Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Quest for the key;1420477 wrote: Mornin satzerooney

Worried bout runners - he was really down last night - and molls wasn't feeling her usual self - in fact Jacs was quiet too :-(

Perhaps it's pre Christmas blues ?

Hey Questerooney !
Yes I got a bad vibe from Runners - hope he's ok and not beating himself up.
I don't know exactly how bad his drinking is : but hope he comes back and just tell us - lay it on the line.
It was only when Ms S found the empty bottles I had in the cupboard (he never takes a drink in the house) that I was morto & decided to stop the daily drinking. to do this I took the AB - then couldn't drink at weekends. So I kinda just limped into this 'sober' malarkey - I deffo was in no rush ! :H:H

RUNNERS !! GET OUTTA THAT PIT !!!!

[Quest for the key]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Mornin molls feelin a bit better today ???

[Quest for the key]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

satz123;1420483 wrote: Hey Questerooney !
Yes I got a bad vibe from Runners - hope he's ok and not beating himself up.
I don't know exactly how bad his drinking is : but hope he comes back and just tell us - lay it on the line.
It was only when Ms S found the empty bottles I had in the cupboard (he never takes a drink in the house) that I was morto & decided to stop the daily drinking. to do this I took the AB - then couldn't drink at weekends. So I kinda just limped into this 'sober' malarkey - I deffo was in no rush ! :H:H

RUNNERS !! GET OUTTA THAT PIT !!!!

Well the only drunk consumed in the questy household is taken indoors - makes it doubly hard but yer already know my tale of woe

Come on runners - where is yer ???

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

mollyka;1420479 wrote: Morning all! No batch baking this morning - in fact - just havin a strong talk with myself :-)
Well young Arsey - I'm guessing you need a strong talking to as well???:l

Hey Mollerooney
How's tricks ? Is someone giving you grief - and making you take on their shit ?
You are a happy soul - I know from how you write posts - so don't let ANYONE bring you down . Let them work out their issues and you move on and stay happy.
Misery loves company me granny used to say & I'd scoff !
And they will come back into your happy vibration eventually! ( deep I know )
Prolly shite - but makes total sense to me .

Now all of the above is to be deleted - if there is a serious issue going on & IGNORE ME !!!

[Quest for the key]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

In the summer of 2011 me and mr q split up for a bit - it's a very long story, and there's still a lot of pain there. The reason I'm telling this is for you molls, cos at the time, my mum was there for me, and his family for him. But at the end of the day, we had to find our way back to each other.

As parents, we worry for our kids- we hurt for them and wish we could take their pain. And when there are grand kids involved, I can only imagine what that's like for a grandparent.

I think you'll worry, but they'll sort it out eventually

Sorry, I'm shit with advice, but my heart is with yer

[Quest for the key]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Oh, and the in laws still hate me guts - but that's a whole nother story !!!!

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

satz123;1420492 wrote: Hey Mollerooney
How's tricks ? Is someone giving you grief - and making you take on their shit ?
You are a happy soul - I know from how you write posts - so don't let ANYONE bring you down . Let them wallow in their misery and you move on and stay happy.
Misery loves company me granny used to say & I'd scoff !
And they will come back into your happy vibration eventually! ( deep I know )
Prolly shite - but makes total sense to me .

Now all of the above is to be deleted - if there is a serious issue going on & IGNORE ME !!!

Got it wrong again -- sorry Molls - thought it was OH driving you mad - IGNORE the wallow remark :h

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Good morning Reccybear, Foxyloxy, Tipperooooo, Mick, Questy, Marioooo, Satzuma, Mollymoo and I know yer lurking RC so show yer face.

Oh Reccy, get your heating sorted. I can't bear to think of you in the cold.

Geez Molls, This must be really hard on you, but you know you've got the tools to deal with it and us here if you need a blether. I'm in the mood for blethering.

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

[quote]mollyka;1420497 wrote:

In the summer of 2011 me and mr q split up for a bit - it's a very long story, and there's still a lot of pain there. The reason I'm telling this is for you molls, cos at the time, my mum was there for me, and his family for him. But at the end of the day, we had to find our way back to each other.

