Did I do the right thing?

[Nursie]

Did I do the right thing?

Thanks everyone,
Well, the police found him at his Dad's house after he had already arrived. So he didn't get into any trouble . He is furious with me for calling and is not speaking to me. He tells his girlfriend he needs to quit, but he doesn't seek the proper channels so I'm sure he feels like he is going crazy.
He won't talk to me.
I guess I'm the bad guy now.

[sunshine_gg]

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:l Nursie

You won't be the bad guy forever. I reckon, he does know he has a problem but isn't quite ready yet to face it head on. We all know how that goes, don't we?

Really relieved he got to his destination without incident.

[KateH1]

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Hi Nursie,
Sadly, many if not most addicts blame those that try to save them from the consequences of their own actions, rather than being grateful. Your brother is in denial. Your brother just got very lucky this time that he did not hurt himself or even worse, an innocent person or persons.

Perhaps this is a sort of blessing for you, to help you with your resolve to distance yourself from him and others in your family that are toxic for you at this time.

Just keep in mind that You Are Not the Bad Guy! Protect yourself and your own sobriety and well being.:l

[Nursie]

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I hate that he cut me out. I was the one that was there every day in the ICU for 6 weeks, washing him, shaving him, seeing him through surgery after surgery. Explaining day after day over and over what happened. Me that took care of him when he came home, cooked and cleaned and got him his walker and medical equipment. Took his guns away when he wa suicidal. Stayed with him when he had nightmares.

Yeah, I hope he gets over it but it still hurts. And ya know what? I will call the cops again if I hear he does it again.

Just sad I guess. But it feels so good to be sober while he and my mom are doing so badly. I feel like sobriety is my loving arms, the arms that they can't hold me with.

[LibraryGirl]

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(((Hugs))) Nursie.:l You absolutely did the right thing. I know he is blaming you now, but that is the addict in him. In the long run, he will forgive you and he will know what you did came out of concern and not malice. You would feel so much worse if something had happened and you did nothing. You took control and used the knowledge you had obtained to do something positive. I.e., inform the authorities that there is an armed homicidal maniac on the loose, and someone could be killed. You had no choice.

I'm so sorry that you don't have support from your family, but thank goodness you were able to find help for yourself. We can't hold everyone's hands through life, much as we would like to, but we can be accountable for ourselves. That's all that's asked of you.

Be kind to yourself now. You did the right thing.

:hLG

[Nursie]

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Thanks Lib. I'm being quiet and serene tonight. I gotta say the hypnosis tapes do really help out alot. Thanks Lav!

[Nursie]

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More Drama...

You can't even make this shit up....

So my sister called me regarding my sister down south (the one who is 8 months pregnant and doing drugs). She told me that she locks her 3 year old in the bedroom whie she does drugs and shoots porn videos with her porn star boyfriend and two prostitutes.

I gave her the number to CPS and to the police and told her to call the police immediately.

Now, depending on what happens, one of us will be taking custody of a 3 year old and a drug addicted newborn.

Is this a sick joke?

[K9Lover]

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Oh Nursie...I am at a loss for words.

This is un-freaking-believable. Those poor children. I hope CPS goes to investigate. And how SICK is it that people get off watching a pregnant woman in a porn? It disgusts me. That poor baby is being exposed to so much shit and hasn't even made it to the real world yet. I will be praying for those poor kids...it's so unfair to them.

Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you Nursie. You have my complete respect and admiration for dealing with all this. You are a star in my book.

Love,
K9

[mama bear]

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OMG Nursie...you sure you aren't making this stuff up???
Ditto K9....if I can help let me know....making phone calls whatever
I am in the South...

[Nursie]

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The devil is punking me. Has to be.

Got a call today that my stepdaughter had a breakdown at school and told them she's planning suicide and has been experimenting with cutting. Fast forward to ER and transfer to pediatric psych unit. Her mother recently had a breakdown as well because she stopped taking her meds. We took custody of her and she stopped taking her meds too apparently.

I searched her room and I smell pot but I can't find it. I have smelled it in there before but even when she hasn't been there in weeks. I have had missing eye drops twice. I found a lighter in her room. I found a hollow pen and a thong underwear. (she is 13).

Do you think the pot smell could possibly be there from the previous owners? Stupid question, right...

My husband is with her at the hospital and I just got home. She said she wants to die. She has researched suicide and gave me verbatim statistics on how once people start taking meds they are more likely to succeed and she thought that was quite interesting.

I'm sure as hell not drinking, but I'm scared. How do I help my little girl? How do I help my husband who is so scared? How do we keep the crazy mother away who is triggering her into an anxious mess?

Sorry for all this guys. Can you believe this? We are good people. There must be some reason why everything is happening at once. I'm praying and staying strong. Any advice would be appreciated as I won't be getting any sleep tonight with our baby in a hospital where they won't let us stay.

[K9Lover]

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Oh Nursie,
I don't even know what to say. My heart broke in two reading your post. Your poor little girl. I hope she can stay in the hospital for a while. Are they going to adjust her medication? Can you get her into counseling (or is she already doing that?) My daughter is 14 and I think I would just DIE if anything happened to her. Just knowing they are in pain is enough to break our hearts. My dear Nursie, please let me know if I can do anything. I am thinking of you and your baby.
Love,
K9

[Nursie]

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Thank you do much K9. She has been admitted to a children's psych center. I hate this.

[Running4life]

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He was endangering the lives of others. You absolutely did the right thing.
When you hold your head above the crowd it gets smacked around a bit!
I feel for you but you definately had to do it.
R4L

[K9Lover]

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I think R4L is still talking about your brother driving.

Nursie - I am glad she is somewhere safe at least. I know it must SUCK so bad. The poor baby. Is she able to communicate what is going on inside her head? Are you able to visit her? All you can do right now is let her know how much you love her. Unconditional love is what she needs, and I'm sure she has it from you. I will be thinking of all of you. Keep baby girl safe :l

[bcineed2]

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Hi Nursie...
I'm really new here, but I read this thread and wanted to lend my support. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all of yours.

Was your stepdaughter already in counseling/therapy etc? You mentioned she was on medication, so maybe she had a psychiatrist? Do you have confidence in the help that she might have been getting?

Here's the good news....she had the where-with-all (spelling? grammar?) to seek help at school, so that's a really, really good sign. She would never have disclosed where she's at unless she was truly asking for help.

The challenge now might be to get her the correct kind of help. Are there clinicians who specialize in child/adolescent therapy or psychiatry? Sometimes, general MD's or practitioners treat kids, but she might benefit from more specialized treatment. Ask the school social worker or counselor for referrals, or friends who might have gone through similar experiences.

There is a website called selfinjury.com which has lots of information about a 'program'(?) called Safe Alternatives (for self injurious people) and it has a list of clinicians in different states. Maybe you can find something there? There's also support for parents and for people who care about people who are self injuring. Hope this helps.

It cuts to the heart when those closest to us (especially kids) are in so much pain and self harming.

I want to close with a big huge congrats for saying hell no to drinking during this incredibly trying time on so many fronts. You have my steadfast respect...and yes...you totally did the right thing by making the phone call that started this thread.