Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

[ladyjan]

Good morning Troopers..
I hope JC is feeling better...

wishing you all a happy tuesday..today is our bad luck day.. coz tuesday the 13th here in Spanish lands, it's the same as friday 13th in UK....

So I'm just hoping it goes better than monday......

So have a happy sober tuesday my friends:l :l :l

[red67]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

Hi Ladyjan, i hope you have a better day today. It's nighttime here and almost time for the bed.

Good day to the Army and i hope you all have a great Tuesday!

[ladyjan]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

Oh dear ....
Messed up again....!

I't's march NOT January.....
oh dear it's coz it waz stored in my pc and I forgot to change the month...

please frogive me...:h

[red67]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

Tis OK Jan, we dont want to go back to January anyways....that was an emotional month for me... Happy March 13th, lets make it a good one ok?

[ladyjan]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

red67;1279376 wrote: Hi Ladyjan, i hope you have a better day today. It's nighttime here and almost time for the bed.

Good day to the Army and i hope you all have a great Tuesday!

Hey Red same to you as well....I don't seem to be having too much going good at the moment...gonna have a read back and see what's been upseting you....sorry I've been in & out & can't maintain a freindly chat..I keep missing what you're all up to..

Gonna have to subscribe so I have a little pencil on my front so I can erase my silly messed up opening threads....

might go and do it now so to get rid of this one...

or just leave everybody confused all day...:H:H

Well it is tuesday the 13th....so that's my excuse...:h

[red67]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

Jan, my story gets a little complicated but i'll try to condense it a little. I have lived with the same man for 21 years (another long story) and he has a 9 year old daughter who is like a daughter to me. On news years day her Mom cut off visitation for no reason out of the blue after 9 years of regular visitation. Her Mom does have issues and lives with a man who is an alcoholic and has mental issues. So my guess is something is not right at her house. We have a lawyer and are fighting to put the visitation schedule back in place. In February our lawyer was able to get every other Satuday to Sunday back and we go to court April 5th to get the rest (and more). In the nine years we never needed the court to get involved and we were all happy. During January she would not even let us talk to her on the phone. January was pure hell to say the least. His daughter is the most awesome 9 year old and we all have such a strong bond. She is still doing great thru all of this and we just shower her with lots of love and attention when she is here. It's still hard but we know its almost over and once the visitation is on paper she can never do this again.

I know you have a 9 year old also and it is such a tender and awesome age. I know your situation is different from mine but in the end i think we know whats most important is that we all do whats best for them.

[red67]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

I also wanted to add that his daughter is one of the main reasons i got sober last year. Although i was a daily drinker, i drank at night (after work on weekdays and after she went to bed on the weekends she was here), I was mainly a depressed and emotional drinker and it was taking a toll on me. No one knew the extent of my drinking. I didnt drink and drive, didnt drink around others, never missed work, but i knew this was not the life i wanted and i was depressed when i drank. Her presence always makes me happy and i want to be here for her forver. Drinking would have led me to an early grave and i could not do that to myself anymore knowing that it would be devastating to her if i continued to do that.

So anyways, here i am almost 1 year sober and happier than i have ever been. I could not imagine going thru these past few months if i were still drinking. I dont know how i would have made it. Sobriety has made me stronger all around.

[ladyjan]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

Ahh red my heart goes out to you..
it it such a difficult situation when children are in the mix...

it's driving me nutso about Ollie..he wants to come home and Bonnie is being very cold with me...

I think a lot has to do with her boyfriend, plus she knows I had been drinking again..

I wish soo much I could stop, and feel good again..it's not vodka, as gonna say "only whte wine with lemonade?....but even that I shouldn't have..

I so,so much want to get back to zero and feeling good..

shit being sober and AL free is such a good, good feelinig....


I tried to subscribe do I can alter the heading of the thread..but can't do it..maybe in the morn I can sort it out..

But I think most Army troopers know wot a muddle I get in....:H

if this get's dropped down and a new thread started, I don't mind, as I think several friends are pissed off with my mess ups........ even tho I don't mean them.....

it's 3:25am here and am as tired as hell..

no doubt another sensible thread will be started and this will drop down....:l:l

night,night from a very sad and tired ladyjan..xxx

[red67]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

Awe Jan i feel so bad for you. I gotta tell you i know you will feel so much better when you quit drinking for good. It doesn't make anything or anyone better when alcohol is involved. Please be gentle with yourself and give it another try. Believe me EVERYTHING is better without alcohol. You gain strength even thru the tough times.

I hope you get a good nights sleep. And dont worry about your friends here, they love you and dont want to see you in pain. Lets have a great day tomorow ok?

[stirly-girly]

Army thread tuesday 13th Jan 2012

ladyjan;1279395 wrote: Ahh red my heart goes out to you..
it it such a difficult situation when children are in the mix...
it's driving me nutso about Ollie..he wants to come home and Bonnie is being very cold with me...

I think a lot has to do with her boyfriend, plus she knows I had been drinking again..
I wish soo much I could stop, and feel good again..it's not vodka, as gonna say "only whte wine with lemonade?....but even that I shouldn't have..

I so,so much want to get back to zero and feeling good..

shit being sober and AL free is such a good, good feelinig....


I tried to subscribe do I can alter the heading of the thread..but can't do it..maybe in the morn I can sort it out..

But I think most Army troopers know wot a muddle I get in....:H

if this get's dropped down and a new thread started, I don't mind, as I think several friends are pissed off with my mess ups........ even tho I don't mean them.....

it's 3:25am here and am as tired as hell..

no doubt another sensible thread will be started and this will drop down....:l:l

night,night from a very sad and tired ladyjan..xxx

Jan, no one is pissed of with you, just very confused because you don't seem to understand, even after all of our suggestions, that you and Ollie need to be apart right now. The sentence above that I've highlighted in blue is the reason. Ollie hates that you're drinking and lashes out at you. Bonnie is angry that you're drinking again after you worked so hard to be sober and get Ollie back. Bonnie knows what's best and that's why she's keeping Ollie with her and won't let him go back to you. Because the violence will just start all over again. We just can't understand why you won't accept that. As for it being Tuesday the 13th and it's considered to be an unlucky day here as well, why don't you make this a lucky day for you and make it your first day AF and start a new life without AL. Just a suggestion but maybe you should think about it long and hard. As long as Bonnie knows you're drinking, she's not going to let Ollie go back to you. And that's the way it should be, in my opinion. We've all tried over and over again to get you to see what needs to be done here. Make this a positive Tuesday the 13th and start on getting well and getting your family back together again.

Red, I hope all goes well with you and that the visitation rights get settled ASAP. And :goodjob: on being sober for one year.