As parents, we worry for our kids- we hurt for them and wish we could take their pain. And when there are grand kids involved, I can only imagine what that's like for a grandparent.

I think you'll worry, but they'll sort it out eventually



Thanks for caring hon. As you can see from above - this isn't anyone giving me grief - it's just life 'happening'. I'll be good - very resilient these days PTL:l


Ah - thanks for this Questy - I just needed a 'friendly' voice about all this really. Joe is working all the hours, and when I do grab him for 5 mins to chat he's doing the 'man' thing - 'ah they'll be grand - they're just having a row' --- it's so much more than that - and because Jamie is my sons child as opposed to my daughters, I feel I could be cut out a bit ---- selfish I know, but I've grown faaaaarrrr tooo close to him - And I worry about Si. he's a real 'bottle it up' type - and he has an awful lot going on at the mo. buying house, job uncertain, and now this --- just terrifies me when young men are 'stretched' like that - there, I've said it!

Ah Molls -sorry again :l:l
It's your son - we will do ANYTHING to protect them !!!!

[RunningCourage]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

satz123;1420483 wrote: Hey Questerooney !
Yes I got a bad vibe from Runners - hope he's ok and not beating himself up.
I don't know exactly how bad his drinking is : but hope he comes back and just tell us - lay it on the line.
It was only when Ms S found the empty bottles I had in the cupboard (he never takes a drink in the house) that I was morto & decided to stop the daily drinking. to do this I took the AB - then couldn't drink at weekends. So I kinda just limped into this 'sober' malarkey - I deffo was in no rush ! :H:H

RUNNERS !! GET OUTTA THAT PIT !!!!

Morning troops.

Cannae find an emoticon that's right for now.

I'm ok. But I don't want to write: "this is my day 1", for fear that it's not. But i don't want to carry on as i was. So i'll lay it on the line, since you wondered Satzy.

If i didn't have responsibilities such as work, or goals with me running (which has currently lapsed), I'd prolly drink a lot more.

I was a daily drinker. At night. Once all the work is done (real work, school work etc). I'd try to keep it down to 4 cans, or 4 pints roughly. This past year i've drinking more beer as I used to drink wine each night. It was harder to motivate myself after wine. But come the weekend there'd be a bottle of wine to glug.

Then if i hit a trough, i'd use it as an excuse to drink more. But rarely in public. Sure i would be seen having the 5 o'clock pint most nights, but not often did people see me drunk. 2 pints and then home. They thought i went home, ate, watched a movie maybe. I did do all that, but would also have some cans or the bottle of wine there too.

Basically - in terms of units - week nights saw between 10 and 15 each night... and weekends would see more like 15 - 20 each night. Sometimes more. And sometimes less. It's been like this for pretty much 10 -12 years.

I've recogised that drinking is a problem for me for some years. I've looked into what's on the web in years gone by. The last 2 new years I've tried to cut down - even went 6 days AF in Jan 2011.

I think because of the marathon back in September, I saw that as an excuse for me to work towards a goal and try being AF. I'd been lurpaking here for a couple of weeks I think before i joined. The day I joined was my Day 1.... which lasted another 48 days. 7 weeks AF.

Then i consciously wanted to try and mod. You can see what happened in the space of a week on the Stella (Chook) I stole your booze thread. I did another 8 days AF. Then dinner with a close friend and one single beer.

The following night was thanksgiving, had a bottle of wine at a thanksgiving party... then, other than Sunday night last weekend (I was driving, so couldn't get drunk) I've been sleeping with booze each night.

Last night i just seemed to crack.

It's like a swansong ... It's like I've been hitting it harder because i know it's to be my last. But i can't believe it. Why can't i? It needs to be.

Quests - mind that post to you last week about attitude. Making THAT quit THE quit? That's what i'm wanting to believe. That, perhaps, just perhaps, this is it.

Gee, December must be the hardest month to quit. If I can get through this month, then maybes the rest will be a bitty easier?!?!

As you were troops.

