Letter to My Lover

[Supercrew]

Letter to My Lover

Slaythefear;1441706 wrote: Similarities in our opposing forces that keep us in bondage to something that is very unhealthy for us, but I agree that parting from a relationship with a human being that you have been in love with is much more devastating. However, we can be addicted to both AL and the relationship that is harmful to us and not want to let it go. The process of letting go and freeing yourself and the fight within the mind is so very very similar. Excuses and denial are both processes we use to continue on with the harmful person or substance.

I'm fighting them both right now or should I say I'm working to SLAY them both right now. Reason should win, not lies.

Slay

Im not disagreeing with you as much as I am pointing out that sometimes we make things harder to separate from by humanizing them and giving them life. Another person has feelings and can change and can love you back, a bottle of alcohol does none of those things. The more you give it life the more power you give it over your own life. And it only has power if you take negative action and drink it.

[K9Lover]

Letter to My Lover

Supercrew;1441676 wrote: Do you have a relationship with milk, orange Juice or bananas? You have relationships with people, not beverages. It's a bad habit not a relationship, IMHO.

I disagree. A definition for the word relationship is: "a connection, association, or involvement"

If milk, orange juice or bananas helped me to escape reality, I would grieve their absence like I did alcohol. I think we are just admitting that it was a HUGE part of our lives and it's hard to let go of anything that took up that much of our time and energy. And for some people, the comfort that alcohol brought was the ONLY comfort they ever received...period.

We are also capable of having relationships with animals...it's not a word limited to human/human contact.

[Phin]

Letter to My Lover

Well said, Next!

[Sunbeam]

Letter to My Lover

My take away from this discussion continues to be in my signature line, Wine is NOT my friend. Some people can rather poisonous, I see no harm in personifying alcohol if it helps you move forward in the battle. I used to drink with my friend, now I don't, and it never was a friend.

[Hippyman]

Letter to My Lover

Byrdlady;1441652 wrote: It's the loss of a significant relationship and the same grieving process applies, IMHO. B

I had always felt lonesome without my constant companion when I quit in the past. Somehow this time it's different? I am different, this time 4 sure. I rescued a mini dog that I carry in my Monks bag to replace the companionship of the beer. . She was a pitiful case and needs constant reassurance. She peaks her head out and trusts that I won't let anyone harm her. She's my new LOVER! The other one is outta my life forever!!!

[Hippyman]

Letter to My Lover

Sunbeam;1442769 wrote: My take away from this discussion continues to be in my signature line, Wine is NOT my friend. Some people can rather poisonous, I see no harm in personifying alcohol if it helps you move forward in the battle. I used to drink with my friend, now I don't, and it never was a friend.

Yep, That kind of friend we DO NOT NEED!

[Kradle123]

Letter to My Lover

Supercrew;1441650 wrote: I felt like alcohol was my best friend/lover for a long time, and now I realize that is really part of the problem. No doubt it is a great letter, and entertaining to read, but it isn't healthy. And the longer you look at your relationship with alcohol or any inanimate object or action for that matter the longer you will react to feelings like it is a person you are giving up.

You aren't giving up a loved one, you aren't giving up a friend or an old family member......you are deciding not to pour poison down your throat period. Don't give alcohol anymore power than it already has by giving it life. It is just a bottle of liquid that makes you stupid and you waste money on it, and it ruins your relationships with REAL people.

I completely understand what you are saying Coach Crew. Giving AL anymore power over us isn't helping.

But Al does have or had power over us on our journey and the goal of course is to take that power away from it and give it back to us.

I think each person depending on their experience needs to render AL powerless in their unique way.

But I do see where you are coming from.

Hugs and heart
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