One Step at a Time - September 2012

[Sunbeam]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Mama, come on up north! We are leaving Tuesday on a 12 day vacation to Cape Cod. The house could be yours. No dog care would be involved, she is travelling with us. Bring your sweatshirts, it is getting down in the 40s at night.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hello everyone.....

Mama - so sorry about the fight. I know that Scott & I have had fights about that before too. Casey is spending the weekend with us and I had to warn him that Scott is on so much medication right now that he's just not right. He does not respond correctly to what people say to him. I have to keep biting my tongue to keep from arguing with him. Today, Scott said something and Casey answered him and then Scott pretty much called him a know it all for answering him. :upset: I did have to step in then.

Sun - great that you are doing a feature article. How exciting. I'm really happy for you.

Allswell - I hope that you have been relaxing & doing just what you want to do this weekend. You deserve it.

Paula - It is so great to have you home. I really, really missed you. :h I want to hear all about your trip. Was it really pretty there? What is Greece like?

We've had a nice day today. Went to a couple of used bookstores. I can't get enough of books. Even though I read primarily on my Kindle now, I walk into a book store and get so excited. :H I can never walk out empty handed. We are going to go to the movies tonight. I think we are going to see ParaNorman. I wanted to see The Odd Life of Timothy Green but Casey isn't really into it. So, I'll catch that another time.

Enjoy your day everyone. And Mama - I am on your side!!! :l

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

we went to see Trouble with the Curve last night.....Clint Eastwood'd new movie....
things are calming down..yesterday was a doozie.....Bret can be a bit of a bully, IMO, and I will NOT let him tear the boys down further when they know they have screwed up or done someting stupid. We have different parenting styles and I usually defer (agree) to Bret, but not this time. He is at the lake and I am going in to work for a bit, so some time apart will be good
Ain;t married life grand?????
Buy...I didn't even think about a drink....that's good!

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Mama - I'm really sorry. I agree with you though. It is not ok to treat your children like that. He should be giving them support not tearing them down more. Sorry - my two cents that you didn't need to hear.

Scott & Ky are putting up Halloween decorations. We have HUNDREDS of decorations. :H

Well - off to Kohl's. Have a wedding tonight. Thinking that I might avoid it to be honest. Had a lot of 'champagne' dreams last night. Just not feeling well today. Think I might just lay low and not go where the alcohol is going to be flowing.

[Sunbeam]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Friends,
Mama, you sound a little better. You are being a good mom, and I'm sure it's not easy.

Nora, sounds like you are reading yourself well, avoiding a potentially negative situation. Good for you!

I mentioned that we are leaving on vacation Tuesday, gone for 12 nights. I've been digging like a dervish, getting potted plants into the ground, since I won't be home to water them. They are perennials I have been growing up over the summer. I was just about done, then ended up rescuing some lovely peonies yesterday. They have deep root systems, no easy task to dig them out nor re-plant them. Whew! I'm done. There are a few left, but they will be OK under a shrub until I get back. Then I hope to pot them up and bury the pots for next spring's plant sale.

I won't be drinking at all over vacation. I know my husband thinks I shouldn't drink, and I agree with him. We will be together most of the time, and I really would not consider going off to a store, buying wine, and hiding it to drink in our small rental apartment. SOOO, I look forward to the vacation days as a free af ride. Two weeks from today, I will have completed two entire AF months since I starte4d posting here, and I am delighted.

[allswell]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi everyone,

Wow this weekend flew by. I went to a lecture on Saturday about growing Pawpaws which I found fascinating. I'm currently reading a book about Forest Gardening and I must say I find gardening to be wildly interesting which I would have never imagined possible a few short months ago.

Hey Sun, have a great vacation.

Hope everyone had fun this weekend.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Sun - you are doing so great and really sound wonderful. Really happy for you. Enjoy your vacation. I hope that you have a really good time. That's great that you aren't going to feel the pressure to be drinking. I don't remember, does your husband drink?
I am going for a long weekend in October to visit a girlfriend in Michigan. Then I'll be visiting my parents for a week in November.

