FRIENDS FAMILY: Before After Drinking

[persimmon]

FRIENDS FAMILY: Before After Drinking

Wise words, Juja!

"My family drains me, and I'm learning to distance myself. I don't rescue my younger sister, and I don't make calls to relay the latest drama. It's taken me a long time to learn that.

Oh, yes, the lending of the helping hand, thus being the perfect martyr. I got so sick of myself I could hardly bear it.

I only ask for help when I need it, and when I determine it's time for others to step up. Still, I feel guilty when I do. I'll get beyond that, too.

I am a child of workaholics, which is no different from COAA. Each avoiding something in his/her own ways, with ridicule and criticism abounding.

Hugs to you, kind woman."

[Kradle123]

FRIENDS FAMILY: Before After Drinking

Juja;1495482 wrote: You don't seem very dysfunctional to me. Seriously.

Well..maybe compared to all my sisters I'm not doing to badly!
Your right I shouldn't say these things about myself. Somewhere down the Al lane I got it in my head that if I thought and said bad things about myself then I'd beat my family to it...

You are wise to distance yourself. I was probably your younger sister at one time as my older ones were always 'rescuing ' me. Did more damage in the long run IMO . So you are way ahead.

Thank you for all the encouragement, sweetie
:l:h

[Juja]

FRIENDS FAMILY: Before After Drinking

Kradle123;1495833 wrote:
Your right I shouldn't say these things about myself. Somewhere down the Al lane I got it in my head that if I thought and said bad things about myself then I'd beat my family to it...

:l:h

Good Lord, Kradle, I do that constantly! I'm tired of that, too. What do you say, we give that one up?