One Step at a Time - September 2012

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

opened the mail to find a ticket for $165 of my son's picture running a red light
he will NOT have a nice evening
Paula...I am not depressed, just run down.
Having an extra day off was nice....
Nora.....I am calling you

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Everyone!

I have been way too busy at work today...I am not liking it!

Oh Mama, your son and his ticket...boy am I glad I'm not HIM!

I guess the driving challenge will be next for my child....not really looking forward to it.

Hope you all have a nice evening! I'm attempting to cook again...wish me luck.

:h
K9

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

whatcha cookin??
yeah...driving will give you a heart attack....and it's expensive...gas, insurance, etc
Glad you were busy...makes the day go faster

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi everyone. This is going to be very short. I took a muscle relaxer for my sore neck/back & it knocked me for a loop. I rarely take anything like this so wow.

So many things that I want to say........

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE SUPPORT!! You all mean so much to me and helped me make the decision to fight for sobriety again.

K9 - can't believe that your baby is going to be 15. Do you have any special plans? You don't celebrate birthdays do you? Can't remember. Anyway - that's so great & wonderful that you are so close.

Paula - I was so livid today when I read your post. How dare someone put alcohol in your drink?!?!? That is exactly the same as drugging you. What if you really were on a medication that interacted with alcohol. (Antabuse just to name one) She could have put your life in danger. Sorry to be ranting but I was so upset.:l

Sun - you are so right not to be down on yourself. You ARE doing so well. You see it for what it is and are taking steps to improve.

Allswell - thank you for all the wonderful support & advise. :l

Mama - great to talk to you today. Sorry that I had to cut it short. You are such a sweetie too check on me like that. But, I am doing fine.

Dixon - a very special thank you to you. I just loved your story about the hourglass sand. You are so right - it is One step at a time. I just need to remember that. Thank you Dixon for pointing that out to me. :h


xxooxx

[Getting real123]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Everyone! I hope you all had a good long weekend. Just finishing up day 9.

I have what I think is a stupid/beginners question. Are we supposed to be going for perfection? If so, I'm totally failing! If my husband is drinking and it looks good I will take a sip of his drink. I assume that at some point I will occasionally drink. I just can't imagine not ever slipping up. Is that the wrong way to think of things? If you are sober 350 out of 365 days is that really failure? I would love to hear from your experience. I dont want to be deluding myself.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

GettingReal - certainly not stupid/beginner questions.

First of all - congrats on Day 9. GREAT JOB!

Next - some people can moderate. I can't. I don't take a sip of a drink. I want to keep going.

And, I do not see it as a failure. I see all the AF time as a great benefit. The more time you can get, the better.

Congratulations on 9 Days! :goodjob:

[paula]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi everyone, hopeyou are all well. Gettin real, well done on 9 days. Your questions are very logical to me. My problem with alcohol is how it makes me feel, if I could drink, even to excess and not feel guilt, anxiety, shame, it would not be a problem. If one or two drinks did not lead me to not knowing when to stop, that would be ok. When I drink I literally can't stop, I agree with Nora, I can't moderate and I don't think that people who can have a problem, but that's just my personal opinion. I also feel that if I were to binge drink for just a few days a year I could probably live comfortably with that. For me I have proved so many times that I can't drink normally. Nora my husband agrees with you about my " friend ". It will be a long time before I even see this one again.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

I don't see it as failure at all Real. Some may, but I don't. I would have had 90 consecutive days, but I drank some on my birthday. I am PROUD of all my sober days and it is a HUGE improvement for me.
As for sipping....can;t do it...no way. one sip and GAME ON for this bear.
sipping coffee and into shower. My burn on my boobie has become troublesome...I cannot get it to heal as it is always rubbing my bra. It really hurts.
bacinabit
Happy Hump Day!

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Morning Paula
gosh...I didn't even think about you possibly being on antabuse and what that would have done.
I am sure your friend meant to funny and not hurtful, but this could have been disastrous
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[paula]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Mama, glad your ok. My friend is also a senior psychiatric nurse, and does not recognise her own drinking behaviour. She has liver problems, drinks every day when not working, and complains about her raised blood pressure. Oh well at least we do recognise our problems, thank god. I do agree with you there is no failure in relapse, and I would never condemn anyone for that. I think the failure is not recognising the problem, and I don't know anyone on this thread guilty of this. I think we ought to be proud of the sober time we accumulate, the odd slip does not erase this.

[Sunbeam]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi friends, I just copied the list that Mario posted on this thread, and posted it in the Toolbox thread. I am putting it in my own document, to edit down to the strategies that make some sense for me. Then I can document which ones I've tried, adapt others, consider still others. A kind of worksheet.

[allswell]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hello everyone,

Paula, I'm sure the friend didn't realize the extent of her actions but people like that are a real bummer to be around. On the topic of taking an occasional sip, I can't do it. It's either whole hog or nothing and I prefer nothing at this point. Having any alcohol at all only reignites my drinking brain and it's so much easier to pass when a craving hits rather than get back in the cycle of thinking about it daily again.

[Slaythefear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

paula;1373549 wrote: Hi Mama, hope you are ok. Seems to be a lot of depression about these last few days, maybe it's the time of year. I'm looking forward to my Greek trip on saturday. The thought of a drink hasn't crossed my mind recently, I'm just praying that I stay like this. I went out for dinner with some friends last night and one of them bought me a vodka and tonic, when I had said I just wanted tonic, I didn't drink it as I suspected what she had done. She thought it was funny, but I was really angry, to me it was the same as slipping a drug into my drink. I don't feel that I can say that I'm an alcoholic as I'm not sure they would understand. I just said that I was taking strong painkillers, I'm just not brave enough to admit it just yet. Why do people feel uncomfortable when someone decides not to drink.

Paula, I've had that happen to me as well among other things. Some people just don't want to take no for an answer. I am changing my relationships now because I know if someone doesn't understand what is best for me especially after witnessing my behavior while intoxicated, they are no real friend. They most likely can't be until they get their own problems under control. My choice to become AF in life will require some changes that may not sit well with some, but my life is going to change and some of them just won't be allowed in it under those circumstances. I'm feeling better each day about that choice and less guilty and obligated...still there a bit, but it will fade more and more as life improves with those choices.

Best wishes.

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

Hi Peeps and Happy Hump Day!

Why do "short" weeks (with a holiday in them) seem even longer?

Mama - I made BBQ chicken, roasted potatoes and beans last night, with some snap peas and tomatoes on the side to be our required veggies. LOL I didn't spill, drop or burn anything...can you believe it??? Speaking of burn, I hope your 43 is healing...has Papa Bear been tending to it?

I agree with you all...the word MODERATION does not exist in my vocabulary. I've never seen the point of having one beer...12 or 14, yes...but just one? Please!

Ok...off to wander for a while. I'll take a stack of papers with me so I look like I'm on official business. LOL

xoxo
K9

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - September 2012

sounds yummy!!
my 43 long is miserable right now.
I cannot get it to heal....it sticks to gauze, bra and everything and hurts like a mother when I undress
and Papa is grossed out and staying very far away...which is fine with me!