girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

[Guest]

Hi all I am having a tough time with this getting older thing. I am 45 until July. I swear I think one of my drinking triggers was looking in the mirror. I do all the mainstream beauty treatments botox restylane and radiesse,even had a mini lift still look old to me. When I was in my 20's and into my 30's my looks got me everywhere.How do you age gracefully? Somedays I feel like a joke. In fact since I cut down to 2 wine spritzers a night my face looks fatter. (not a good thing) I don't know if I've gained weight, afraid to step on the scale. My measurements are the same. I hate to sound so superficial, there are so many with greater problems. By the way what got this started today was, The Husband called and in coming come from Alantic City today (happy!!) but told me to look pretty when he comes in tonight. Pressure. AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!!!

[Waves 2]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

I will be 50 in a few weeks time. I do feel the face ageing issue. Smiling however, and/or looking lovingly at someone will hide a multitude of sins

[lushy]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Simey, I am sure you are more beautiful than you give yourself credit for. We are always so critical of ourselves. I know I look back at my 20s and kick myself for ever thinking I was fat because I would kill to be back at that weight and have that body back. Since I turned 40 I have gained 8-10 pounds without changing a thing in my diet and it is so frustrating, but it is a good reminder I need to get my butt out exercising. When I am drinking I do not take care of myself as well; do not wash my face at night, wake up puffy and red-eyed and I know that does not help with the aging process.

Appreciate what you look like now and all you have going on for you, because in 10 years when you are almost 55 you will wish you looked like you do today and then be mad at yourself that you did not appreciate it more. My MIL told me that is her biggest life regret (she just turned 80); that she did not appreciate her youth more when she had it. Good life lesson I think.

[Accountable for Me]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Hi jacking this thread.... I am 34 - sorry to step in....

If you work on your internal health and happiness, you will age ever so graciously. I think we are our biggest worst enemy. We hack at ourselves day and night. I got by on my looks too, and I could still. However, I am working on becoming a healthier, more self loving person now. Learning all about the self confidence thing and being comfortable in my own skin. I want to be a person who exudes love and confidence from the inside out, instead of just looking the part!

[Accountable for Me]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

oh and because I certainly wasn't acting the part while drinking!!!

[weemelonhead]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Simey ......you don't have to be over 40 to feel that you look old.... I will be 37 soon, but look about 10 years older after far too long drinking and smoking and not sleeping or eating properly.
I have wrinkles around my eyes and mouth, 'lumpy' alkie skin, and red thread veins covering the fizzog like a road map!!! Yuckitty yuck yuck

Luckily.......God invented make up, and Trinny and suzannah...all of which I use like a drowning man clutching at straws hahahaha......

and botox???? ooohhh you're a braver gal than me....I have a few tattoos, but the thought of anyone jabbing a needle in the fizzog makes my toes curl...
Have you tried IPL...it's a laser thingy that is supposed to recreate a youthful skin without the use of invasive surgery...it also treats thread veins which is why I know about it....one of my future treats with my money that I don't spend on booze is a few sessions of this...I want to erase all the signs of boozing, physical and mental...don't care whether it seems vain or not....if I can put so much effort into my personal, emotional, and physiological well being...I don't see any reason why the old boat race shouldn't get a bit of a going over as well!!!!!

WE ARE BEYYYYOOOODDDIFULLLLL!!!!!!!!!:h

[Guest]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Thanks,for the encouragement Lush & Waves (sounds like a racy novel) I try to embrace the things that are good about ageing; wisdom, experience and my Grandchilren. When I do get to see them. I know I am probally being silly.! When I am with my Grandson people often think I am his Mother,but people have children at all ages these days. So it is what it is!! Lush I know all about the weight thing I gained 50 pounds when I was between 39-42 Lost most of it (low carb) but still have that roll under the bra and right above these stupid low rise jeans that we are forced to wear! I am not fat at 5'10 I wear a size 12. But so hate those rolls. I was in the health food store today and was tallking to a lady who recommended Lipoic Acid for weight loss. Also it helps regulates blood sugars. Bought some, will let you know it works. anywayThanks again ladies I know that you both are beautiful, I can see it in your posts.
Smiles always
mar

