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[Bella]

I wonder if anyone can help me here. I've joined MWO and have been off A for 15 days now. Yes, that is great isn't it but now i know i can do this i want to celebrate with a few bottles of wine. I am becoming cocky that i am good at this abstinant lark and i'm bored of it! I love drinking and i really miss it. It's like not seeing a friend for a while. I know A isn't my friend, the complete opposite. But i havent been going out because i'm too scared because i know it will be too tempting for me. I feel miserable as i am not using my time constructively. I thought i would feel great, energetic and raring to go if i didn't drink, but i'm tired and lonely and the days are going by so slowly because i am counting them! I'm supposed to be going on a hen night soon but i don't think i can go because everyone will be drinking and i know i'll be bored. I hate myself for saying that but its true. My husband says drive there and just have 2 glasses, he really has no idea that i just can't do that. It really is a lonely old business. I know this site is good but i am feeling very sorry for myself at the moment and feel that there is no one who understands me. I don't mind if no one replies to this, Its a kind of therepy just to type. If anyone does read this , i'm sorry for being such a sad old cow. If anyone can help, i would be so grateful. Thankyou

[Bluebell]

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Would you mind if I replied to this?

It's a really strange world, living without/cutting down on alcohol.

It has controlled most aspects of our lives for so long.. it's hard to take the reins back.

You will be okay. Start to realise the freedom you have been given, rather than the loss of an old habit.

If I were you, I wouldn't go to that Hen night if you are not quite ready. There will be lots of challenges that present themselves to you but do not put yourself in the middle of the expressway until your ready to cope.

C'mon, join in the fun here. You could find some new recipes, read the jokes, find out what the others are up to, hell, you can even cry with Fan... the sky is the limit.

Post away.... good thoughts or bad thoughts.... there is always someone listening.

[wwbarb]

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I understand exactly how you feel. I quit drinking in the fall for six weeks and it was like a prison sentence. Hubby kept going to the pub, and I stayed away from all alcohol. When I did finally go to the pub and drink a club soda - boring!! I got involved in a couple of things that we non-alcohol related (knitting circles, hen nights without the booze) but not many. When I did have one of these events to go to, I would have to drag myself to it, even though I did enjoy it once I got there. I finally decided that it wasn't worth it sitting around by myself, all the time. So I went back to the booze. Moderated, to some extent, but mostly in my mind.

This time, I decided it wasn't worth it to drink. I really had to look at it differently this time - when the craving for drinking slips into my mind, I remember how I felt when I woke up on January 16 ("poisoned" is the best way to put it) and I don't want to wake up like that again. I know how I woke up half an hour ago, and I know how well I slept last night. I know the things that I want to do and accomplish, and I can't do that if I am walking around in a hung-over fog. I am really trying to fill my days with things I enjoy and the hell with my husband or anyone else who isn't willing to join me. Right now, I'm too buried in committments to other people (work) but that will pass. When it does, I am going to devote more time to my knitting, go to the movies, go shopping (I've lost 20 pounds since the fall), and all the things that have been on the back of the list. I want to take my grandkids to the zoo, go see the butterfly exhibit at the botanical gardens, go to craft shows - all this stuff is there waiting for me to do it.

Anyway, you get the idea. I had to stop looking at this as a prison sentence and start looking at it as setting myself free.

[Rags]

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How can anyone who lives at the centre of the know universe be bored?

[Ripley]

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hi bella

only on day 3 AF so expect I will know exactly what you are talking about very soon...

When I quit smoking one of the things i focused on was the Alan Carr message that the reason you want the cigarette is that you are an addict, not because the cigarettes are great in themselves. the person siting next to you at the party with the cigarette is NOT having a more fun party, nor is the non smoker enjoying the party less. The non smoker is actually experiencing a fun party wihtout the annoyance of a craving for cigarattes.

My point is, once we get cravings under control i am hoping that this problem will kind of resolve itself. we won't feel our addiction to booze so keenly,so won't miss it or think that the hen night / pub outing would be better with a drink.

