Army Thread Monday 12 March

[one2many]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

I have NO idea where all that just came from...sorry!

[one2many]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Not being asked to the party of Nuala
Is really quite Coola Boola,
I'd rather fall into a pile of stingers,
Than go to her sex party for swingers.
The non invite is no reflection on me,
But on herself coz she has a face like a gee,
I have my own friends who are worth a ton
So Nuala can stick it up her bum!

[one2many]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

mollyka;1279005 wrote: I know EXACTLY where all that came from Oney, I have all the same shite inside ---- and without a doubt ------ better out than in:l Actually, this reminds me of a therapy session this morn. and I for one am feeling way better than I did when I logged on - so :thanks::h

God, to be honest, I had forgotten about most of that.......wow you are right, better out than in!

[stirly-girly]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Oh dear, you've made me cry. First because I know you are a fabulous mother and it is so touching to hear you say how hard you try to be a good Mum and how you try so hard to give them positive messages about themselves. Now give yourself a huge hug because you ARE doing a wonderful job raising those darling children of yours.

I'm so sorry that your mother said those horrible things. No parent should ever, ever say negative things to their children about their looks or their abilities to do something. They should always point out the positive things about what their kids achieve, even if it's less than what other kids can do and let them know how very special each and every one of them is. Tall, or short, cute or ugly, each child is a precious gift to us. It's their personalities that count the most and we, as parents have a lot to do with whether our kids will grow up happy and confident or feeling unhappy and inferior. We can't influence all of their personality traits, I believe that some of them are inherited. We can tho', have a huge influence on how our children view themselves. Good for you Oney, dear, on getting through all that hurt from your mother's words and being the shining example that you are today. You have overcome something that most people wouldn't have been able to deal with and not only that, you are still working on improving those parts of your life that you feel need improvement. You are an inspiration and I salute you. :h

[one2many]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

off to wash me own gruaig! Loves ya Molls x

[one2many]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Awwhhh thanks Stirly, I really do try but I have noticed that I do make comments every now and then in regard to other people, I never really noticed before but if I am totally honest, i know that I DO do it!!

I am a work in progress, still have a lot of inner child work to do, I tend to cover it up and bury it because it is too painful and it is hindering me, so today and you and Molly have spurred me on to open up and get rid of it.

Thank you x

[satz123]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Satz, I have the Abraham perpetual calendar here in front of me..manifesting as we speak!
HURRAH ! You are the first person I have been in touch with since I start reading the books , CD's , DVD,s about 5 years ago !

[one2many]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Ahhh Satz, you have a partner in crime here. Ask and it is Given is always beside my bed!

[stirly-girly]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

mollyka;1279004 wrote: Yes Oney, I know exactly what you mean, but yeah, the positives with our own kids are fantastic. I daily am gobsmacked by the confidence my kids have in comparison to me at their age and younger, particularly Jilly (s'pose being a girl I identify more) -- it is wonderful to watch and listen to, but I'm still full of those doubts and of course exacerbated by the sensitivity that alcoholism seems to be a 'default setting' with us, I still nearly 'look' for implied criticisms of myself, not looks anymore, but the sort of 'nobody likes me' thoughts --- and d'ya'know, I'm going to own up to this one, and it's not a biggie or anything, but I'm still hurt at not being asked to the famous 'Nuala's party' last week --- there -- I've said it:dang:If Nuala was petty enough to not invite you to her party, then she doesn't deserve one more millisecond of your time thinking about her. Picture yourself literally kicking her in the butt and then kick her out of your mind. She ain't worth it.
one2many;1279007 wrote: Not being asked to the party of Nuala
Is really quite Coola Boola,
I'd rather fall into a pile of stingers,
Than go to her sex party for swingers.
The non invite is no reflection on me,
But on herself coz she has a face like a gee,
I have my own friends who are worth a ton
So Nuala can stick it up her bum!

Hahahahaha... Now I have tears of laughter running down my face. Gawd, yer a riot!!!

[satz123]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

BUT!!!!!! some good to come out of that is I am SO vigilant with my own children, always telling them how gorgeous, clever and special they are, their confidence and manners are proof to me I am doing the best job I can. I would never want them to feel worthless and ugly like I did, it is soul destroying for a child.
Oh God Oney - I am in work with tears streming down my face - for the poor hurt child you were. I can relate to a lot of it - I was th fat one ! So maybe a tear for the child I was :upset:

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

My turn for the multiquote.

anon;1278989 wrote: Well I hope she is not practising on you:H I do hope s/he has perfected her/his technique.

