I've read some sad tales here about moms with small children struggling with alcohol. Sad because, I completely relate. My first child was very difficult, colicky and I was unprepared to deal with the transition. I knew better than to hurt him but I was in a group of about thirty other moms and we exchanged ideas with one another on how to cope. After weeks of my baby crying, I fell into a depression and dealt with it by going out my deck and pouring a glass of wine. There was nothing else I could do. My friends supported me. As the years passed of course my little boy has become a beautiful young son and I'm so proud of him but the passage into motherhood and drinking became intermingled.
Friday nights we got together with each other at the park for "Mom's night to Whine"
Wine was regularly part of our get togethers and never thought to be an issue. It seemed to be a needed crutch for us professional women who had to deal with the day to day rituals of motherhood.
Now, six years later as I join this forum and I see so many moms here I wonder what is it about motherhood that makes women so vulnerable to alcohol? For me, there was no issue before. What can we do to support women so they don't end up a decade later struggling with issues they thought might pass after preschool? One thing I felt was that after being good at so many things, I was good at nothing. Another issue I had was that when dealing with very small children time runs at a standstill. A drink or two helps speed up the clock and make the time go by faster.
Any ideas on how moms can be better supported so that small habits in the beginning don't linger and become larger problems later on?
Friday nights we got together with each other at the park for "Mom's night to Whine"
Wine was regularly part of our get togethers and never thought to be an issue. It seemed to be a needed crutch for us professional women who had to deal with the day to day rituals of motherhood.
Now, six years later as I join this forum and I see so many moms here I wonder what is it about motherhood that makes women so vulnerable to alcohol? For me, there was no issue before. What can we do to support women so they don't end up a decade later struggling with issues they thought might pass after preschool? One thing I felt was that after being good at so many things, I was good at nothing. Another issue I had was that when dealing with very small children time runs at a standstill. A drink or two helps speed up the clock and make the time go by faster.
Any ideas on how moms can be better supported so that small habits in the beginning don't linger and become larger problems later on?
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