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[Kradle123]

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Tipplerette;1436544 wrote: Kradle, I don't blame you for hiding from the gingerbread. It is my absolute favourite Christmas cookie... along with shortbreads.

Antabuse: i really should get on it if I can obtain it. Look what happened tonight:

It must be a full moon because i really struggled too. I was still reeling from the treatment my niece dealt me while staying at my place this past week. After she left hubby and I went to celebrate New years at my Hubby's totally French family. I was stuck in a completely French environment (I am struggling with the language) and everyone was drinking my favourite red wine. I refused for about two hours and when dinner was served i agreed to a glass. As soon as I did i regretted it. I wanted to change my mind but didn't want to bring attention to myself as they had been teasing me all night about not drinking. I said nothing; the hostess forgot about her offer, I drank my water and felt relief but also a sense of being helpless to alcohol's pull.

Tipp, you really are such a beacon of honesty and insight. Your life is so full and friendly...despite the niece- maybe we can think of her as an annoying diversion but you are so right- AL has that pull. It really has been such a huge part of our lives

I am proud of you. I think you did great and as you can see from lots of posts, for whatever reason the day after seems to be harder than the original day!!

Still hiding on the bedroom though now i Have a munchkin in here. :h

Wish I could wing up to Canada and give you hug:l or smack your niece...:tsk:

Love, Kradle :h

[Katakato]

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I HAVE COMMEITED NOT TO DRINK ANY MORE FROM THIS NEW YEAR 2013.. AND WOULD ALSO ADVICE OTHERS TO STOP DRINKING..../......,.....

[dixon]

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I am here too...
My life is becoming like a suspense movie,It is very curious and I think is in the climax.My future really depends in this year progress as there are so many decisions on life are going to be happened for sure !!
Lets see the first part of movie how does this end.
Still doing OK.
I knew in previous year that my depression is totally associated with boozing !!
Dix

[shelbysmiles]

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Tip, I feel for ya hon. That's a tough situation, especially for us with so few sober days under our belt. But, don't let it derail you, okay?

Dixon- I also struggle with depression. I've came off all my meds the past 6 months or so. Glad you are here.

I'm on day 5. Heading down to Disney with my little family. I'm not sure what my temptations will be. My parents are meeting us and they do not drink. But, I know they will offer to watch the kids one night so my hubby and I can go out. And per my post above, he has no plans to back off the booze.

Hope everyone has a great AF day!

[Tipplerette]

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Kradle123;1436555 wrote: Tipp, you really are such a beacon of honesty and insight. Your life is so full and friendly...despite the niece- maybe we can think of her as an annoying diversion but you are so right- AL has that pull. It really has been such a huge part of our lives

I am proud of you. I think you did great and as you can see from lots of posts, for whatever reason the day after seems to be harder than the original day!!

Still hiding on the bedroom though now i Have a munchkin in here. :h

Wish I could wing up to Canada and give you hug:l or smack your niece...:tsk:

Love, Kradle :h

You made me feel warm and fuzzy, Kradle and that counts for a lot. I would love to meet you too; for some reason I think we would have a laugh together.

I took the drastic move of 'unfriending' my niece on facebook mainly just to get her attention. I want to clear this up and have it not happen again. Cannot stand confrontation but decided she's either out of my life or will have to ask me why I unfriended her and we'll go from there. This is a biggie for me as I usually take mistreatment without defending myself.

It was a real wake-up call last night. It was, actually, pure luck that I didn't drink. I hope my strength builds as time goes on. Going to stick close to here; that's for sure.

[Alcoholic]

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Hi everyone,

So great to see many people here sharing experiences.

Tips : glad you didn't drink!

Kradle: you sound really sweet and honest too!

Had a difficult day too yesterday just because it was the first birthday of my mom since her passing. Just stayed in bed. Happy that I didn't drink... For one thing, my mom wouldn't want me to.

Work seems to be the only thing that motivates me to get out of bed. It's not just grief, depression, or anything but just pure laziness. I think alcohol used to get me out of bed on weekends, and now I don't have any substitute to get me up!!! Unless I work 7 days a week.... NA!

[Tipplerette]

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Alcoholic;1436756 wrote: Hi everyone,

So great to see many people here sharing experiences.

Had a difficult day too yesterday just because it was the first birthday of my mom since her passing. Just stayed in bed. Happy that I didn't drink... For one thing, my mom wouldn't want me to.

Work seems to be the only thing that motivates me to get out of bed. It's not just grief, depression, or anything but just pure laziness. I think alcohol used to get me out of bed on weekends, and now I don't have any substitute to get me up!!! Unless I work 7 days a week.... NA!

My thoughts are with you with regards to the anniversary of your Mom's passing. Staying in bed was the right thing to do. Giving yourself some TLC is exactly what you needed to do.

I can relate to your "laziness" as I suffer from lack of motivation too. Over time another reason to get out of bed will materialize once you've had a chance to create a life outside of drinking. Everything takes time.

Just treat yourself like you would treat someone else in his/her time of grief and early recovery; be kind and tolerant of your weaknesses. Congratulations for staying sober.