She practically perfect in every way or she thinks she is. She just took another armful of blood.

mollyka;1279005 wrote: I know EXACTLY where all that came from Oney, I have all the same shite inside ---- and without a doubt ------ better out than in:l Actually, this reminds me of a therapy session this morn. and I for one am feeling way better than I did when I logged on - so :thanks::h
Hasn't it just. Group therapy. The Army is a real treat to read at the moment. Gawd am I glad I landed me arse here.


BUT!!!!!! some good to come out of that is I am SO vigilant with my own children, always telling them how gorgeous, clever and special they are, their confidence and manners are proof to me I am doing the best job I can. I would never want them to feel worthless and ugly like I did, it is soul destroying for a child.

And Oners, love. I'm exactly the same with my two. My mother was a bleeding nightmare. She could just give me a look and I'd feel 2 inches tall.

one2many;1279007 wrote: Not being asked to the party of Nuala
Is really quite Coola Boola,
I'd rather fall into a pile of stingers,
Than go to her sex party for swingers.
The non invite is no reflection on me,
But on herself coz she has a face like a gee,
I have my own friends who are worth a ton
So Nuala can stick it up her bum!

LMAO

[satz123]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

one2many;1279020 wrote: Ahhh Satz, you have a partner in crime here. Ask and it is Given is always beside my bed!

Good woman. I listen to the CDs all the time while driving. Can't say anthing spectacular has ever happened - but I do beieve in all of it. I think I am soooooooooooo resistant for so many years it will prob take as many years to get rid of it and let the good things in.

It has certainly changed my outlook an many things - including death, organised religion ( which I always knew was dodge ) and sickness.
You are very lucky to get this information at a young age. You can pass the wisdom on to your kids.............:h

[satz123]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Google Abraham - Hicks folks on still. Sorry to bore yiz if it's not your thing ....... YET !!!!

[startingover]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

one2many;1279001 wrote: No Stirls, I understand what you meant. I have too often said...oh my God look at yer wans legs in that shirt....I KNOW I have, Ava would have been listening, I can see how negative that is now, that is an eye opener, THANK you!

My mother was EXTREMELY hurtful to me as a kid, I was VERY VERY ugly, extremely so. I was so small with freckles and when I was 10 all the hairs in one of my eyebrows and eyelashs turned white, so it looked like I had one eye smaller than the other. I was very underdeveloped physically when I hit my teens and my mother used to delight in pointing out curvy girls with boobs to me and say "she is the same age as YOU!"
When I was 12 we were walking down the road and this little kid made a comment to her mother "Mammy what happened that little girls eye?" I remember my mother stiffening and said to me "OMG, did you hear what that child said about you, I hate the way your eye is, people staring at you"

It was like a bullet to my heart. As if it was my fault. I remember getting my photo taken in school and it was a particularly horrible one, I was shitting it to bring it home because I knew what she would say and I was right. She said "How the hell can I hang that up, it's awful"

When she realised that my eyebrow and eyelash could be tinted and I got it done, her reply was "oh you are my little girl again now"

I grew up with terrible insecurities about the way I looked, even when I think back now, I can feel the same pain in my heart and that look on my mothers face when someone commented on how small I was or about my eye. I used to think my mother hated me and only loved my brothers because they were good looking and cute.

Of course my mother has changed and is forever telling me I am beautiful etc etc but it really did affect me as a kid, she had her own shit going on living with a chronic alcoholic tho and I suppose, I bore the brunt of it.

BUT!!!!!! some good to come out of that is I am SO vigilant with my own children, always telling them how gorgeous, clever and special they are, their confidence and manners are proof to me I am doing the best job I can. I would never want them to feel worthless and ugly like I did, it is soul destroying for a child.

That has brought tears to my eyes. You have told me this before, but reading it again must have just been so very painful.
You are a credit to yourself Oney. Amazing woman :l:l:l

Hi guys, quick lunchtime check in

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Army Thread Monday 12 March

Afternoon folks, thought I had better check in. Reading back I see there has been a heck of a lot going on here. On my phone so not going to attempt to quote back, so you will have to forgive. Now then I got to 70 and went and bought some beer, I know I know don't say it. It's been coming for a few days now, I posted on Fri when having a really bad day and on sat I bought beers and had 2, the rest are stil untouched. Didn't realise till he next day it was my 70 blast. Not much else to say really, playing with fire doesn't even come close.