Mama - how you doing? Have you gone to dinner at Nana's?

Hope everyone else is doing well. I'm so dizzy that I had to call my friend & tell her that I wasn't going to the wedding. We went to the mall & I got a wedding present and Casey was going to go with me (that would have kept me from drinking) but I'm not feeling well and just very dizzy. Don't know what's wrong but at least that was a good excuse for skipping the wedding.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Cross post Allswell. Sounds like a good lecture. What does the pawpaw taste like?

[allswell]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hey Nora,

They taste kind of like a custardy banana. They are absolutely delicious, you can't find them anywhere other than a farmers market because the shelf life is so short. Growing the trees sounds a little tricky but I'm going to give it a go next year.

Have a nice relaxing evening and I hope you feel better tomorrow Nora.

[paula]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Good morning everyone. Had a good time at my friends party. I hadn't seen her for years, she inherited a lot of money when her parents died, most of she spends on cruises and trips around the world, I can honestly say I do not envy her, she is such a lovely good friend, but she looks awful, she has put so much weight on and her cholesterol is sky high, she looked so different a few years ago. Money spent unwisely is not always a good thing, she is completely wrecking her health and she says this herself. Nora, Greece is beautiful. We stayed on Kos. I loved it. We did some sightseeing, but it was very hot. The food is good. We saw a lot of poverty, but the people are wonderful, so trusting and friendly.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Morning
I am in a better place mentally. I have done lots of thinking this weekend and I am going to try not to let other people's moods affect me so much. I have decided everything will be fine.....I will work on just ignoring Bret's rants. He is right in what he says, but he can be so darn mean and repetitive.
I am also going to try to stop cursing so much. Lobbing the F bomb just makes any argument worse. My son and I are in a really good place and that makes me happy.
No drinking this weekend, just lots on internal work done on myself.
I have to go write the budget today with some corporate peeps, so I need to jump in the shower and get bee-u-ti-ful. (haha)
bacinabit

[allswell]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

WTG Mama!

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

:-) Allswell

and the meanie just texted me a big kiss......gosh, he knows me too well!!!

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Everyone!

Just doing a quick check in to let you all know I'm back! Was reading back, sorry you had a tough couple days Mama...things will get better. I am glad I'm single. LOL

WOW our party was FUN! My sister and I did all the work...30lbs of prime rib, 20 lbs of stuffed chicken, 20lbs of mashed potatoes, stuffed mushrooms, teriyaki meatballs, antipasta appetizers....SO much food and it was all gone, I guess people liked it!

My dad read my mom a poem about how he's still in love with her and all the women cried, then all their grandkids (6 boys, 1 girl) played "Stand By Me" on guitars, bass and piano...

It was great and boy I am pooped. Now I need to go grocery shopping for home...life can stop revolving around the party finally. LOL

Back later...love and missed you all!

K9

[Sunbeam]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Friends,
K9, glad the family event went well. The poem and music sound very touching.

Mama, I guess we will never stop learning about how to cope with our lives, all the twists and turns, sometimes uphill and sometimes down.

Paula, glad the party went well for you. Your friend show us that money ins't the answer to a great life.

Allswell, I think they had pawpaws at our farmers' market just one week, and I missed them. I'll have to be watching next year.

Nora, my husband does drink most days, a glass or two of wine with dinner. He puts it in a mug to make it less obvious, and keeps the wine in the basement refrigerator so I don't look at it every time I get something to eat, or decide to stare at refrigerator food (do you all do that??). I suppose having it in the house has made it more difficult to quit, but one way or another we have to learn to be around alcohol without drinking.

OK, most of my clothes are out, but I have to go get them in the suitcase. I will be taking my Kindle, but I probably won't be posting every day. They do have WiFi, but the landlord said that tenants complain about the weak signal. We will return home October 7.

Take care, all!