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    Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

    A tiny/short coping way to craving !

    Once you have a CRAVING . Go into it rather than escaping into some activity, into some occupation, rather than going to see a friend or to a movie or turning on the radio or the tv. Rather than escaping from it, turning your back towards it, drop all activity. Close your eyes, go into it, see what it is, why it is — and see without condemning it, because if you condemn you will not be able to see the totality of it. See without judging. If you judge, you will not be able to see the whole of it. Without judgment, without condemnation, without evaluation, just watch it, what it is. Look as if it is a searching of a joy, sadness/happiness, a cloud, dark,a habit,a romance,a poison,a slow death, but look at it with no judgment so that you can see all the facets of it.
    Finally it will fed up itself.Never try to stop it just watch..watch..and feel .

    Dix.
    A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

    2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

    Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

    2013 : So many ups and down !!

    2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

    #2
    Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

    One more line :

    When craving comes, accept it. Listen to its song. It has something to give to you. It has a gift which no other can give to you your sober life , only craving can give it.

    Dixon
    A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

    2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

    Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

    2013 : So many ups and down !!

    2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

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      #3
      Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

      Boy I needed that Dixon.
      Dropping all activity...right now. It's been tough.

      Xxoo
      On My Own Way Out Since May 20, 2012
      *If you think poorly of yourself, you can fail with a clear conscience.
      https://www.mywayout.org/community/f11/tool-box-27556.html tool box
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        #4
        Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

        Well, Dixon, whatever works to keep one from drinking, I say go with it!

        But, I can tell you that for me, "going with the drinking thoughts" was not the way for me. At the same time, I will say that I also did not dwell on drinking thoughts, urges and cravings by judging and condemning them. In fact, what worked for me and still works for me is to get busy doing other things, taking a walk, reading a book and focusing on All The Positives that I Get from Living Sober. I find that by diverting my attention and focusing on the Positive, I can work through these cravings. This particularly helped during the first couple of years of sobriety. Fortunately, these days, the drinking thoughts are quite rare!

        Best Wishes to All!
        Kate
        A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes~Cinderella

        AF 12/6/2007

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          #5
          Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

          "You can't stop the birds from flying over your head, but you can stop them nesting on it"


          I think that way about cravings, let them pass through!

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            #6
            Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

            KateH1;1323084 wrote: Well, Dixon, whatever works to keep one from drinking, I say go with it!

            In fact, what worked for me and still works for me is to get busy doing other things, taking a walk, reading a book and focusing on All The Positives that I Get from Living Sober. I find that by diverting my attention and focusing on the Positive, I can work through these cravings. T

            Best Wishes to All!
            Kate
            Kate,
            I agree with you that altering the thoughts and activities ,keeping us busy are just a trick to hide/suppress them for a short period.In my opinion it is like a pain killer for immediate relief.So we can use them for short period may be in initial period but for the long-term solution craving must not have a place to stay in our mind and body.I have heard many sober people are relapsed why ? .Just because they suppressed the thought ,craving altering the activities for short time.Craving is still there in the corner of mind/brain and it comes back when you are weaker (in any case lack of love,money,social status,job ,lost of beloved one etc.) and you relapsed easily.
            My points is that Craving should be fed up for the long term so why we need to be aware of it /watch it /suffer from it in depth for the moment .And all this only happens when you are alone /in silence and not in the crowd.How much do we suffer we should watch it in silence so it turns the craving to death and never comes back.Jesus, Buddha, Muhammad ,Krishna,Sukarat or say scientists etc. all have done miracles in their silence, being alone and suffering from pain and being aware of that .
            So my thought is to suffer it ,cry ,weep,alone while you are sober and you will find the way out for ever.The something applies for anxiety.That's why long-term sobriety can be achieved from spirituality ,hypnosis or meditation just watching it again and again.

            These are my thoughts as I have been used this technique to eliminate my grief in the past.
            Any more ideas please .
            Dixon
            A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

            2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

            Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

            2013 : So many ups and down !!

            2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

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              #7
              Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

              scottishman;1323090 wrote: "You can't stop the birds from flying over your head, but you can stop them nesting on it"


              I think that way about cravings, let them pass through
              !
              I am with you Scottish,

              If we try to stop cravings they start resisting us and becomes stronger so what we can do is just let them go away their-self . Neither you should respect them nor neglect .Just feel them,watch them, be aware of them and feel their effects on your body and mind.
              They will fed up if you don't give any preference and place to remain.

              Lets share more !
              Dixon
              A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

              2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

              Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

              2013 : So many ups and down !!

              2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

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                #8
                Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                Dixon, I think that you misunderstood, my point. I am definitely not talking about "Surpressing" anything. But, one does have a choice between surpressing and dwelling on thoughts and feeling. I definitely believe in the power of "meditation", and I have practiced meditation for many, many years. In meditation, one does not dwell on and disect thoughts, but rather let them pass through. In time, by swelling on the positives and creating new brain pathways, new coping skills, we are released from the agony of addiction. I have seen this happen in my own life....now, well into my fifth year of living sober, the old pathways have been replaced with new, more effective and healthy ways of living and thinking.