[Guest]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Wee, I have Ipl scheduled. Just to get me ready for a Christmas party I did the following
Blue chemical peel
6 Microdermabrasion sessions
botox injected in my crows feet
restylane injected in my tear trowels
radiesse injections around nose and mouth areas total cost $4000 (FEEL GUILTY could have helped so many with that)
I begining to think that drink may not be my only issue

[Accountable for Me]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

I think it is wonderful we have those processes to achieve a look we want. It is easy to fall into a self-made trap and become obessed with it. I know if I had the money, I WOULD have a couple of botox injections myself....

Simey, you are probably gorgeous as heck and you are simply being too hard on yourself. Too many women feel this way and it is sad.

[Guest]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Thanks accountable, I think I just am having a pressure moment when my husband told me to look pretty tonight. You see, he is 7 years younger than me and I made the mistake of asking "were there any pretty girls in Alantic City?" (of couse I know there are.) He is very honest and said Yes, a couple of cute cocktail servers. Insercurity my drinking buddy raised her head, And rather than drink I am posting. I hope I am not to obnoxious for you all. I need to take a cue from my dog Mamie Eisenhower she is not even remotely cute.(sharpei /chow mix) But she has confidence and never takes backseat to anyone.
smiles
mary

[Accountable for Me]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Ahh... Simey, I completely understand. Believe me I do. I always set myself up for hurt too (asking if there were pretty girls around). You know just because I am in my 30's I suffer from the same thing big time. It totally sucks, but I am trying to work on it. Oh, and do you want to know something funny?? I always have been in relationships with men at least 8-15 years my senior just because I want them to think I was their trophy - what does that tell you??? EEK! Here I was trying to help, now I feel like crap again.... doh!

Hang in there!! I am sure he KNOWS you are hot, and all you need to do is start believing it. I know easier said than done.

[KatieSmiles]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

I like my wrinkles..they're cute!

K

[tawnyfrog]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

Oh you spring chickens are really making me giggle!

I'm very glad to report that, even in my 20's and 30's, my looks never got me anywhere. I had to rely on other stuff and that stuff still works and gets better all the time. I've got 10 years on you, simey and you know - I've never been more beautiful than I am right now. Of course, that's just MY opinion.

I have a load of grey hair which I love. I have all the appropriate wrinkles. I have grown into my face. I feel at home. I am probably only 5 pounds heavier than I was at 25 and a hell of a lot stronger. All my bits still work. I don't wear make-up. My beauty routine is minimal. I've heard of botox but I don't even know what restylane and radiesse is. What work can you have done to fix the biggest tellers of age - the hands and elbows? I even love my wrinkled and scratched hands because I know what they've touched and held and built and planted over the past 30 years. They've served me well.

Why do we need to "age" gracefully? Why not just try to "live" gracefully?
I somehow naturally tend to connect with people to whom age is irrelevant. A bunch of teenagers in my life refer to me as their "Grandfriend" and actively seek my company. I may admire some younger women but the women who truly inspire me are much older than I am - women who have grabbed life by the balls and run with it; women who don't feel it's a national disaster to break a fingernail.

Do I want to be 35 again? 45? NO WAY! Yes, there is still crap ahead, pain to endure. There are still situations that I'm not prepared for but I really like being where I am right now because each new hurt will just etch itself into my face like a badge of honour.

I say - 65 - bring it on!!!!

And Simey - quite frankly - if I had a husband who told me to look pretty when he comes in tonight - he'd probably come home to a note and a recipe book. The note would say "Your dinner is on page 33". :H

Them's my thoughts on the subject.

[lushy]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

LOL Tawny!!! Gotta agree with you about the looking pretty comment. Simey, slap him on the head for saying something so dumb and tell him it was from me, would ya?

[sammys]

girls over 40 how are you dealing with it?

I bet you look just a good if not better than any of those cocktail waitresses. I think you should fix your self up buy some new things and have a nice time with hubby. Remember he is getting older to not just you. Don't overdue it though sometimes to much makeup looks worse than to little.


Sammys