You don't win happiness in life by being a victim and trying to fit into someone else's choices of how you should behave to be accepted, letting what others do and say damage your self esteem, making excuses for things that are within your control, playing gang bang tactics like cowards do, etc(yes, Zen, I read your comment, just let me know and I'll be there to fight...I was at the receiving end of one of those)...the list goes on and on. I'm seeing too much group fit in behavior here and not enough courage and resolve as survivors/individuals. Weakness and not enough strength. I didn't stop drinking because the truth was hidden from me. I got my 30 plus days in through the truth...the hard truth.
Winning a battle is not as hard as we make it on ourselves. If we continue to play a victim role, of course it is hard. If you don't want to do something or aren't ready, don't. If you do, DO it! Not all things in life are achievable even with our best efforts, but some things are and when they are and you want them, YOU can achieve them with commitment, determination, discipline and believing in yourself. If you don't want them bad enough, you won't succeed. I wouldn't call that failure, I'd say that you weren't committed to fully achieving them.
I am a survivor. I tend to be a loner and self reliant. I know when I want something bad enough, I'm going to do what it takes to get it. If I don't really want it, I am not going to achieve it. I don't need to make excuses. I'm not going to walk around on eggshells here because some people choose to be victims and gang bangers in groups and afraid of the truth. I'm a survivor and proud of it.
Do you want to be a survivor or a victim? Shake yourself. Wake up. Stop following programs and be YOU! When you are ready, do it! If you aren't don't set yourself up for failure and keep beating yourself up.
My take: 30 days is a good goal. It breaks the physical addiction and lets you know you are in control. I refuse to say I am powerless. You were not given the gift of life to be powerless. If you choose harm reduction, I believe you need to at least break the physical addiction first. If you can't do that, you can't moderate because you don't have the commitment or discipline to do so, that is if you are addicted. Ok, shoot the bullets. I just can't take the victimhood mentality, or the you better fit in or else bs going on around here and those who are giving in to it. Where is your backbone? Where is your courage? I'm not letting anyone knock me down again.
Slay
Winning a battle is not as hard as we make it on ourselves. If we continue to play a victim role, of course it is hard. If you don't want to do something or aren't ready, don't. If you do, DO it! Not all things in life are achievable even with our best efforts, but some things are and when they are and you want them, YOU can achieve them with commitment, determination, discipline and believing in yourself. If you don't want them bad enough, you won't succeed. I wouldn't call that failure, I'd say that you weren't committed to fully achieving them.
I am a survivor. I tend to be a loner and self reliant. I know when I want something bad enough, I'm going to do what it takes to get it. If I don't really want it, I am not going to achieve it. I don't need to make excuses. I'm not going to walk around on eggshells here because some people choose to be victims and gang bangers in groups and afraid of the truth. I'm a survivor and proud of it.
Do you want to be a survivor or a victim? Shake yourself. Wake up. Stop following programs and be YOU! When you are ready, do it! If you aren't don't set yourself up for failure and keep beating yourself up.
My take: 30 days is a good goal. It breaks the physical addiction and lets you know you are in control. I refuse to say I am powerless. You were not given the gift of life to be powerless. If you choose harm reduction, I believe you need to at least break the physical addiction first. If you can't do that, you can't moderate because you don't have the commitment or discipline to do so, that is if you are addicted. Ok, shoot the bullets. I just can't take the victimhood mentality, or the you better fit in or else bs going on around here and those who are giving in to it. Where is your backbone? Where is your courage? I'm not letting anyone knock me down again.
Slay
It's probably easier to take the best from what people post and use that as a starting block...
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