2013-LET'S DO THIS!

[Tipplerette]

2013-LET'S DO THIS!

Don't want to just drop off the face of the earth but hubby threatened to separate yesterday if I didn't stop being so quiet and withdrawn. I get like that when I'm not loaded. Need to rethink my plan. I got mad and said, "open that expensive bottle of red, then, if you don't like me sober." I drank a few glasses, had fun and went to bed.

Like I said I need to rethink. Hubby says I don't have a drinking problem and I am being anti social by not joining in the fun. He is right; I am not the robust, crazy, funny person he loves when i don't drink. I am a little confused and think maybe I've joined a forum that i have no business being in. Like I'm a farce or something.

He is sick of my negativity too and I am not positive right now. I probably won't come back on here to check all your responses, just letting you know what's going on instead of just going away unexplained.

I have met some amazing people on here and will never come back as Tipplerette. If I do come back i will be someone new. Really need to do some soul searching.

Adieu my lovely friends.

[prose]

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Hi all,

Once, please don't leave this forum! We are all here for eachother. I had only 2 days under my belt (was soo proud of that!) and lost control last night.
Woke up feeling like crap and also like I let people here down too.
I am trying to string together some "day ones" as anything more than that seems so overwhelming!

Tipplerette, I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles. One thing I am sure you are not is a farce.
I wish you all the best!

Hang in there everyone, I am back to day one as I said but it was really helpful to read about the non-linear approach....seems I am NOT a linear girl! more of a circle person i guess.....

bye for now,
prose

[K9Lover]

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Tipps,

I hope you DO come back and read this. You are NOT a farce. I don't want you to leave. We love you no matter what. You've been around a while, so you know that I had my fair share of struggles too. In fact I made the comment the other day that I get suspicious of people that have "easy" quits...not to say it can't be done, but it's highly unlikely. You need us, and we need you! Please know that you have friends here that care about you :l

K9

[merry]

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2013 i plan to do this I aim to be af this year
starting with jan af ist
day 5 af

[Struggles 106]

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WOW!!

Just read all the posts-
TIPS-Don't go away!! WHAT? I really hope you don't!

Kradle-those girls are adorable!
Once Again-KEEP TRYING! That is all we can do. I made it a point to take my AB ths morning; I could tell I was thinking of beer too darn much!

AND GUESS WHAT? I got a call from my boss this evening saying she needs to be to go to California MONDAY and come back Thursday. SOOO off I must go. HELL!!!
AND my Hanna is on a Navy base close to where I'm going but NOOOO- she is in a Navy assignment in Key freaking West FLA.

BUT the site I;m going to is on the bay in Vallejo so I will make the best of it.

Happy to "see" everyone today.

Peace to all

[Mootsbill]

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Oh tipps that all sounds worrying maybe you are depressed if you need alcohol to be fun, you could see a doctor? I hope you stick by anyway.
All good on day 4 for me, launched a new fitness class, panicked, stressed and shouted at the hubby and kids all day but didn't drink ;0) it was a great success so feeling very happy.
I'm still feeling tingles! Of stress and anxiety but I know these will dissipate nearer day 7.
Love and strength to all on our first sober Saturday of jan 2013 x

[Struggles 106]

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HEY MOOTS

Shouting is OK! I would be shouting, but I have noone to shout at. Except my cat, and she is so skittish I don't want to scare her LOL

I love coming home from work on Friday, just relaxing and then get a call to go to California MONDAY. THis is not the first time. But then I;m lucky to have my job so off I will go.

Have a great weekend

[patrice]

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Hi all,

I'm sorry to hear of the struggles some have been having... this is a hard road that's for sure but I think heading in the other direction is even harder long term..

It's the 5th Jan here and so it's day 5 for me... I can't say I'm feeling particularly sharp but I know that will come with time...

Someone said recently that stopping the booze is a hard slog... that's true I think.
But if we all keep going, keep slogging putting in the graft, one day ( who knows when?) we will wake up and say ' Wow I feel, look and AM great'!!

Take care
Patrice

[OnceAgain]

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K9, Ally, FT, Kradle - Thanks for the support. I am not doing that well. Just met up with an old friend and fell again... sigh. She had brought this great wine back from her trip to France. Only had 2 glasses of wine and I stopped but I feel like a failure. Not looking for sympathy or replies - just being honest with you all and myself. I will try again tomorrow. Hubby will be around so he can help me. Seems being on my own is a big trigger. K9 - My dog is named Roxy. She is such a sweetie - I love her so much - she is a great listener! Give Sandy a hug for me. :l

[paulywogg]

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tipperlette,i know how you feel! im so used to being happy and outgoing while drinking,its hard to find out who i am sober,please dont leave here though,were all struggling even when were not,in a way

[Kradle123]

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Tipplerette;1438049 wrote: Don't want to just drop off the face of the earth but hubby threatened to separate yesterday if I didn't stop being so quiet and withdrawn. I get like that when I'm not loaded. Need to rethink my plan. I got mad and said, "open that expensive bottle of red, then, if you don't like me sober." I drank a few glasses, had fun and went to bed.

Like I said I need to rethink. Hubby says I don't have a drinking problem and I am being anti social by not joining in the fun. He is right; I am not the robust, crazy, funny person he loves when i don't drink. I am a little confused and think maybe I've joined a forum that i have no business being in. Like I'm a farce or something.

He is sick of my negativity too and I am not positive right now. I probably won't come back on here to check all your responses, just letting you know what's going on instead of just going away unexplained.

I have met some amazing people on here and will never come back as Tipplerette. If I do come back i will be someone new. Really need to do some soul searching.

Adieu my lovely friends.

Tipp, may I say just one small thing?? ARE YOU FUCKING KDDING ME? :shocked:

I thought he just asked you to go to Florida? I refuse to believe that your husband wants to separate because you're not Social Susie at this time...that is BEYOND shallow...does he speak English?? How OLD is he? 17??

Forgive my ignorance but don't our spouses want to leave us because our behavior While Drinking is unacceptable or unhealthy? Unless they are invested in keeping us AL for whatever self serving reasons they may have.....then I can understand a spouse wanting to maintain their drinking companion....

Sorry Tipps, I know i dont know you're back story in detail but that certainly doesn't sound like a person invested in what's best for you...and remember: you yourself mentioned you had a bit of trouble standing up for yourself ...

Don't know what more to say. Am here for you. :l

[nurdl]

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Tipp, I just don't know what to say. Don't leave! Come back. We will figure this out together. You are loved here. Youre not a joke. at least check in.
Kradle - great response to this bizarre situation. I had the same thought. wtf?

[Kradle123]

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Thank you Nurdl,

I thought I might have been too...emotional...

I did PM her :h
:l

[Struggles 106]

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Good Morning Saturday

Hey everybody-

TIPS-I dont know if you are around, but I agree with Kradle-WTF? You are the one who knows what you need to do. No "fun" without alcohol? Hmmm...
I so hope you stick around!

As for my trip to Cali-I already had the thought OH HEY I can sit by the bay and have Pinot Grigio. AGAIN with the thoughts! I am certainly not going to do it but the thoughts persist. As soon as I thought about it I thought about an image of my 2013 calendar with a glaring HOLE in it from drinking, so to speak. Not happening.

Day 5 of the new year! Happy weekend to all

[paulywogg]

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i swear men act so crazy sometimes! they hate the way we are drunk then get pissed when were quiet trying to heal ourselves! getting healthy is more important than being the life of the party,it just sounded exactly like the shit my husbands been saying to me,im sorry