Dixon has been facing some problems !

[sunshinedaisies]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Yes Dixon, I do know the Asian culture and she shouldn't have told lies....... you cannot have a win-win without you losing........

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

sunshinedaisies;1378283 wrote: Yes Dixon, I do know the Asian culture and she shouldn't have told lies....... you cannot have a win-win without you losing........

Sun +Sun,
Cant I convince her ?.
Don't we have any ideas to do so my mate ?. I have told her I wont be anyone's and will stay alone for the sake of kids.
Sorry to put in so many questions here .
Dix

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Sunbeam;1378272 wrote: Dixon, the only way you can win is to ignore her. You will lose if you have contact with her. She needs to win her own battle, you can't do this for her.

To be honest,
I agree this is the reality !!
But.....my heart speaks differently.
Dix

[Cashregister]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Hi Dixon I don't often post but I have had bipolar 1 disorder for many years and have had instances where I attempted suicide. Let me tell you that people do this because they are at their wits end - literally. When someone says they are going to do this because of someone else thats rubbish - suicidal people don't care what others think or feel - its a symptom of a disease and it is a painful place to be. If you do it you are not even thinking straight enough to even think of someone else. It is never anyone else's fault. It would be like you blaming someone else for your drinking, it gets done a lot but we all know it's not true.
She is emotionally blackmailing you, and the more you let her the worse it will get. If she does what she is threatening its because she feels she has to,not because of you or anyone else.
I would also be very skeptical about the fact that she's talking about it all the time. I have lost friends to suicide and let me tell you they not chat bout it on the phone beforehand. Block her calls and get on with your own life - her problems cant be fixed by you full stop. She needs to come to terms with her mental health issues and move on, you are not helping by talking to her, just feeding the obsession.

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Cashregister;1378294 wrote: Hi Dixon I don't often post but I have had bipolar 1 disorder for many years and have had instances where I attempted suicide. Let me tell you that people do this because they are at their wits end - literally. When someone says they are going to do this because of someone else thats rubbish - suicidal people don't care what others think or feel - its a symptom of a disease and it is a painful place to be. If you do it you are not even thinking straight enough to even think of someone else. It is never anyone else's fault. It would be like you blaming someone else for your drinking, it gets done a lot but we all know it's not true.
She is emotionally blackmailing you, and the more you let her the worse it will get. If she does what she is threatening its because she feels she has to,not because of you or anyone else.
I would also be very skeptical about the fact that she's talking about it all the time. I have lost friends to suicide and let me tell you they not chat bout it on the phone beforehand. Block her calls and get on with your own life - her problems cant be fixed by you full stop. She needs to come to terms with her mental health issues and move on, you are not helping by talking to her, just feeding the obsession.

Cash,
Very straight forward treatment to the wound !!
I could also have Bipolar but I haven't diagnosed yet.I am lying to the doctor.
I dint have any pleasant suicidal thought before, I had always worried on how to escape from these types thoughts, though I had some very low moods and very often.
You take care yourself Cash,you are a wise person.
Dix

[allswell]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Dix,

There is a lot of good advice here. Cut off the ties with this woman and get on with your life. There is no good energy from contact with this person and no reason to let her bad energy drag you down. Only when you are at your best can you be the best for your kids.

[DriftyAlison0]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

dixon;1378249 wrote: Very well advice given by Skendall !!
I also agree Drifty...but some confusion that the laws always do not work and some sentiments are there.If something happen,she will leave me an irreparable scare !
How do you think ?
Dix

If something were to happen, then its God's will. Like the others have said, what she is doing is emotional Blackmail and as long as you keep caving to her, its just going to make it harder for you because she knows how to get to you. Cut her off and get help for her. Also quit lying to the doctors. I know a person with bipolar and as long as you take your meds, you can lead a more normal life.

The longer you keep it going on, the harder it is going to be for both parties. If she is going to off herself, its not going to be your fault. She is more then likely doing this just to get you to go to her but you don't want to take any chances at all and get her help even if it means committing her. She has her own issues to deal with and if she doesn't learn how to deal with them now, it is just going to get tougher for her.

[SKendall]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Dixon, I think we are all saying the same thing. Suicidal people don't tell of their plan and certainly don't threaten a person that their intentions are your fault. Like everyone has said cut off all contact with her and know that HER ISSUES are not YOUR ISSUES. She is a mentally disturbed person who is inflicting her problems on you and emotionally blackmailing you.

For now don't worry about birth place, reputation, etc. that's only a BIG IF. Stay doing what you're doing in your sober life without the psycho, lol.

[Cashregister]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

DriftyAlison0;1378320 wrote: If something were to happen, then its God's will. Like the others have said, what she is doing is emotional Blackmail and as long as you keep caving to her, its just going to make it harder for you because she knows how to get to you. Cut her off and get help for her. Also quit lying to the doctors. I know a person with bipolar and as long as you take your meds, you can lead a more normal life.

The longer you keep it going on, the harder it is going to be for both parties. If she is going to off herself, its not going to be your fault. She is more then likely doing this just to get you to go to her but you don't want to take any chances at all and get her help even if it means committing her. She has her own issues to deal with and if she doesn't learn how to deal with them now, it is just going to get tougher for her.

