new aphrodisiac???

[tumadre]

new aphrodisiac???

Oh my god you guys are KILLING ME! Thank god you're all funny, or else all this time that I spend here would be chuckling to myself, and I'M NOT that funny!
Tumadre

[tumadre]

new aphrodisiac???

Sami-
If these gals would straighten up and fly right, they'd remember a couple of threads where this very same thing is addressed. I believe one of them was saddened to think that she would never dive off the dresser again, and other assorted gymnastics...Or, was that her husband that was sad? No, I think it was us, cause all the good stories (by good, I mean REALLY, REALLY mortifyingly embarrassing) weren't gonna happen anymore. However, I think it does come back...
Someone tell me it does???

[tumadre]

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And what is horny goat weed, does it work, and if so, can your husband pick up a bit for me, too?

[tawnyfrog]

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Bleu-bleu,

Please don't tell anyone else, but it was 11C. That's the one that works. Kate didn't like him because he had no mussel. I'm not that fussy.

Just ask your friendly waiter.

[cassy]

new aphrodisiac???

For some of us using alcohol has beena daily event. So that became part of the intimate stuff too. Suddenly there is the reality that you havent been intimate without booze on board for years.
It can be scary facing that fact..almost like getting to know your partner all over again.I.m sure there will be advantages and some fears.

I look back in horror at the times I climbed into bed half drunk and behaved badly...enough on that I dont want to go into details.I can only say since moderating and having alcohol free days our relationship is happier and closer. I now sleep better too and wake up feeling happier not having to be embarrased about my behaviours!!!!

[tumadre]

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cassy;94837 wrote: For some of us using alcohol has beena daily event. So that became part of the intimate stuff too. Suddenly there is the reality that you havent been intimate without booze on board for years.

Cassy's right. My husband and I both quit drinking 2 weeks ago, but I'd been moderating (and he hadn't), and I
began to see how much he was drinking and how it affected him. Our sex life, in all seriousness, has been very quiet, way before we cut back. I think all the alcohol had something to do with it, but we've been drinking like this for a few years, so I know that it has had an effect.
We did talk about the fact that we use(d) alcohol to "flirt". He'd say to me "Can I buy you a drink" when we were sitting down to eat or talk. It was our "stop work and focus on each other" signal. We're struggling with regaining some intimacy, so you're not alone. It does help to talk about it, though, (here, and with each other). Not sure if any of this helps you, but we're here for you, despite all the silliness :l
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[tawnyfrog]

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Cassy,

Thanks for your input. Really glad you're finding a happier and closer relationship without the booze. I think it's what we're all looking for. Well done.

[tumadre]

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Fan-
I do know this. Those inhibitions on our affections just melt away with alcohol, gender be damned!

[tawnyfrog]

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Good point, Fan.

Not many blokes I know actually talk about "that stuff".

[tawnyfrog]

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Fan ... and that would be my cue to : "commence snoring ... "

[tawnyfrog]

new aphrodisiac???

OK - I'm obviously going for broke tonight, so I'll commit to another post.

You know ... the most intimate moments I've ever experienced in my life have had nothing to do with sex. They've been moments when you truly feel connected to another human being - in space and in time.

And an aphrodisiac would have just buggered things up.

[tawnyfrog]

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Yup.






OMG ... that's a one word post - and I swore I"d never do that.

[Cashregister]

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yup

[Cashregister]

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Giving it out to the universe - bring it on......

[cassy]

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Its odd when you have been an almost daily drinker to go to bed with partner/hubbie and be sober!!Actually can be embarassing at first. However the plus side is you remember the whole thing and dont fall asleep at the wtong moment,

aAlso have the energy to have a quick shower, get the make up off, perfume on and relax.....rather than a drunken grope that is degrading to both the drinker and the sober partner/hubby.

Problems being intimate soon develop if always under the influence of alcohol..OR maybe the problems with intimacy are there and thats a reason why some people drink.
When sober either way they is now where to run but face up to who you are and learn to love and share intimacy ina more real way.

Good luck to everyone who has trouble in their relationships ...another reason to get sober and stop running away from real feelings and fears.