Dixon has been facing some problems !

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

To add more on the previous post today,she gave me a missed call..

[Kradle123]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Block her number.

Do not answer.

Create a special ring tone for her number that says something like: That cazy woman who is trying to wreck my life is calling again...


:l

[FreeFly]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Kradle123;1378635 wrote: Block her number.

Do not answer.

Create a special ring tone for her number that says something like: That cazy woman who is trying to wreck my life is calling again...


:l

DITTO! This woman will not "hear" any of your attempts to help her. She will only hear what she wants to hear and that is to manipulate you. I have been in a similar position. It's scary and horrible but the only way to deal with it is to IGNORE!, just as your signature says to something that is very, very bad for you and can only harm you. Bless her in your thoughts, wish her well in your thoughts and say goodbye in your thoughts. Job done!

[Guitarista]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Hi Dix,

Sorry you are going through a rough patch mate,

Suggestion (and you have probably mentioned this to her).

Maybe text her with some phone numbers/addresses for professional medical help in her country, and wish her all the best, and finish there. This way you have a small record of your contact with her, which shows that you have tried to help her in a positive way. Keep this record on your phone as evidence that you have tried to help a person who has said they are suicidal. Could you also contact a hospital or doctor in her country telling them your concerns and that you know a person who is threatening suicide? I think it is important to cover yourself here and have some small evidence that you have tried to help her, so then you know, and everyone knows that you tried to help. Then move on and take care of you.

Just an idea.

Good luck friend, and hope you keep your job. G.

[FreeFly]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Guitarista;1378640 wrote: Maybe text her with some phone numbers/addresses for professional medical help in her country, and wish her all the best, and finish there. This way you have a small record of your contact with her, which shows that you have tried to help her in a positive way. Keep this record on your phone as evidence that you have tried to help a person who has said they are suicidal. Could you also contact a hospital or doctor in her country telling them your concerns and that you know a person who is threatening suicide? I think it is important to cover yourself here and have some small evidence that you have tried to help her, so then you know, and everyone knows that you tried to help. Then move on and take care of you.

Wise, kind words. I'd go with that suggestion if I were you Dix. Well done G - you are in a good place as evidenced here.

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Guitarista;1378640 wrote: Hi Dix,

Sorry you are going through a rough patch mate,

Suggestion (and you have probably mentioned this to her).

Maybe text her with some phone numbers/addresses for professional medical help in her country, and wish her all the best, and finish there. This way you have a small record of your contact with her, which shows that you have tried to help her in a positive way. Keep this record on your phone as evidence that you have tried to help a person who has said they are suicidal. Could you also contact a hospital or doctor in her country telling them your concerns and that you know a person who is threatening suicide? I think it is important to cover yourself here and have some small evidence that you have tried to help her, so then you know, and everyone knows that you tried to help. Then move on and take care of you.

Just an idea.

Good luck friend, and hope you keep your job. G.

Hi Guitarista,
One of the best idea !
Lets see how other friends come up here with some more ideas and we will decide together .
My fear is that if I lose this job I wont get like this one again in this troublesome period.
Dix

[Byrdlady]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

I agree with all others...YOU are her obsession! We all here know the best way to end an obsession is to cut it off at the head and don't feed it. I dated a guy like this who always threatened suicide when I said I wanted to break up...I felt guilty and trapped, so I stayed for a long time...then the threats became more frequent over stupid everyday stuff....'you just don't love me enough'...'you are just here out of guilt'....'I'm not good enough for you'. It was EXHAUSTING. He was actually telling me the truth in all these accusations...I WAS there out of guilt, and I DIDN'T love him at all because I was being held hostage! It was doomed. When I finally moved on, he made an attempt to cut his wrist and called me....I ran over there to find he had smeared the blood all over to make it look worse than it was. (his wounds were not life threatening) I told him I was moving on and I did. He never did amount to anything....just drifted through life and died of liver disease, living with an old lady as her 'helper'. He had problems LONG before I came along and long after. Besides...if your friend is like mine was...who will believe all the things she says? Surely anyone who she would tell about you would realize she has no credibility. Cut her loose, and the sooner the better or she will drag you down in the dirt with her! So sorry this is happening to you. B

[Mick]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

hi Dixon lots of good advice on here...all saying the same thing...listen to your head not your heart...block the calls think about it..how many lives will be messed up if you go along with it

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

FreeFly;1378636 wrote: DITTO! This woman will not "hear" any of your attempts to help her. She will only hear what she wants to hear and that is to manipulate you. I have been in a similar position. It's scary and horrible but the only way to deal with it is to IGNORE!, just as your signature says to something that is very, very bad for you and can only harm you. Bless her in your thoughts, wish her well in your thoughts and say goodbye in your thoughts. Job done!

