you can only imagine. Love you, girl.
Rubes

[ladyjan]

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it's ok bucket of pills is what I call the tub I keep them all in...
have had some silly thoughts, but only that...just had my bac and AD tabs plus two sleep tabs so am on the sofa with my dogs and hopefully will zonk out it a bit..

and then tomorrow clean house....coz since all this happened thursday eve. I've done nothing.... so I think tomorrow will be a day of music turned up loud, windows open and blitz this casa....

I won't know anything till monday...this is the heartbreaker...time tic-toc-tic-toc

and NO no AL lots of chocolate and sweets.....and cookies.. hee hee..but I've lost so much weight recently it doesn't matter I went up to 77 kilos when I first started to stop AL first so I could get my ollie back but also for me..

But I now weigh 60 kilos, which isn't too bad....

hopefully get some sleep in a bit, I so,so,so miss my ollie..I wish I had never ever had phoned them....I feel such a judas..