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[mama bear]

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dang...that conniving K9 beat me by 30 seconds.................................:upset:

[mama bear]

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ok...more like three minutes

[scottish lass]

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Love this thread - I slipped after 66 days waaay back in January - my pride/ego whatever had stopped me from really engaging again with MWO until recently - I did try a few times to stop, but never really winning and the block that I had to continue to post over and over that it was day 1 again, stopped me from being successful. I did get support the majority of teh time, but every so often there was a well intentioned and totally honest post that I was not able to take and I would skulk away again.
I have truly worked out that unless I post here daily (lurking is not enough for me) that I do not succeed.
We have chatted about this on some other threads and we do see people saying goodbye with a plan to come back when they have AF time under their belt - that makes me so sad, as I know that I have lost so much time between January and now that my ego didn't let me use the strongest tool I have in my kit - MWO.
So aiming not to slip again, but if I do I promise to stay with MWO until I can beat this :thanks:

[mama bear]

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good for you Scotty!!

[vlivengood]

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bouchard01;1378047 wrote:

My thoughts are what am I going to say and do about not drinking. They expect me too drink. What am I going to say? Why is there such a stigma attached to saying I'm not drinking? Everyone will say why not? Bet they won't encourage me .... Such a social stigma attached to drinking ... what am I ging to do??

I'm not sure what others will think of this excuse but what about saying you had Waaaaaaaaaayyyyyy to much to drink the other night and wound up with horrid hangover that has staved you off the booze for a bit, that the thought of consuming makes you ill..... Ha! Sorry if this excuse offends anyone.....

[bouchard01]

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Hi vlivengood ... doesn't offend me at all because guess what? It's the truth!!! Thanks.

[bouchard01]

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PS ... You all inspire me to be better. Thank you for that!!

[Tipplerette]

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Mama Bear, you are always on the Rah Rah team too. We so need you people who always offer and ear and a pat on the back. Your progress and your ability to have one or two without slipping back into old patterns is wonderful. Vigilance is your name, moderation is your game...

I am glad this thread struck a core with people. I will always dig up this thread if I slip up and like you all seem to say, we waste so much time skulking in the background for days, weeks and even months when we let ourselves down by drinking. Instead of wasting precious time without our major tool (MWO) we just stay away or on the outskirts, afraid to post.

NO MORE of this CRAP...

Just BUMP up this thread and post on it no matter where this thread has lead. It's major use is for getting back in, no questions asked. In the meantime we can discuss anything here as long as we are the greeting team for those who screwed up and need to jump back in with no "I told you so's".

[K9Lover]

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I know in the beginning we need "excuses" not to drink (because drinking is expected!). You can always say that you're on medication. My reason (not excuse) is that I'm allergic to alcohol. I really believe this, because my body does some WIERD ASS SHIT when I drink! I have also noticed that as I age (ugh) I am becoming allergic to the sun too...but nobody gives me dirty looks for that one!

Anyways, those are just some random thoughts...not sure where they came from. Oh okay, maybe I just wanted to jump back in and beat Mama again! LOL

[Prairie Fairy]

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Hey Tipp -

I have up and on and off this pony so often that I feel like I am card carrying member...I just got "here" as in - done - fed up with it - over it - last quit so help me God - just a few weeks ago.

Had to. :-)

So I'm day 25 today - of quit 1 million something. But I'm not going back. And I started the AB to make sure of that.

So - if you don't mind that I'm a couple weeks ahead - I'll come hang. Because I've left with my tail between my legs and come limping back more than once....

[HabitualDefender]

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Well said Tipp, it's like fall down 7 times, get up 8.

It can wear a person down, though, so I think about any promises carefully before I jump to make them. For me, this is my third long weekend in a row, a holiday followed by 2 weddings, the last one is tomorrow. Just trying to be realistic, so I refrained from setting any AF goals for right now because my taper has been going great. AL consumption from about a month ago has been less than 50% and stable...and holding.

One thing I noticed while on the taper, is my thoughts and feelings. Not especially pleasant. I long for the days when I was generally positive-happy-go-lucky and the world was a wonderful place, but I can't deny the pattern that my thinking has followed for the last 5-10 years leaning toward the negative-cynical-paranoid-irritable. And the dreams! Damn frustrating and scary, but I soon realize it was only a dream.

-HD

[patrice]

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Hi Tipps

Good on you for coming back... I will be right behind you!
x
Patrice

[HabitualDefender]

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Thanks for keeping the community strong K9, Prairie and Mama Bear.

We can do this.

[Struggles 106]

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HEY TIPS

So glad to see this post. I wanted to get some input on something. I had a business dinner not too long ago and I ordered a martini (yes my chouce but encouraged bu a friend next to me) On hos other side at this plce was a friend who knows all about my drinking problem and struggle.
She pointed to the martini and said WHAT is that ? I said a martini. SHe scowls and scolds " ANN ", then I look over and again "ANN". The guy in between us was perplexed but didn't say anything. And yes it was stupid. And no I did not take my AB for a few days.
I paid for this mistake. But I just wonder if my resentmant of her reaction is the alcohol brain talking

Any thoughts? I do much better when treated with compassion, or it could be I'm just an immature ass

[dixon]

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Super duper Thread !!
Now it will give you the way out ...if you been serious and please make it your mantra !!
And I suggest you to shout 108 times out when you wake up and 108 times before you sleep.
That is compulsory and do it again when you are off work and alone.It will become a habit and create a positive energy.Just believe me friend..
Dix