I think that's partly the point of the kudzu and hypno. certainly my hypno tape focuses on "having no desire whatsoever to drink". It is early days for me and I'm sure I'll flat flat on my face at some point, but ritght now it is really helping.

If you'tre not doing it already, i can't recommend this enough. best of luck my love.

PS Rags (great new avatar BTW) is right - lots to do in groovy London without the booze.

[Bella]

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Yes you are right. I too went to the Alan Carr clinic some time back and stopped the fags when i came out, having no more desire and saying to myself 'yippee i'm a non-smoker.' It lasted a year and i felt great with my new set of lungs. But stupidly i welcomed the cigs back with open arms! But hey-ho i'll try again one day. I think i can only stop one thing at a time and its the liquid poison this time. I haven't tried any of the supps yet, too chicken to do that too. I wish i could just stop thinking too much and give my head a break. I've been going to bed at 8pm everynite just so i can sleep and escape for a while. Morning comes and i think here we go again! I'm on a high dose of anti-depressants as i suffer from depression which is A induced.

[traderged]

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keep going

hi bella thanks for your post re my thread,as you know i am very new,but as i said in my post feeling alive for the first time in a long long time,perhaps it would help if you didnt worry about the hen party untill you have to face that day,take each day one at a time,remember how you felt good for 2 hours while drinking,and terrible for 22. hope i have been of some help.

[Ripley]

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hey don't be scared of the supps - they are all things that are contained in normal foodstuffs, just in higher dosages. Holland and Barret sell them all. so many people here swear by them. what about hypno - you open to that?

I'm sorry to hear about the depression. had a bout myself last year and the booze does NOT help - gets you into a horrible cycle of boozing coz u feel like crap etc.

bella you are doing so well, give yourself a break girl. can you not go to the cinema with your husband one night ?- no alcohol there to tempt you. Keep strong and keep posting. x

[Bella]

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Hello there traderged, Thats a funny name. Sorry rude of me to say that? Thankyou for that advice. I will keep that in mind when im gagging for a glass. You have been helpful and if you need me to give you some advice i would love to take my mind off myself for a while!!!!!

[Bella]

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kate i will go to the health shop and cinema would be good. Not getting on too well with husband at mo. must try to make more effort. Cause i'm not drinking i'm eating like hell -not put weight on yet but will. God i am such a moan! Sorry i'm going to shake myself out of this as i'm even boring myself to tears!! thanks for your support. B

[sammys]

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They say idle hands are the devils workshop and I believe it, the boredom will cause you to think you have been so good you should reward yourself. I have been going through this myself. I am now going to regroup and stop myself as I have been thinking its Ok to have drinks every couple of days again. Time for be to get busy again with anything.

Know exactly what you are going through,
Sammys

[Ripley]

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Go on, have a moan love, if you can't do it here..?

Sammy's right, get busy. Go see a chick flick with a girlfriend. Go lane swimming or do some kind of excercise class in the evening. (Feeling fat? Do aqua aerobics. Thereare never any skinny minnies there) Go for a walk with your husband and get him to talk about himself. Join a class together - something daft like salsa dancing, so you laugh together.

(Saysshe, who wants to put an axe in her husband's head most days).

Lots of love Bella, you're doing great.x

[Bella]

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Ha ha-- that made me laugh. axe in husbands head now that might be more exciting than an exercise class....only joking, I would really have something to moan about if i was sitting in jail!!! I'm totally addicted to this site now, i really don't have an addictive personality, promise!

[ScoobyDoo]

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Me neither... it's only the 15th time I've logged in, over the past 24 hours. lol

Stick with it Bella! I'll be so happy when I'm on day 15 of AF. I'm jealous!

DooDoo xo

Bella;101556 wrote: Ha ha-- that made me laugh. axe in husbands head now that might be more exciting than an exercise class....only joking, I would really have something to moan about if i was sitting in jail!!! I'm totally addicted to this site now, i really don't have an addictive personality, promise!

[Bella]

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I love this site. 15th time in 24hrs? thats not bad- i'll try my best to top that! Jealous of me being day 15 AF? Don't be its very dull my end. You run your own business it says on your profile, that sounds good. i'm jealous of that!!!!