alcohol blackouts

[Miklo]

alcohol blackouts

I think the first question should be is she a heavy drinker. From my experiance you dont start blacking out untill several years of heavy drinking. I have blacked out many times, though they did not start happining untill I had several years under my belt. Quantity does come into play with a heavy drinker, I could easily drink a couple bottles of wine in a short amout of time and only be buzzed. In order to blackout it must be a good amout of booze consumed over an extended session. I hope that she really did black out and is not just using that as an excuse. Either way she needs to put the bottle down for good!

[Boh]

alcohol blackouts

Sorry to hear that!

Just my experience, I've never ever completely forgot an entire event. I've missed parts of a night, but when reminded, I vaguely remember what happened. I've never understood the whole blackout thing. I always thought of it as an excuse. I'd drink to the point of passing out, but quite often always remember the last drink and conversation.

Hopefully you guys can work things out! AL makes people poor decision makers! Trust me, I have done some horrible horrible things that I never would have dreamed of doing in a million years! I hope you can understand AL was a huge contributing factor in the sequence of events. I'd forgive and move on, hopefully to an AL free life.


Boh

[daisy45]

alcohol blackouts

KTAB;1273231 wrote: No question that she could have drank to blackout. As regards the guy well I have been out drinking on many many ocassions and have been sufficiently capable of getting home and then continuing to drink for hours and the next morning have no recollection of even leaving the pub. No matter how hard I tried I couldnt remember the lost hours even though I was functioning to a degree.
Put it down to one night of bad judgement and move on with your wife, she is probably mortified by what happened and could do with a big hug from the husband she loves. Don't let this mistake ruin what you guys have.

I totally agree with KTAB. It is horrible that this happened; for you and for your wife. I assume she is the one that told you - what does that say to you. Because of the many times I have blacked out and woke to 'the madness of the previous night' I feel for you both. I bet she would do anything to take it back - you sound like you have a solid, good relationship; don't let one night ruin all that you have. Yes, a hug and see what happens......all the best to you both.:h

[shueaddict]

alcohol blackouts

oh, Gosh ... I had so many black outs ( one of the many reasons I want to quit) - I am a 35 y old woman and found that sometimes I would black out easier ( drinking on an empty stomach or while very tired).

My poor husband was most of the time unaware of me being out of it.

Still - I did manage to do some pretty stupid things - from losing keys, falling, tripping, locking the cat in my car to actually responding to unwanted flirting. It is completely possible to really lose chunks of time on the AL cloud doing things that you'd never dream of doing while sober. It is not " in vino veritas" it is "in vino madness".

Don't blame your wife for putting herself in that situation, just support her to evaluate her drinking habits if she's drinking regularly

[madmans]

alcohol blackouts

A big yes on the black outs for me , so many times and places i want to remember , i often here in the news that you can't use alcohol as an excuse and i often think "yes you can" if a person is so wacked out of it on a drug than they can't remember , it has to be taken into consideration .
My wife has forgiven me many times for the things i have done when drunk, most of them i can't remember doing.

[Nelz]

alcohol blackouts

madmans;1275119 wrote: A big yes on the black outs for me , so many times and places i want to remember , i often here in the news that you can't use alcohol as an excuse and i often think "yes you can" if a person is so wacked out of it on a drug than they can't remember , it has to be taken into consideration .
My wife has forgiven me many times for the things i have done when drunk, most of them i can't remember doing.

Guilty, and a big AMEN for forgiving spouses.......:h

[Sammi33]

alcohol blackouts

How horrible for you both.

I can't tell you whats right for you but can only say that as a lifelong alocoholic of 32, drinking for the last 17 years, what we do in blackout does not necessarily refelct our true feelings. I have done unspekable things to the peolpe i love the most. Alcohol is evil. Chances are she was to drunk to do anything, and from the way you desceibe your marriage she would never have wanted to.

All the best xx

[K9Lover]

alcohol blackouts

My almost-daily blackouts were the driving force behind finally quitting. I was at the point where I didn't know what I said, what I did, who I called, who I emailed/texted, much less what the conversation consisted of. I'd wake up daily with anxiety not knowing what mean things I said to who. I'd cringe and hide from my phone/computer for days waiting for things to blow over. I truly believe we do things drunk that we would never do sober. I don't think the "truth" comes out when we're drunk. I've been sober quite a while now and have never had to live down my actions from the night before, because I know what I am doing and stay in control. Blackouts are scary, horrible occurances. I don't think your wife intentionally did anything to hurt you. I hope you can work this out, there may be underlying problems you need to address, but I am sure you can overcome this.
My best to you.
K9