                Again, you of course, are free to do whatever works for you, but I wanted to also share what has worked for me and many others that I know with a great deal of sobriety.

                Be Well!
                A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes~Cinderella

                AF 12/6/2007

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                  #9
                  Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                  Hi KateH1,
                  Sorry for misunderstood..of course we should use whatever works for us.Here my insight is how to eliminate this evil habit from the its root !

                  I am too much happy take an opportunity to congratulate you for your fifth years sober life .I wish it would continue for infinite.
                  Talk to you again.
                  Dix
                  A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

                  2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

                  Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

                  2013 : So many ups and down !!

                  2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

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                    #10
                    Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                    Neat post Dixon,

                    I never ran from the feelings or tried to suppress them, but I tried to associate them with different emotions, so when I felt the cravings/obsession I would remember how bad I felt the last detox I had...in fact I more than remembered, I tried to feel those feelings again as strong as I could. I got so good at it that the thought of drinking made me feel physically ill.

                    It's funny because I'm am doing a similar thing currently while I am trying fasting on and off for the last few months. When I get the hunger pains and I start obsessing about food that I see on TV. I have been able to transform those feelings into feeling of happiness and healthiness. Basically when my stomach rumbles I smile and see myself losing weight. Basically I can't change that physical feeling, but I can change my perception of it.

                    Great post!

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                      #11
                      Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                      Supercrew;1323141 wrote: Neat post Dixon,

                      I never ran from the feelings or tried to suppress them, but I tried to associate them with different emotions, so when I felt the cravings/obsession I would remember how bad I felt the last detox I had...in fact I more than remembered, I tried to feel those feelings again as strong as I could. I got so good at it that the thought of drinking made me feel physically ill.

                      It's funny because I'm am doing a similar thing currently while I am trying fasting on and off for the last few months. When I get the hunger pains and I start obsessing about food that I see on TV. I have been able to transform those feelings into feeling of happiness and healthiness. Basically when my stomach rumbles I smile and see myself losing weight. Basically I can't change that physical feeling, but I can change my perception of it.

                      Great post!
                      Sorry its not working with you .Really alcohol addiction looks minor and simple initially but it has a trick to kill the people in slow phase giving longer troubles than the other strong drugs.here is another tips ,
                      Dont try to give up the bad habits but try to add new good habits.

                      It takes a time but comes in track for sure as I have read out /seen so many successful stories.
                      To add more ,

                      First thing in the morning, imagine yourself tremendously happy. Get out of bed in a very happy mood ? radiant, bubbling, expectant ? as if something perfect, of infinite value, is going to happen today. Get out of the bed in a very positive and hopeful mood, with the feeling that this day is not going to be an ordinary day ? that something exceptional, extraordinary, is waiting for you; something is very close by. Try and remember it again and again for the whole day. Within seven days you will see that your whole pattern, your whole style, your whole vibration, has changed.

                      Keep trying and please find the way out which matches with you.Wish you all the best.
                      Dix
                      A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

                      2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

                      Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

                      2013 : So many ups and down !!

                      2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

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                        #12
                        Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                        Huh???

                        It is working for me. And it has been working for me for the last 2 years. This is how I accomplish hard stuff in my life...by changing my perception.

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                          #13
                          Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                          Supercrew;1323365 wrote: Huh???

                          It is working for me. And it has been working for me for the last 2 years. This is how I accomplish hard stuff in my life...by changing my perception.
                          Hi ,
                          Its my pleasure to know your progress , I will try to follow you .
                          Cheers
                          Dix
                          A learned habit surely be unlearned !!

                          2012: Continuous AF for 7 months from May to Oct.

                          Big Relapses : 6th November and 12th December 2012.

                          2013 : So many ups and down !!

                          2014: Has a conviction to stay with a healthy life.

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                            #14
                            Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                            escaping and diverting

                            I think both Dixon and Kate have good points here. Dixon, I think what you are saying makes sense in some ways. Buddhist philosophy has a lot about not trying to run away from unpleasant things, because then they only get stronger. You have to befriend those things that cause you pain or that you are afraid of.

                            Having said that, there's much to be said for distraction in another activity. I don't see it as distraction anyway. There are a lot of enjoyable things to do and you may forget that when caught up in an addiction. It's also supposed to be good to replace one habit with another. But hopefully the new habit is healthy. I know that distraction or replacement, whatever you want to call it, works. You may want to go to your addictive substance for solace, but rather than sit and ruminate on it by yourself, wouldn't it be better to call a friend for support?

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                              #15
                              Simple way to surfing/coping with a craving !

                              Since Buddhism is used here as an example of "not running away from ones obstacles or unhappiness," I would like to clarify this a bit. In my studies in this philosophy and practice, one is is taught to let all negativity to pass through, replacing such with positive thoughts and deeds. No where does Buddhism teach that we should sit and dwell on pain or negative thoughts. During meditation one is taught to use our breath and concentrate on our breath when thoughts cross our minds....this centers us. By using this technique, we are not in any way "suppressing pain or negativity", but we are also not allowing these thoughts ANY Power. I have found this practice to be very helpful!
                              A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes~Cinderella

                              AF 12/6/2007

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