[RunningCourage]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Molls, this is for ya (and anyone else feeling a bit in needy of a huggerrooo)

[Recluse]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Hello again

Sorry to hear about your worries molly. I guess this is something your son and his partner are going to have to try to sort out between themselves. Really, I think the only thing you can do is offer to be there if either of them wants to talk. You worrying yourself about it won't help anyone, least of all you, but I can still understand why you would worry. :l

satz123;1420478 wrote: Reccie - no-one in Ireland wants to spend, The shops are going mad ! Our government in their wisdom have decided to have a budget this Wednesday ???
A legacy from the good times !!!
Meaning people are scared to buy and the shops have sales on already :H The whole thing is CRAZY. Thank God I'm getting away from the madness this year.

Budgets in the present economic climate are not generally good news, but I hope for the sake of all the army folk in Ireland that it's not too severe. Thank feck our next budget isn't until next March, although the Chancellors Autumn Statement is also on Wednesday, so we should get a clue as to what is to come.

I'm just back from Sainsbury's. They're discounting a litre of Famous Grouse to 14 quid. Thank Christ the government is soon going to bring in a minimum price of 45p a unit, which would mean that bottle would have to cost at least 18 quid. Can't come soon enough as far as I am concerned and it is LONG overdue.

[Quest for the key]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Recluse;1420512 wrote: Hello again

Sorry to hear about your worries molly. I guess this is something your son and his partner are going to have to try to sort out between themselves. Really, I think the only thing you can do is offer to be there if either of them wants to talk. You worrying yourself about it won't help anyone, least of all you, but I can still understand why you would worry. :l



Budgets in the present economic climate are not generally good news, but I hope for the sake of all the army folk in Ireland that it's not too severe. Thank feck our next budget isn't until next March, although the Chancellors Autumn Statement is also on Wednesday, so we should get a clue as to what is to come.

I'm just back from Sainsbury's. They're discounting a litre of Famous Grouse to 14 quid. Thank Christ the government is soon going to bring in a minimum price of 45p a unit, which would mean that bottle would have to cost at least 18 quid. Can't come soon enough as far as I am concerned and it is LONG overdue.

I agree reccy - I'm sick of all the adverts for cheap booze too - like at 10am on a Sunday morning, and a Morrisons ad is on for all sorts of booze for silly money, and the kids say "oooo dad 15 bottles of bud for a tenner !" Combination of advertising pressure a?d patents who drink too much. And if the voices weren't there before, they are now !!!

[Recluse]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Quest for the key;1420514 wrote: I agree reccy - I'm sick of all the adverts for cheap booze too - like at 10am on a Sunday morning, and a Morrisons ad is on for all sorts of booze for silly money, and the kids say "oooo dad 15 bottles of bud for a tenner !" Combination of advertising pressure a?d patents who drink too much. And if the voices weren't there before, they are now !!!

Yep, the booze is everywhere and it's really hard to get away from it questie. I hope that 45p a unit is just the start. It won't hurt responsible drinkers much, simply because they don't consume many units. Higher prices and health warnings and bans on advertising were very effective in reducing the number of smokers and I see no reason why it wouldn't work with alcohol too.

Good to see you back again arsey. Have to say that I recognised an awful lot of what you said from my own experiences. My job helped prevent my drinking getting completely out of control for many years, but when I semi-retired my consumption rose noticeably. Good luck with your battle. I do agree with you that December is probably not the best time of year to try to stop or cut down, but then again, there never is a good time, is there?

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 2nd December

Quest for the key;1420493 wrote: In the summer of 2011 me and mr q split up for a bit - it's a very long story, and there's still a lot of pain there. The reason I'm telling this is for you molls, cos at the time, my mum was there for me, and his family for him. But at the end of the day, we had to find our way back to each other.

As parents, we worry for our kids- we hurt for them and wish we could take their pain. And when there are grand kids involved, I can only imagine what that's like for a grandparent.

I think you'll worry, but they'll sort it out eventually

Sorry, I'm shit with advice, but my heart is with yer

:l :l:l - thanks for sharing !!!
No one really knows what goes on in a family - do they ?
I have decided if someone is rude or not on form - I give them benefit of the doubt that they are probably dealing with something I can't know about. They , I'm sure , would prefer to be happy - but still dealing with stuff - they haven't got there yet !