Can't we all just get along?

[fluff]

Look - I've seen so many threads with fights starting up. It's ridiculous. If you have a belief -say it but don't demean others and don't demean the person that's writing about it, if you want to moderate than so be it, if you want to stop completely -hats off to you but please quit judging those who are not with you on what you think.

[sunshinedaisies]

Can't we all just get along?

Dare I post? I agree Fluff......

sun XX

[Eve11]

Can't we all just get along?

I agree Fluff. I'm cutting and pasting the first paragraph that I just put on a post which was replying to Marhsy's post of 1/2 bottle of wine a night. I think it says it the way it should be, IMO anyway!!

I am thinking the best answer for everyone may be that when responding to a post (other than in the moderate board section or abstinence board section where it is clear what path people are following) others should not even be able to tell if one is moderating, abstaining, or doing research and doesn't have a drinking problem at all but is just reading all of these posts for a homework assignment. :H . Also, any comments putting the other group down should be squashed as one never knows who is reading these posts when posted on "neutral" ground. That would eliminate the mod/vs/ab battles for sure.

:l
Eve11

Fluff,
I am editing this as I do want to add something to clarify the above. IMO it is ok for a writer posting on a moderation site to state that they are abstinent, however moderators need to tread very lightly when replying to neutral posts and especially to abstinence posts because it can possibly jeopardize someone's recovery who is struggling not only one day at a time to not drink...but one minute at a time. And always, people need to treat each other with respect, no name calling, etc. In this online world we are forgetting that we are responding to real people with feelings. We come here for support and this site should make us feel better when we leave and not worse.

We are all here as you stated Fluff with the common denominator of a drinking problem so let's stand united in that and quit being divided.

[fluff]

Can't we all just get along?

Thanks, you two- glad you agree- and we should all be aware that we are all different -but are all here for the same reason-that's why we googled it.

[FreeFly]

Can't we all just get along?

Well said Fluffy! :h

[drinkingal]

Can't we all just get along?

fluff;1392048 wrote: Look - I've seen so many threads with fights starting up. It's ridiculous. If you have a belief -say it but don't demean others and don't demean the person that's writing about it, if you want to moderate than so be it, if you want to stop completely -hats off to you but please quit judging those who are not with you on what you think.

Thanks fluff and I agree! Lets hope we can all get along and get back to what we're here for

[NoraC]

Can't we all just get along?

I'm with you Fluff. :h:h

[mama bear]

Can't we all just get along?

me too Fluff!!

[K9Lover]

Can't we all just get along?

Eve11;1392061 wrote: IMO it is ok for a writer posting on a moderation site to state that they are abstinent, however moderators need to tread very lightly when replying to neutral posts and especially to abstinence posts because it can possibly jeopardize someone's recovery who is struggling not only one day at a time to not drink...but one minute at a time. And always, people need to treat each other with respect, no name calling, etc. In this online world we are forgetting that we are responding to real people with feelings. We come here for support and this site should make us feel better when we leave and not worse.

Eve,

Well said, I totally agree. Thank you for summing it up so succinctly.

And yes, I really do hope we can all get along

K9

[IAD]

Can't we all just get along?

:crap:Fluff.....many good people have left this site because of other's selfishness.......It's a shame, good people that have been here and have helped so many . That's the way it is......sorry to say.

[Alcoholic]

Can't we all just get along?

I agree--- I came here because I thought there were very few judgmental people here. Then I encountered/read a few. Most were worded politely but some of them simply weren't. I hope everyone will read this thread and be more cautious of what they write from now on.

[Sunbeam]

Can't we all just get along?

I think people should ask themselves, is this conversation going to help someone? Passing negative judgement on methods that don't help you will be divisive, and helps no one. The people using those methods will become defensive. Instead people should post their positive methods that work for them, and let others reach their own conclusion.

[Alcoholic]

Can't we all just get along?

Lets kill them w kindness, guys!