Week-end Worries

[melanie]

Hello To All My Fellow Mates,

The Week-end approaches with its temptations, and boredom (mmm, that can only be satisfied by Alcohol)...okay, that is the devil on my shoulder! I want him off so badly!
My friends are going to be around, some of my family (who all seem to have a "BETTER" time with booze)...oh is this what our lives have become? Maybe I just think that, maybe they want something more, and I am just the bad influence - especially on my 17 year old brother!
I don't know what to do, I should be happy that it is week-end and I can do the things that come with my signature! IE: ARTISTIC TALENTS (I have not painted in years - my mind & body has been consumed with other things that have just been a waste of my life!)...
But why does it seem like one can have so much MORE fun when under the influence?
Am I just making excuses cause it is week-end?
I am 5 days AF!

Take Care,
Mel

[ScoobyDoo]

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I feel what you're going through Mel. I'm right there with you.

*hug*
DooDoo

[Ripley]

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yup,me too, 6 mates round for supper here on saturday and boy the booze will be flowing.

Ok guys, WE CAN DO THIS. Think how good we will feel when we wake up clear headed the next day. think how proud we will be of each other. Let's not anticipate that it will be any harder than yesteday was - it's just another day. you only have to refuse one drink - the next one. And we are STRONG because we are here together.

Holding hands across the web... K x:l

[satori]

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melanie;101849 wrote: Hello To All My Fellow Mates,

But why does it seem like one can have so much MORE fun when under the influence?

I am only 6 weeks further along the path than you - but I am beginning to see very clearly that it is the alcohol that suckers you into thinking you are having a better time with booze!

I now feel SO much better than I ever did when drinking at my ussal level.
it is almost like getting a whole new life - everything is so much more vibrant and experiences are much more intense because you are not either anaesthatised by alcohol or feeling like sh*t while you get over the last session.
You get about half an hour of slight euphoria and then you are numbed down and not really living until the first drink of the next session.

It is no way to live!

Keep on the path - make whatever excuse you can to avoid drinking.

IT IS SOOO WORTH IT - if you keep on this path!!!!

Take care

Satori

xxx

[melanie]

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Wow, thanks guys, I am gonna try be strong (I know it is worth the effort), I hope it gets easier with time!
Satori, Kate & DooDoo...what you say means the world to me, thanks for your help, and time!
Chat again soon.
x x x

[Bella]

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I know exactly what you mean melanie!!! I really really do. Everyone laughs more when they are drinking don't they. It's all sooo much more fun isn't it? But i bet their hangovers aren't sooo much fun! I have found that by not drinking for 17 days now, i am always on the same even keel. I'm the same in the morning as i am in the evening at 11 pm. At first that is nice and steady, but after a while it becomes a bit samey. DANGER STAGE! What do i do now to liven things up? The devil in me says, Get plastered! Take drugs! But then my good sensible side says don't be stupid, jump up and down with joy, read a good book, do something you enjoy, like painting. I am also into painting and do childrens murals. Not that i've done any for a while but i will and you can paint too. How great to have a talent that not everyone has. We are dead a long time and i bet when you get to 75 you will look back and say if only i'd done that..... What a waste that would be. Believe you me i'm telling myself this too. Good luck. B

[melanie]

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Bella,
Thank-you is not just a word cause I really mean it. Thank-you for your inspiration & guidance, it is so wonderful to know I can chat to incredible people like you that really want something better for themselves! Let us paint, read book, enjoy life and really want to live to a good old age looking back saying, damn, I am wonderful!
Thanks again,

Luv Mel
x

[Ripley]

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so true - no one is going to lie on their death bed regretting that they didn;t spend enough tinme drunk...

I paint too! bad watercolours! haven;t done any since last summer. what a great idea to get started again. Bella, you booked thoses cinema tickets yet? how about evening art classes?

k x

[Bella]

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Hi kate, no cinema tickets yet, too busy sitting on my arse typing! Any excuse eh!!! Even though i've not done much today i have actually done something quite extrordinary for me. I have emailed a v good friend who i upset a while ago and lost her, all down to the drink. I have opened up to her and tried to explain things. It felt great and i hope she gets in touch.
Hey, you paint too? Lets set ourselves a target with melanie that we will all do some kind of painting by the end of march What do you think??? B

[Ripley]

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agreed. and something good requiring effort, not just splodge work. Mel,you on?

fantastic about your friend, these things take a lot of bravery.

Bella, I want to get you out of the house. You have got to overcome your fear of cravings. have you read the MWO book? you do not have to rely on willpower, that's the whole point. willpower sucks. the supps, kudzu, hypno etc WORK. They stop you wanting to drink yourself into the floor. you're making this SO SO hard for yourself love. take it from me, I know.

x:l

[Bella]

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I haven't read the book or taken anything. Maybe i should buy the book. I'll have a look at the home MWO site.

[tea]

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Really liked that one Kate that "the only drink you have to refuse is the first one", will be keeping that in mind this weekend. Hugs to us all this Friday night!

[Accountable for Me]

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Melanie, it does get easier with time. My first non-drinking weekend was pretty tough, and so were the next few to follow. Now being sober for over 8 weeks, I honestly ENJOY having this time to do things with friends and family without making an ass of myself. You need to take it one day at a time. It really makes things worse when you build yourself up days ahead. Breath deeply. Remember you are doing this for you - and it is worth it!

[Rocky]

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I've found it interesting to watch others drink, since I am not now..I'll have water. or tonic water and soda...and it's kinda empowering to watch and say to myself.."I don't need that" " or if you only knew what's that's doing to you" and then watch how stupid people get.....

Best wishes all for the weekend!

[DidItForMe]

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Bella:
Definately read the book and get some sups if you think they sound good. They do help. It is hard to believe that something can actually make the cravings decrease, but they do and it is a blessing. Best of luck to you all for the weekend and beyond!