Hello Troopers!!
Just back from a very long walk around parts of our town that I've never seen before. I quite enjoyed myself.
Warning!! This is a long multi-post. Sorry, but I wanted to share a couple of things with Molly that might help her deal with grumpy Joe.
Hope your hubby's mood improves soon. It must be very demoralising for you to share a house with someone in a grumpy mood like that. Try and do the best you can to ignore it.Reccie, losing a day is not good. I've lost lots of nights, but never a whole day. You gotta stop poisoning yerself PandaMan. I've posted myself and have seen others post about the process of having a drink. There are about 10 steps you go through when you decide to go out and buy AL before you actually take that first drink. And you can stop yourself at any point. And for those of us who always have AL in the house due to other family members, the same thing applies. From the minute you pick up the bottle til you take the first sip, there are five movements you make that you could stop at any time. Put the beer back in the fridge, put the glass back in the cupboard and even if you've already poured the first drink, you can pour it down the sink. At each step, ask yourself if what you're doing is what you truly want to do. If it is, carry on. If it isn't, then reverse it and go do something else. Make yourself some comfort food, go for a walk, crack open a good book, watch a movie. Anything to get over the urges. Or come and post here and tell us how you're feeling. We're always here for you. :huggy
mollyka;1328914 wrote:
Yes Joe's moods are hard to take, and demoralising it is - just have to try and realize it's his problem - not mine ---- like with lots of things however, easier said than done Many wise words from peeps here tho and I'm feeling a lot better!
Evenin Zenners!Yes, coming here and talking helps. Even coming here and not talking helps me sometimes if I see that someone else has a problem that makes my blahs seem small in comparison. Or I might see something that makes me laugh and then I forget about the shite.
The chit chat is what I need too, I had forgotten what a help it is. Well I hadnt forgotten, but I have just not had or made the time for it.
Virtual hugs are good too
Zenstyle;1328957 wrote: Joe sounds like he's being a right fecker Mollers. Would it do you any good to blast him? Sometimes shouting your head off at them for their moodiness shocks them out of it...
Edit: I don't mean "men"... I mean moody feckers in general...
mollyka;1328959 wrote: OH FFS ----- I achully had to read back to find out why you were telling me it was morning ---- oh latherin heart --- I really did
Zenstyle;1328962 wrote: I'm fine Starty. Pulling myself out of the quagmire again! ) With a different mindset this time. I've truly accepted the fact that I'm an addict and I'll never be able to drink socially like the rest of my friends and acquaintances so I've let go of the dream. Had a good hard look at myself, wasn't pleased with what I saw, and realized just how much AL alters my personality for the worse and how it sucks the very essence of myself out of me and leaves me a shell of myself. That's where I'm at right now in a nutshell!
I was there yesterday drinking my diet coke (I came up with a stellar reason! Told them I had a hangover! hahaha!!!) chatting away, playing pool, and you know what... it was no better or worse than doing the same thing with a drink in my hand. So, really, what am I missing out on? A hangover? Feeling disconnected and discombobulated the next morning? I think it's going to be a win-win situation as my body will be very thankful if it doesn't have to process the poison.Good to hear you saying that Zenners. You really have taken some giant steps in the right direction over the past few days.
mollyka;1328980 wrote: OK - finally decided to do SUMMAT today --- gonna iron and make dinner - yuck - back laters x
startingover;1328981 wrote: I shall go dogging then
Hiya ExPatty!! Almost missed you there. )
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