[OnceAgain]

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Ally - Thoughts are with you - losing a loved one is tough and the anniversary had to be hard. I am finding that I am lazy too! Since I have stopped drinking I have been napping every day and finding my energy level pretty low. Trying to change that today by forcing some exercise and running some errands. I don't have to go back to work until the 7th so nothing really motivating me to do much else but laze around. Good for you for not drinking on a hard emotional day!

[believer]

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Hi All.

I'm jumping back in...day 2 today. I made it through January last year, but only days here and there for the rest of the year.

Tipplerette...where are you in Canada? I am also thinking (seriously) about antabuse, but I don't think we can get it in Canada. I am thinking of driving across the boarder to get a prescription.

I'll keep you posted if you are interested.

B

[Dottie Belle]

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Hey Believer I am on day 2 with you...
We can do this...
Dottie

[AGUYFROMNC]

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I am Back, Hello to all my friends.
2 months ago I started drinking heavily again and did not want to come back and write.
Heres what triggered it, I found a woman and we really really clicked saw each other , talked, texted everyday, finally I told her I had been to a mental health detox center for alcohol and depression, I talked to her that night and that was the last time we talked, I texted her and tried to call, she said I needed to tell her this on day one and not wait all this time.
Now im wondering when is the best time to even tell someone you meet that you suffer from some type of problem, since it seems some are not accepting of it even though I am a atleast I think an honest caring man. back on the road to being sober , I stopped yesterday , I just remember how good it felt being sober.

[RunningCourage]

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AGUYFROMNC;1436848 wrote: I am Back, Hello to all my friends.
2 months ago I started drinking heavily again and did not want to come back and write.
Heres what triggered it, I found a woman and we really really clicked saw each other , talked, texted everyday, finally I told her I had been to a mental health detox center for alcohol and depression, I talked to her that night and that was the last time we talked, I texted her and tried to call, she said I needed to tell her this on day one and not wait all this time.
Now im wondering when is the best time to even tell someone you meet that you suffer from some type of problem, since it seems some are not accepting of it even though I am a atleast I think an honest caring man. back on the road to being sober , I stopped yesterday , I just remember how good it felt being sober.

Welcome back - good to see you again.

Re your query, when is a good time to say you have or have had issues with AL... well, to be quite frank, I don't think this woman is right in demanding you tell her on day one. Right now, this is YOUR journey, not hers, not anyone else's. If i were dating someone right now, I may say I'm not drinking, but I don't feel the need to tell them the whys and wherefores about it... not until I am ready. Plenty folk don;t drink and it's not because they have an issue.

Why does Western society have such a bleeding hang up about non-drinkers? I got a couple of friends who are AF and it's not because they had a problem with it. It's not because it's their religion. It's because they don't drink. Like I don't eat tripe. Or smoke. Or go to church on a Sunday. Or drink Dr Pepper (cos i think it tastes rank).

Guy from NC - you tell the girl you're dating in your own time. Not theirs. And you tell them as much or as little as you feel you need to at that time. All I'd say is be clear you don't drink - don't let anyone think that it is only tonight you are not drinking otherwise they will think you're only off the AL for a short period.

There's a guy I now who 2 years ago stopped drinking. Just decided "nah, bugger this, I'm gonna stop drinking for a while." So he has. For 2 years. He wasn't an alkie, but he just couldn;t be arsed with it. And neither does he say "I'll never drink again"... He just doesn't drink right now. And all accept that.

Sorry - bit of a ramble that!

Anyways mr guy from NC welcome back :welcome:

[Tipplerette]

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believer;1436818 wrote: Hi All.

I'm jumping back in...day 2 today. I made it through January last year, but only days here and there for the rest of the year.

Tipplerette...where are you in Canada? I am also thinking (seriously) about antabuse, but I don't think we can get it in Canada. I am thinking of driving across the boarder to get a prescription.

I'll keep you posted if you are interested.

B

I'm in Quebec too. The Gatineau region. Are you near Montreal? Can't get antabuse here. What's your plan to get it across the border?

[Alcoholic]

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A guy from nc:
Sorry to hear your experience w the girl. But there are plenty out there who will be more understanding... Hopefully!
From a girl's view, at least my opinion of what i would want: a funny, sweet, dependable man w a stable job, good relationships w his family, no trouble w law, and hopefully no drug/alcohol issues. But if there's an issue and you are working on it, then most girls who are long term relationship material will understand. But I would keep that info private until I'd known her for at least 3-6 months... Just my opinion...

I'm going to start drinker tracker again. I got lazy again and stopped tracking, I tend to do that. I need to work on my laziness, but I'm too lazy to work on it....

[Overit44]

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AGUY-I agree. No one's business. If it came up on the first night "why don't you drink" I might say, "I don't want to or I don't see any health benefits or I don't care of the taste or even I find I like it too much" but telling someone on the first night? That borderlines on TMI anyway.

But, on the other hand (no judgement here but proving her point?) look what happened. If she knew, she could prove her point that that's why she would have liked to have known you had a previous problem.

Like I said, no judgement here, I'm new to this too. I just know that with my dad's addiction, even though he got sober, EVERYDAY, when he would leave to go do something, you had to wonder if he was drinking. It just never went away, ever.

Good luck to you in your journey.