So...the weekend is almost here...

[LibraryGirl]

So...the weekend is almost here...

Kradle123;1329637 wrote: Hey K9
I'm sorry I didn't mean to make lite of the physical harm we can do to ourselves when drunk. Really I didn't.
I was more trying to emphasize the psychological process I had had go thru. Am still going through.
It did remind me of an incident though where After a party at my house the next afternoon i had this cut on my hand and I my girlfriend said, "how'd you do that?" and I looked at her and I looked at my hand and said, " you know, I honestly don't know..."
And I swear to God instead of looking aghast she looked...relieved like, " Wow, you too!" Misery loves company
Anyway, sorry...

I can't tell you how many times I had to explain "accidents" when I went to work the next day after a drunken night. Or didn't go to work the next day. One night I got up to go in the kitchen, apparently (I don't remember the first part), and ran smack dab into the door frame full speed and cut my head open. I had to call a friend to take me to the emergency room for stitches. Another time, I fell flat on my face in my bedroom after coming out of the shower...tripped over my towel, had no "instinct" to break my fall and might have broken my nose, I'm not sure...blood everywhere...and yet another time, stepped too short on the brick steps outside, going for a walk in the dark one night, god knows why or where, and cut the back of my foot wide open...horrible, and yet another emergency room trip. Surprisingly avoided death by accident while drunk, but only by pure luck...hit a tree head on with my car, drunk.

[Supercrew]

So...the weekend is almost here...

briseus;1329667 wrote: Supercrew when you say daily positive action what do you mean? Can you give me some examples please?

Yes Ma'am!

Daily positive actions include but not limited to:

1. Making a promise to yourself that you will not drink today..no matter what. (Writing it down daily will also help).

2. Planning out your day in advance, Including healthy things you plan on doing, like working out, reading a book, researching alcohol abuse, meditation, self -hypnosis. Write this plan out daily as well.

3. Planning things in the times that you would normally drink. ex. I started a daily workout plan that I started everyday at the same time I used to start drinking.

4. Have a daily plan on how to get out of drinking situations. I knew if I was going to go to a party or out with friends I had to have an excuse for not drinking to begin with. The first one I used was the doctor told me I had to stop because of some medical issues. Then I had a diet coke in my hand so no one would ask me if I wanted a drink. Then I had an exit strategy if I felt a drinking craving coming on. I had to pick up my kid or whatever. I had this all planned out in my head before I left the house.

5. Then I focused on what I wanted to happen everyday. Basically I took 10 minutes in the morning and I meditated on how my day was going to go. I focused on sobriety and happiness and healthiness.

Basically I became very proactive on a daily basis to create the day that I wanted to happen before it happened.

In the process I got healthy, lost alot of weight, read alot of books, and got over my obsession with drinking. I had to stay active, and when I wasn't active and a craving came on I would either eat or workout or take a nap or go to bed for the night.

The key is to try to stay away from an idle wandering mind, and focus on getting things accomplished everyday. I fixed my finances, painted my home, worked out....

These are all ways to take positive action daily, and the only way to really do it is to plan it out on paper. Then not only do you get the satisfaction of not drinking that day, you also get the satisfaction of getting stuff accomplished that you wouldn't have done if you were drinking.

Be proactive, plan your days, write it down, focus on your plan, act on your plan, and be good to yourself.