Yeah don't bullshit your doctors, bipolar is a serious and progressive disease of the brain - it shows up on brain scans - treatment can halt the deterioration and can in some instances ( lithium carbonate) actually regenerate affected areas of the brain. Tell your doctors everything and get help cause it is soooo worth it, it saved my life. And forget the stigma - what is normal anyway - I was never going to be normal with or without bipolar - and I'm proud

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

allswell;1378309 wrote: Dix,

There is a lot of good advice here. Cut off the ties with this woman and get on with your life. There is no good energy from contact with this person and no reason to let her bad energy drag you down. Only when you are at your best can you be the best for your kids.

Allswell ,Drify and Skendall,

Yea lots of good advises here mate , and all of them are same !.
I am almost all decided not to contact her for any emotional ground.
If I am been through with this issue , will be succeeded.
Dix

[Bashley]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Hi Dixon

Cashregister;1378294 wrote: Hi Dixon I don't often post but I have had bipolar 1 disorder for many years and have had instances where I attempted suicide. Let me tell you that people do this because they are at their wits end - literally. When someone says they are going to do this because of someone else thats rubbish - suicidal people don't care what others think or feel - its a symptom of a disease and it is a painful place to be. If you do it you are not even thinking straight enough to even think of someone else. It is never anyone else's fault. It would be like you blaming someone else for your drinking, it gets done a lot but we all know it's not true.
She is emotionally blackmailing you, and the more you let her the worse it will get. If she does what she is threatening its because she feels she has to,not because of you or anyone else.
I would also be very skeptical about the fact that she's talking about it all the time. I have lost friends to suicide and let me tell you they not chat bout it on the phone beforehand. Block her calls and get on with your own life - her problems cant be fixed by you full stop. She needs to come to terms with her mental health issues and move on, you are not helping by talking to her, just feeding the obsession.

Sounds like you have been having a rough time Dixon.
I just happened to passing and as an Englishman, thought to put in my two pence worth if you don't mind.
You are doing so well. Think of your children and the all important job you have to support them. I agree with Cashregister and all the others.
Let it be and move on. You are getting your life back. Don't ever speak to this woman again or she will bring you down too. Time heals all wounds; even of a confused heart and soul befuddled by our common enemy - alcohol.
Be well and continue getting better

Best wishes
Bashley

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Cashregister;1378335 wrote: Yeah don't bullshit your doctors, bipolar is a serious and progressive disease of the brain - it shows up on brain scans - treatment can halt the deterioration and can in some instances ( lithium carbonate) actually regenerate affected areas of the brain. Tell your doctors everything and get help cause it is soooo worth it, it saved my life. And forget the stigma - what is normal anyway - I was never going to be normal with or without bipolar - and I'm proud

I am thinking to do so with doctor when I will be back to my origin country after a year due to some reasons.The medicine I am taking is doing well but want to do every checks available in the medical sector.
I have a couple of friends doctors in Asia including my younger brother.If I do this there their would be nothing in my medical history here.If I have the problem then I can disclose here too as there is nothing precious than a health.
Am I right or it would get too much late ??
I have been taking these medicine since 2002 mixing up with AL but now just been AF so think wait and watch for a year .
Any more suggestions please .
Dix

[Cashregister]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

dixon;1378338 wrote: I am thinking to do so with doctor when I will be back to my origin country after a year due to some reasons.The medicine I am taking is doing well but want to do every checks available in the medical sector.
I have a couple of friends doctors in Asia including my younger brother.If I do this there their would be nothing in my medical history here.If I have the problem then I can disclose here too as there is nothing precious than a health.
Am I right or it would get too much late ??
I have been taking these medicine since 2002 mixing up with AL but now just been AF so think wait and watch for a year .
Any more suggestions please .
Dix

Chek out this site it's brilliant f you have med questions.
Cheers and good luck - keep calm and carry on lol!!
Cashy
The Crazy Meds Forum: Crazy Meds Talk

[Kradle123]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

My wonderful Dixon:

There is no 'letter to society' This woman is completely Bat Shit. You met her when you were not in your right mind due to AL...And this ...person....probably hasn't been in her right for quite some time.

Please focus on your job and and your wife which will keep you AF. Not this lost soul you CAN NOT save? :h

:l

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Thanks Cashy for the links,I will check them may be tonights.
I have the following physical and mental status.
1. Hungry and digestion-very good
2.Sleep-very good but can sleep longer time.
3.Suger under average.
4.pressure-very good.
5.physically nobody notice I am bad.
6.no complaint in regards physical fitness.
Mentally,
1.Very kind hearted but don't know how to show up.
2.introverted.
3.always thinking something how to avoid negative thoughts.
4.no concentration on work despite I am punctual and honest.
5.feeling high ego but low self esteem.
6.I feel myself self contended butcan't show in behaviour.
7.can't continue the started work,can divert very easily.
8.But no suicidal thought at all.
Any friend please advice depending on the above andplease ask for any other information.
Kradle and all here,
I have decided to ignore her formyself,kids and herself but could you suggest which one would be the best way?
1.picking up her phone and saying that I am not able to carry on this relationship.
Or
Just simply ignore her calls and discontinue any means of contact.
I am thankful for your advises as usual.
Dix