Not doing as well as I would like to be

[momof2boys]

Hi All,

I was being very cocky in thinking I could beat this thing called alchohol addiction. I haven't got any of the supplements or the book. I thought I was super woman and could do this on my own. I was doing quite well until last weekend. I curled in a lady's bonspiel, which is usually a good party. First night I did well and only had 2 drinks. The second day was different, I lost count of how many drinks I had. Now the fun begins, I was not having to many cravings until this last binge, now I am having such a hard time abstaining.
I am feeling very foolish about not getting the sups and book. I really want to quit the drinking part of my life, but now am thinking I don't know how to.

I welcome any input to this unbelievable situation.

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[tawnyfrog]

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Momo ... I really feel you should read the book. Then decide whether you want to do the supps. I personally place great value on the kudzu.

I understand about wanting to do it on your own. But it's actually ok to use a bit of help.

Keep delving. You'll get there.

[ScoobyDoo]

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momof2, I think you need the tools to help work through the phsych stage. This is what is really helping me in changing the way I think about/view alcohol.

I suggest downloading the book and having a read... it's so inspiring that it'll help put you in the right direction, and I do think things have a much greater chance of falling into place for you.

Doo

[Popeye]

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HelloMom

I know people who have been sober for years and still have to battle regularly with their demon. Maybe 'beating' our addiction is the wrong word. I'm trying to beat mine, but I'm thinking maybe I can only 'control' it. Just a thought.....
You can only try again. Get the book and decide what you need to do. It' going to take me a long time, but with some strength and the support of friends, we can change ourselves.
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[Bella]

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Hi momof2boys, I have just finished reading the book and it is truly inspiring. It made me think that it is all okay to feel like i do. I stongly recommend it. I am not taking any supps as i like you feel i am able to do without at the mo. But I am not going to hesitate if it gets too much for me. Its not expensive and worth a read. Good luck. B

[traderged]

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hi mom,yes i understand,when i manage af for a few days the cravings become managable
but once i reward myself with a drink ,my craving returns with a vengance, so i have decided to get the sups,it cant make matters any worse.

[Rocky]

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Mom...there is absolutely NO reason to feel foolish...after all you are trying to overcome a strong foe in alcohol. You tried one plan, and it had some gaps in it, so now you know you may need to read the book, and gather together some more tools and set out again... You can do it...just do not give up, and do not beat yourself up...

Keep on keeping on....

[Breez]

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The more you try the more success you will have. Never give up. Rocky hit the nail on the head-you found a gap in your attempt "no book, no supps".

Read the book-take it from there.

Hang tough...we're behind you!
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[lushy]

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As someone who thought I could do this on my own when I first started I cannot tell you what a difference taking the supplements (particularly the kudzu like Tawny said) and the CDs have made. Totally changed my focus. If you were doing well without all of these tools, imaging how great you will be with these tools.

[Guest]

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Momof 2, we all fail sometimes, I did yesterday.We just have to try our best to get it right each day.
hugs
mar

[Guest]

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MOMO, I have done SO much better since getting the supps. I can't tell you the difference it has made. I feel good, I have started to sleep better, and I am AF 6 days now. Get them!!! Hang in, we have ALL slipped...you are not perfect. This didn't happen overnight and is not going to leave overnight. You can do this!!!!!

[weemelonhead]

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Mom.....I know what you mean when you say you would like to do this on your own...but believe me sweetie, even if you read the book, listen to the cd's and take the supps, you are STILL doing this on your own. Nothing can make you stop drinking if you don't want to...you could probably shovel kudzu down your neck with a dumptruck, and if you wanted to have a drink, you would still drink...Only YOU can make these tools do the job they are there for....
You are doing this for you....the other stuff can just make it a bit easier...and why not... this is not supposed to be a Japanese style endurance test...this is supposed to be about finding the best and easiest way for you to make your life a healthy one....use the strong mindset you already have, and strengthen it with anything you can to make this a good experience.
If you had diabetes, you would not feel bad about taking necessary meds to help with the condition....you would still eat sensibly and all the rest of it, but you would get the med help you needed to make sure that things stayed on an even keel...why should this be any different.....

Make it easy on yourself girl....you deserve it!!
Weemelon xxx

[irishlady]

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Momof 2, Listen to all that has been said, its such good advice... Especially tawny and lush re kudzu, I can't praise that stuff too much...

Popeye also said something to bear in mind, its not so much about BEATING this addiction, its more about CONTROLING it...

Good luck, and remember DON'T stop trying.

Love, Louise xx

[momof2boys]

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Thank you everyone for your support and wonderful advice. I decided I am going to get the book and Kudzo and take it from there. It is amazing how easy it is to start drinking and how unbelievably hard it is to stop. I am the same way with food, always eat too much of the wrong stuff.
Thanks again for all the kind words it makes me feel good to come on here and be with people just like me.

Take care all.

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