FreeFly,

Very nice advice ! . I also want not hurt at all because I know the pain so wanted to be helpful but I will be a more problem to her if I be connected with her.What I got from this thread is you all are almost with the same points to ignore the case and I am also convinced .
I will print out all the suggestions made here and readout at a time with marking the important points and will make a decision.
Great you !
Dix

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Mick;1378646 wrote: hi Dixon lots of good advice on here...all saying the same thing...listen to your head not your heart...block the calls think about it..how many lives will be messed up if you go along with it

Yes, Mick so many helping hands are here with the same voice ...
I am now almost convinced myself.
Thanks coming up here to join your hands too.
Dix:h

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Byrdlady;1378643 wrote: I agree with all others...YOU are her obsession! We all here know the best way to end an obsession is to cut it off at the head and don't feed it. I dated a guy like this who always threatened suicide when I said I wanted to break up...I felt guilty and trapped, so I stayed for a long time...then the threats became more frequent over stupid everyday stuff....'you just don't love me enough'...'you are just here out of guilt'....'I'm not good enough for you'. It was EXHAUSTING. He was actually telling me the truth in all these accusations...I WAS there out of guilt, and I DIDN'T love him at all because I was being held hostage! It was doomed. When I finally moved on, he made an attempt to cut his wrist and called me....I ran over there to find he had smeared the blood all over to make it look worse than it was. (his wounds were not life threatening) I told him I was moving on and I did. He never did amount to anything....just drifted through life and died of liver disease, living with an old lady as her 'helper'. He had problems LONG before I came along and long after. Besides...if your friend is like mine was...who will believe all the things she says? Surely anyone who she would tell about you would realize she has no credibility. Cut her loose, and the sooner the better or she will drag you down in the dirt with her! So sorry this is happening to you. B

Byrdlady,

Sorry to hear your tragic story , I hope you are feeling a sorts of relief.
In my case, she never ever drink Al or either her family members.They are very polite in words and socially recognized.They never try to harm any one ,so why the case is little bit difference here.But I do not have any way out . Isn't it ?
Your story giving me some more strength.
Dix

[Cashregister]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Hi again Dixon you don't have to do anything. You mentioned yourself in your first post that she has just finished a month stretch in a psychiatric hospital. She is not going to have much credibility blaming you for anything when it is already confirmed that she has mental health issues with or without you. Leave it be she needs to get better herself and if she does she will realise that her behaviour towards you has been awful.

[dixon]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Cashregister;1378677 wrote: Hi again Dixon you don't have to do anything. You mentioned yourself in your first post that she has just finished a month stretch in a psychiatric hospital. She is not going to have much credibility blaming you for anything when it is already confirmed that she has mental health issues with or without you. Leave it be she needs to get better herself and if she does she will realise that her behaviour towards you has been awful.

Cashy,

Excellent mate !
But she claims that she never had this before and that is just cause of me !! Any idea please.
She never ever drink any Al.
Also we had some sorts of negotiation to live together when I was terribly broken down with my family .Do you think it makes any bad sense if she had any evidence of our discussion living together for the rest of life ?
I am still not sleeping to see you here .
Dix

[Cashregister]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

A mental illness that needs hospitalization is not "caused by someone else". Her doctors will know that. We have all said (and texted) things we didn't mean when we are drunk. I really honestly believe you need to separate yourself from this person totally - not just for yourself but so she can get on with her own life and sort out her own problems.
You should get some sleep it's morning here in Oz. sleep is good
Cashy xx

[Cashregister]

Dixon has been facing some problems !

Also people change their minds, you changed your mind, that's not a crime. She is only going to make herself look silly if she tries to pin this on you. Perhaps you should talk to your doctor brother about this.
Goodnight sleep well!!