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**daisy45** · July 25, 2012, 04:12 PM

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Dixon, sorry to hear you're feeling under pressure. I don't feel equipped to give you advice on this one. Nor do I know how things work in your culture; but I do know you need to protect yourself and your sobriety.
I hope someone can help you out. Take care.......

**mama bear** · July 25, 2012, 04:15 PM

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I donlt think someone else killing themselves b/c of you is a crime......maybe she is not serious but trying to scare you??

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 04:41 PM

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daisy45;1354800 wrote: Dixon, sorry to hear you're feeling under pressure. I don't feel equipped to give you advice on this one. Nor do I know how things work in your culture; but I do know you need to protect yourself and your sobriety.
I hope someone can help you out. Take care.......

Hi Daisy,
I definitely will keep up my sobriety and noted your motivational words as I highlighted in red.I hope someone having such a problem or experience will lend me a big hand !!
Lets hope to sort out ...
Anyway I wont be able to solve all of them without a sober life .
Dix

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 04:47 PM

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mama bear;1354802 wrote: I donlt think someone else killing themselves b/c of you is a crime......maybe she is not serious but trying to scare you??

Hi Mama,
I am just worried about killing herself and its consequences to my life !!!
She might have recorded our telephonic talk when we had a romance, sharing of life ,future plan and my commitment of marriage to her..
I want to help her to make her alive and happier but don't know how can I manage all of them at a time ?

What would happen if she kills herself ?? .. you say it is not a crime ,let's see how do others say ??
Dix

**mama bear** · July 25, 2012, 04:51 PM

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it would be horiible Dix, don;t get me wrong, but you have done nothing illegal...but I am NOT an attorney

**K9Lover** · July 25, 2012, 05:42 PM

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Please correct me if I am wrong Dixon, but aren't you already married? That means you can't marry the new lady. Tell her you are trying to work things out with your wife. People that threaten suicide as a means to secure a relationship rarely mean it. I'm no expert, just speaking from what I've seen in the past (several times).

Good luck.

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 05:42 PM

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Yes, you are right Mama,
But I have no control others life so may not be a crime !!
If I wont be AF now , think what would be for me ??? OMG !!
Thanks MWO and you all ,its really an ordeal for me !!!
Everything happening together .
Anyway I have to manage .
Thanks for your support.
Dix

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 05:54 PM

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K9Lover;1354846 wrote: Please correct me if I am wrong Dixon, but aren't you already married? That means you can't marry the new lady. Tell her you are trying to work things out with your wife. People that threaten suicide as a means to secure a relationship rarely mean it. I'm no expert, just speaking from what I've seen in the past (several times).

Good luck.

Yup , K9 I am a married man with two grown up children.
I felt alone , once we broke up and started living separately and made a relationship to new lady.I was trying to know each other but she became too close due to my name and fame back to country of origin.She insisted me time to time and I have leaned with her to make me comfortable at that time.When I started a sober life, I can now live alone as well so don't think of any life partner other than the old one....
I believe change is not always a solution !!
I have done all these shits at a time in my life time !!
K9, how you doing,are still on antabuse ?
Dix

**Sunbeam** · July 25, 2012, 05:54 PM

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Not my particular area of expertise, but I don't think you want to marry someone who emotionally blackmails you.

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 06:03 PM

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Sunbeam;1354855 wrote: Not my particular area of expertise, but I don't think you want to marry someone who emotionally blackmails you.

Having a long breathing of comfort Sunbeam !!. But it would be a horrendous and shocking moment for me if somethings happens to her. do you think people allow me to live further ?
Dix

**Sunbeam** · July 25, 2012, 06:29 PM

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I agree with K9, people who say these things don't carry through, you need to believe that.

**Kradle123** · July 25, 2012, 06:31 PM

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You met the 'new lady' Dixon while you were drinking and clearly she is emotionally unstable. She needs a counseling NOT a new husband, IMHO .

I do not know of any country in this day and age which would arrest you or jail you for someone else's suicide... Maybe in the middle East , in a tribal community perhaps but I think you said you live in the UK.

You have gotten Sober and unfortunately have to face bringing an emotionally unstable person into your life. I am really sorry. Her threats if she is serious, would notvstop ifvyou married her. They would get bigger and weirder...

Trying to rebuild with your wife looks like the most , best choice for you though the hardest.
if you are stil worried for your safety or your reputation, go see an attorney. Tell you're ffriends what s happening too. maybe even your wife?

Here in the US when someone threatens your livelihood like that it borders on extortion.

I know I sound grim but you have worked SO HARD. I hate to see this clearly awful woman who cares more about herself than you, threaten you sobriety and family.

Hugs,
:l:h

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 06:43 PM

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Kradle123;1354875 wrote: You met the 'new lady' Dixon while you were drinking and clearly she is emotionally unstable. She needs a counseling NOT a new husband, IMHO .

I do not know of any country in this day and age which would arrest you or jail you for someone else's suicide... Maybe in the middle East , in a tribal community perhaps but I think you said you live in the UK.

You have gotten Sober and unfortunately have to face bringing an emotionally unstable person into your life. I am really sorry. Her threats if she is serious, would notvstop ifvyou married her. They would get bigger and weirder...

Trying to rebuild with your wife looks like the most , best choice for you though the hardest.
if you are stil worried for your safety or your reputation, go see an attorney. Tell you're ffriends what s happening too. maybe even your wife?

Here in the US when someone threatens your livelihood like that it borders on extortion.

I know I sound grim but you have worked SO HARD. I hate to see this clearly awful woman who cares more about herself than you, threaten you sobriety and family.

Hugs,
:l:h

Kradle123,

Your words seem a bit of bitter but very true in reality.I also want to live in reality but becomes too emotional time to time.
How inspiring words you gifted to me !
You are a star Kradle , keep it your journey up, world is in need of people like you,what you need is just to be sober always .
Thanks,
Dix

**dixon** · July 25, 2012, 06:46 PM

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Kradle and all,

I love her as a social worker and not a future wife because she helped me out a lot to see me a good man again.
So how can I trouble her ?
Dix

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