How to manage to live alone !

[dixon]

Hi fellows,


Though I am AF for couple of days and still committed not to take until my Liver get back to normal , But seriously feeling lonely .

-I am living abroad alone separating from my kids and wife .They are residing in refugees.
- I am not a citizen of this country but definitely will get that after one year as per contract if I wont do any criminal offence again.
-I am worried about kids and wife but they are not in touch.
-I am now not in touch with community as I am feeling low.
-I have no extended family here to share my problem.
-Either I have any friend who listens me or community.
-I am now dependant on all of you and your advices.
Please let me know if someone has/had like my status or any experience how to eliminate it .
Thanx
Dixon

[kapone12]

How to manage to live alone !

Hiya dixon - it sure does sound like you are in a lonely space at the mo....you are sure in the right place. I hope you can manage to get through a few more "One Day At A Times" with support and encouragement from the good folk here at MWO. I shall pop your family into my prayers, as I'm a recovering alkie who DOES believe in the power of prayer.

please hang in there, dixy - keep reading and posting on MWO and above all else, DON'T pick up the first glass/drink - you CAN do it!!!!

Hugs x

[madmans]

How to manage to live alone !

Hi Dixon, Right now your are feeling alone and sad for yourself but it doesn't have to be this way.
i see your intend to stay off the drink until your liver improves but if you want everything in your life to improve you will have to stay off the drink for good. Now this might seem impossible for you right now, it did for me also when i stopped, thats why we take one day at a time at the start, never looking too far ahead.

You can claim your life back , you can have a better relationship with your wife and kids and have the confidence to go out and meet new people.I dont know any one who will not look on and feel happy for someone who has pulled their life back together after nearly letting drink/drugs destroy it

As for not having people to talk to about this , you have people here that understands there are other places also out there where you could meet like minded people.
Never give up this can be done.

[rubywillow]

How to manage to live alone !

Dix, get out and walk. Good therapy, and get to know your neighbors. Look for support groups where you are anonymous, but can share. But DON'T hole up alone, OK?

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

AF Today !

Hi K/M/R,

Happy to let you all know that I am AF today though I am not at work and at home.I spent my time to clean up my room ....prepared some foods and put in fridge so that I can use them any time. I made different food specially curries.

Kapone12,
I think God is making me tired with old life so that I can live a new and energetic life !
Madmans,
Though and in fact its is long terms plan , I must remain AF until I get back my liver to go further so now committed at least for that period.
Rubby,
I am realising that we could get friends surrounding only being sober..these couple of days gave me a hint.Thanks for your thought at me.

At last: Thinking now that I have to get out whole day out tomorrow and scared how to stick with the AF commitment as there will be no one with me and am freedom to do anything ???
Any idea please !
Dix

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

Going for prayer this morning !

Hi fellows,
Good Morning from UK !
Finally, I am going for a prayer this morning to find some sober and spritual friends this morning !
I have to go for different works for couple of hours then and feared of relapsing ...Need support.I will log on this web though I am out of of home.
I will update wha happens later.
Cheers,
Dix

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

Enjoyed meditation , still no interest in AL...
Going tonight as well.
Relieved a bit!
Dix

[Cinders]

How to manage to live alone !

Dixon,

You sound as if you are feeling your way through your situation fairly well!!

Hang in there, stay AF. I know about the temptation of being alone and no one to judge.

Keep your eye on the prize.

Hopefully, if you stay sober and makes friends who are sober, too, you will end up with a network of friends who keep you busy without the usual temptation of going out to drink.

Glad to hear you are doing well.

Cindi

[~EVA~]

How to manage to live alone !

Good Job! Be proud of yourself. I find that keeping busy elimates the thoughts of drinking. Keep up the good work!

[nancy]

How to manage to live alone !

loneliness

Sometimes all you need is one good friend and it will come in time. I think also that when you are lonely it's sometimes easy to forget the things that genuinely give you pleasure even if you are alone and dwell on the lack of relationships. So books, film, sports. The social hobbies might be best because over time you will make better connections.

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

Ciders/Eva/Nancy,
I am AL free today for the first time in 5years in the UK when getting out alone for whole day.I used to pop in different Pubs fueling AL and got home binge.
Today I have no craving this is all because of yours other friends support.
Whenever I feel very low I used to come here and save life with the words of community fellows.
This time liiver also warned me..really.
On the way of soberity.
Health is now good,dark yellow urine becoming transperant.Fetigue gone and hope arises...
Talk to you again.
Dix

[Arial]

How to manage to live alone !

Hi

hi Dixon,

Congratulations on such a positive start. Don't shy away from additional help such as doctor/meds/hypnotic tapes from MWO, etc. - it's a battle and we need to arm ourselves - the 'toolbox' thread at the start of the 'Weekly abstainers' is a useful link to a whole ton of ideas of things that worked for other people when starting on their journey to sobriety. And many, many people have been in the same situation, only to find they have new lives now. It's so worth the struggle and effort, and well done on taking the 'first step of 1000 miles'.
Once you find yourself sober, life can look better, and what previously looked like lonely isolation from the bottom of a bottle, can now start to be seen as new opportunities and dreams for your future.

Good luck and keep posting!

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

Hi Arial,
Our community hates thoes who are addictive so some people take it negative commit sucide or go on and on until died and others who have positive thinking and know there are supporting communities like MWO seek solution.They want to be unique one cause they want to show the society it can be conquired.
Luckly I have information about support bodies so still hoping to conquire this habit.
I will go through tool box as you suggested as I have a subscription as well.
How about you?
Dix

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

Now ,I remember the past !

Actually,
I went back to my threads and feel the difference of the period of misusing AL when I was thinking I doesn't have any life in future .I was truly alone and couldn't think anything good with out AL .I am now in good mental status even of 25 days AF.

So I must confess life back and be committed towards the life with out AL.
Dix

[dixon]

How to manage to live alone !

Hi fellows, No craving for al but feeling lonely and depressed,have no desire to do anything just regreting tragrdy with children and wIfe.Still,either I can accept her or can believe other woman to re-marry.What to do?. Now lying down on the bed and watching out the thoughts.Post you again what I will feel after a while.. Thanks Dixon