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    hi everybody hope you are all ok, sorry if i have nt repied to any of u, i am unsure of how to do this.I am now on day 40 without a drink after seventeen years of blackouts and wow i am really feeling good. headaches are subsiding I seem to have all this phsyical and mental energy which i am unsure what to do with. My relationship with my children seems to have improved espically with the youngest one 15 i think he was quiet worried about me so was i. my liver has stopped hurting now but wether it will forgive me i dont know. this computer cant spell so u will have to forgive me. All i need now is to get rid of the crap thats in my head that drove me to drink in the first place or did it i need a friend who understands me and everything that i went through, who could put things into perspective,i walked out of my job on monday could nt afford to stop there the longer i would have stopped there the further in debt i would have got the problem is what do i do now, with no skillls or qualifications only what i left school with and life experience, but this will not pay the bills will it. If anybody would be willing to be my friend to help me though the ups and downs in life can you contact me plse am feeling a bit lost without my friend (bottle) and i dont want to go back to that ever again

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    wow.

    you are one strong man. you have my utmost respect for doing this. you are in the right place as there are so many people here who will be with you in the coming months. you are not alone.

    have you got a partner who is supporting you through this?

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      #3
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      hi

      yes i have got a partner of seventeen years it was him who introduced alchol to me all those years ago so i am having mixed thoughts about him at mo he says that he should never have taught me to drink in the first place and that he is glad that i have stopped drinking it was killing me theres no dealt about that i was quiet poorly towards the end of my drinking days hes not very happy about me walking out of my job through as u could imagine

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        #4
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        Ummm.. that is a hard one. There are lots of reasons why we turn to drink. I turned to it 23 years ago because of problems at home which i wont go into now but these problems have stayed with me through out my adulthood. I am having counselling at the mo. which is helping me to deal with what happened. Maybe you could consider this as if you don't sort out the sh** in your head you might go back on the poison. I dont know but counselling is helping me

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          #5
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          you might be right i went to docs last year and she offered me counciling but it was private and i had to pay couldnt afford it . she then said why dont i just stop drinking and talk about my problems yes ok if you have got a family which i havent so who do do you talk to? theres only so much i want to talk to my partner about

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            #6
            hi

            I can't talk to my husband about sh** from the past as he is not the best at listening, I also can't talk face to face with anyone at the moment so i have on-line counselling. It is amazing what you can say when you don't have to see the other persons reaction. It costs 12 pounds 50 for sending a really long email and getting a really long one back. the only downside is you have to wait 24 hours to get a reply but i have gained alot of trust with my man and it gets it off my chest.

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              #7
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              thats a good idea i never thought about that. I think that i need a brain transplant lol didnt realise that life was like this i often look around at other people and wonder what shit they have been through and how they coped everybody has got a story to tell have nt they there own personal hell

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                #8
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                This is a hard thing - quitting the alcohol. You have a significant amount of time under your belt now so keep on going. This place is a great sounding board when you need someone to 'listen' to you. Most of us have been through our own personal hell. I know for me I have been to hell and back a few times because of my drinking. The BEST thing you can do for YOU is to remain AF. You have 40 days now, and are starting to feel better. I have 62 days now and although I am feeling better physically, there is still some emotional stuff I need to deal with. You have to take it one day at a time. Try not to get overwhelmed.... just deal with what you need to deal with at the time. Keep posting your thoughts, and ask lots of questions. There are so many people here who have been through what you are going through. Glad you are back and posting. Great jobs on your AF success this far. Keep at it. You will find in time life will get easier. Instead of suppressing your thoughts and feelings with alcohol, you will be able to deal with life on life's terms sober. Alcohol just makes things worse. Be kind to yourself!!

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                  #9
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                  hi thanks for ur reply u have done well 62 days sober i love the repouse that you get from the local shops people seem to treat you as a person dont they although i dont think most people knew about my drinking seems like a really silly thing to have done now yes my body is starting to recover its just my brain feeling sorry for myself how do we stop these negative thoughts? seems as if it has just become a pattern my brain doesnt know any other way of thinkin there must be a way round this but how?

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                    #10
                    hi

                    i have stopped drinking doing cold turkey no help from anything except when i joined this site last week is what the difference is should i have gone to docs or be taking any tablets or vitamins ?

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                      #11
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                      Everyone does something different here when quitting. I went cold turkey and it was horrible. I am taking a multi vitamin, Omega 3-6-9 (3x day) and St. John's Wort. I was taking these for about two months before I quit along with a vitamin B6/12 for the first few weeks. (Alcohol depletes Vitamin B in our bodies first... then everything else). I did it on my own. Some people take Topamax or other prescriptions. Some take L-glutamine or Kudzu... you will find out a lot about this stuff reading the posts. Drink lots of water. I went through a huge bout of depression around the 50 day mark. It lasted about a week. Just know your emotions will be like a roller coaster until your body gets use to your being AF. There will be ups and downs, but in the end this is so worth it!!!

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