How to find peace in each day when not drinking

[neney]

Hi everyone,

I would really love to hear from people who have stopped drinking, or controlled their drinking and actually find peace in each day without needing to 'drink their worries away'. Obviuosly the drink doesn't take away any worries but temperarily 'numbs' them , only to return again the next day. Any suggestions for calming the mind and feeling that this moment is really just fine without the constant nagging of an uneasy anxious feeling that takes away enjoyment for living. This is my main battle in not wanting to drink.
Many thanks in advance.:thanks:

[WineWrangler]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

neney, I try to end each day on a positive note. Give my parents or an old friend a call, meditate, go for a walk by the river, take some photos, appreciate the small things, a healthy diet and some exercise helps a lot . Change the things we can and accept the things we can't. Accept the fact that there are a lot of inconsiderate incompetent people out there with bad intensions. Those drinking thoughts faded fairly fast for me, do something good for yourself everyday.

WW

[Lavande]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

neney,

The MWO Hypno CDs were instrumental in helping me learn to relax without AL!
If you have them, use them. If not, look for something similar on the internet ~ it's out there.
Developing an attitude of gratitude helped replace the feelings of deprivation. Do whatever you have to to remain positive

Wishing you the best!
Lav

[Unwasted]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

Neney, I read, cook, induldge in some mindless television and swim - those are the things that relax me. I also drink herbal teas and make some special drinks, like stawberry basil lemonade. It feels like a treat and I look forward to it and the tea just like I used to look forward to alcohol. It's amazing how you can retrain your brain if you really want to. I also meditate like WW. Even for just a few minutes per day.......sometimes it's as little as a few deep breaths.

Best to you!! Keep it going because sobriety will give you peace whereas drinking alcohol gives you chaos, misery, and an endless cycle of torment.

xx,
UN :lilheart:

[allswell]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

Neney,

I've gradually built a mental wall between alcohol and myself through changing routines, getting back into and starting new interesting activities, and distancing myself from the people, places, and things which I associate with alcohol. I have never been more at peace, ever! Give yourself the time necessary as it won't happen overnight but will happen and when it does life can be unbelievable.

[caper564]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

Hi
hmmm, good question. when i have a stressful situation (uisually money or lack of) i instantly think of AL but i force myself to remember that drinking is a temporary relief and the problem will still be there the next day only worse. it will now include the feeling of guilt. I drink lots and lots of decaf herbal tea.
caper

[Byrdlady]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

This is a good question! My MindPeace came when I committed to being totally AF. As long as I had a choice, there was chaos in my mind. When that choice was removed, peace filled in. I would have NEVER imagined myself to be an advocate of NO AL....but my head was a mess until I got AL out. Totally out, no matter what and no matter who. And of course, true peace comes with time. I am well over a year now, and I've never been more at peace with who I am and my place in the world. I could never say this while drinking because it was in control of my thoughts and actions. I don't think it is possible for 'us' to ever find peace with Alcohol. Like WW said, acceptance of this is a big step in the journey. B

[Tipplerette]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

Byrdlady;1330201 wrote: This is a good question! My MindPeace came when I committed to being totally AF. As long as I had a choice, there was chaos in my mind. When that choice was removed, peace filled in. I would have NEVER imagined myself to be an advocate of NO AL....but my head was a mess until I got AL out. Totally out, no matter what and no matter who. And of course, true peace comes with time. I am well over a year now, and I've never been more at peace with who I am and my place in the world. I could never say this while drinking because it was in control of my thoughts and actions. I don't think it is possible for 'us' to ever find peace with Alcohol. Like WW said, acceptance of this is a big step in the journey. B

That is an awesome summation of the way I hope to feel someday; to have found my place in the world. Thanks Byrdlady.

[DriftyAlison0]

How to find peace in each day when not drinking

I find peace in that I am in control of me and I don't have to worry about drinking to much and/or acting dumb. I find peace in that every morning is a hangover free morning and every night is a sober night. I find peace in that I still have my friends, family, and the ability to go out and not drink. I find peace in that I have more fun now that I am not drinking then when I was. When I was drinking I had my fun times, but I always paid for it the next day, now that I am sober, I can have fun, and not pay for it in the morning.