What is you trigger?

[hadit]

Just wondering what triggers your craving: He's mine

When I am Tired and stressed.
The time of the day 4.00 or 5.00pm
The day of the week....usually Thursday to Sat Hope everyone is having a great af thursday!

[propartychief]

What is you trigger?

My "trigger" i my fucked up life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ps I really don't believe in "triggers" we are what we are and have to deal with that I have chose to not hide from it anymore.

MUCH LOVE!!

Bob

[Nelz]

What is you trigger?

Back when I was drinking everyday, I would say, waking up was my trigger.

They are just everywhere........bars, liquor stores, beer trucks, commercials, days that end in a Y......its IMPOSSIBLE to totally get away from them IMO. But, it seems that given some time, and some training of the AL brain, they are a bit easier to ignore.

Almost forgot....movies....I dont know what it is, but when I see someone on TV take a shot of whiskey from a shot glass......../white knuckle and lastly, coming home after a hot long work day, wanting that tall cold frosty one.....Thank GAWD for NA beer.

[hadit]

What is you trigger?

Nelz Have u found any good af beers? We don't seem to have many tried some wine and it was ordinary !:thanks:

[ronnie]

What is you trigger?

My triggers are Fridays and believe or not but housework...lol

[Flossie]

What is you trigger?

My triggers would be having a good day, having a bad day, being sad, being happy
so just about anything as an excuse to have a drink oh dear lol.

luv Flossie x

[greeneyes]

What is you trigger?

Believe it or not..... They eventually fade away!

For me they did. Once in a while I get a drinking thought in response to something I've personally experienced. But visual stuff, like liquor stores, ads, things like that - I don't even notice. This is coming from someone who's vacuum didn't start without priming the engine, so to speak (I get you ronnie!). That pavlov response to visuals goes away with time and the emotional ones take a little longer as you get used to navigating life's events (the good and bad) in a natural state. The thought of escaping or enhancing an event diminishes as you begin to own the self-image of a non-drinker. That ownership is a great place to be!

Boozer, attaining the awareness of your triggers is really important in your ability to navigate them. It allows you to take preemptive action; to have your toolbox ready. To make a plan. Onward and upward!

[one2many]

What is you trigger?

Greenie is right.

I very very rarely think of a drink these days and most of the time it does not enter my head...I just don't drink....period.

In the beginning, everything was a trigger..

Having a row with my hubby,
Mondays.
Getting good news
Getting bad news
Not getting any news at all
Waiting on news
PMS
Thursdays
Being Hungry
Being Full
Being Happy
Being Angry
Celebrations.
Tuesdays
Doctors appts
Phone calls from my mother
The kids fighting
Wednesdays
Nights out with friends
Nights in with family
Nights in alone
Weekends
School holidays
Doing kids homework
Fridays
Sunny days
Rainy days
Windy days
Cold days
People who were normal drinkers
Alcoholics
Good programmes on TV
Shite programmes on TV
Takeaway food
Home made dinners
Sundays


I think you get the picture, every one of the above was a trigger for me but they were also AN EXCUSE to drink...I justified my reasons to drink with the most ridiculous excuses...it made it easy, gave my drinking a purpose, gave my conscience a day off and made me sit snugly, glass in hand and say "it's no wonder I drink..look at the state of my life"

While conveniently ignoring the fact that "the state of my life" was due to alcohol and the bits that were not, were hugely exacerbated by it.

There will ALWAYS be triggers, no matter how good your life is, but acting on them is a different matter. URGES pass, they really really do, I wish had realised this in the early days as I would have saved myself such a lot of misery.

Hang tight, recognise your triggers, use the toolbox and know that URGES PASS, that is the very best advice I have ever been given and is why I am sober today xxx

Stay strong x

Oney x

[Pinecone]

What is you trigger?

propartychief;1309474 wrote:
ps I really don't believe in "triggers" we are what we are and have to deal with that I have chose to not hide from it anymore.

I am the trigger, the only trigger that there has ever been. I'm not a big fan of the "trigger" concept. To me, a trigger is something that makes a result happen. Pull the trigger, and the gun goes off. It is not a suggestion or "cue" (I am much more comfortable with the idea of drinking cues or suggestions, since that is a psychological concept). A trigger is the mechanical cause of a mechanical reaction. The only thing that can allow me to drink is me.

So, I'm not concerned with "triggers" in my work at this problem. I'm trying to unload that gun, or put on a safety (to keep the trigger from getting pulled), because the only thing that gun has ever been pointed at was me.

I really hope that I don't come off as flippant, I am really trying not to be "that guy," just what I've experienced. Basically what alot of people have already said: that I had to come to a realization of how and why I was drinking, and by accepting the responsibility, allows me to move past the "triggers" in life. Great thread, Boozer!

[Byrdlady]

What is you trigger?

I'm with you, Pinecone. The trigger was me. I just wanted something to blame other than myself. Oy. Byrdie

[mightymite]

What is you trigger?

A warm weekend day, sunny, blue sky, having worked in the yard all day and that cold, cold glass of Chardonnay around 4:00. Oh and having an animated, fun conversation on the phone.
MM

[DriftyAlison0]

What is you trigger?

Friday and Saturday nights tend to be my trigger. I mainly drank to stupid on Fridays (not every Friday but too many) sometimes on Saturday nights (but not as much since I had church in the morning, only missed church 2 times due to hangovers and still managed to go with a few minor ones. Dunno how I managed to hide it though (ether that or nobody talked to be about it) but I managed to do it). But the triggers are dying down slowly the longer that I stay af. The triggers hit so weakly for me now. I can easily go through them. But I know that if I were to drink again, I would be right back to the beginning.

[Bella]

What is you trigger?

Hi Boozer. Ive read all the responses to yr post. They r all so personal to their findings. I have to say this...Greeneyes and One2many have alot of wisdom to offer...listen to them. Ive been on this mywayout for a while...on and off...I flit but my advice to you is.....If you want it..youll get it.
Triggers?..way too many..even talking about it is a trigger..hehe. lol Good luck my friend and pm me whenever u like. I will reply. I drink but my plan is to enjoy life without alcohol. Bella x

[SAUSAGE]

What is you trigger?

My list is almost identical to One2many's

However my worst trigger was being in the home of someone who (appeared to be - but you never know do you!) successful and happy in life and a moderate "normal" drinker who would pressurise me to have a glass of wine............
And I would think, I can have just one, I can be normal like them, they are very happy / successful and they drink only moderately, I can be the same.......................Can't I ?

[Supercrew]

What is you trigger?

I am not big on the trigger idea, for me, just thinking about drinking was my trigger. And the last couple of years drinking was all I thought about before I quit.

If I was thinking about drinking all bets were off. The funny thing is now that I don't have the thoughts or obsession with drinking I am using my methods of quitting in other areas of my life. The last 2 days I fasted for about 36 hours and basically cleaned out my system. I now find that I have more will power to accomplish other things. I can't believe I am saying this because although I am in pretty good shape I love food, but not eating for that long was very rewarding and made me feel great. I would have never been able to accomplish that or even try to start a fast prior to training my mind to not want alcohol.

Although I hate the fact that I have been a "problem drinker" in the past, the process of quitting and being sober has helped me on so many levels and has really helped me to grow as a person.