Army Thread Friday 11th January
Oh Satz it all sounds so hard.
You were happy NOT drinking. Do this for you not for any one else. Stay close cos we love you:l
satz123;1442281 wrote: Need advice Army. I was AF for 6 months with 2 small breaks and bounced back.
I did not miss it AT ALL ! Seriously not a bit.
I KNOW if it was a normal Christmas I would have gotten through - but holidays are too intense for me and out of my comfort zone.
But when I go on hols I love cold beer or 2 at lunchtime, evening time and wine with dinner. Then I'm done. While the rest of them drank late into the night - shots and all ! Not once was I drunk or falling down.
My DD decided to confront me and said it was problem drinking to want a drink at lunchtime.
WHAT is normal drinking ? Go all day then at a certain time in the evening it's ok to get blathered ?
Now she is a cow sometimes when SHE has a few wines too many - picks on us all about various things - our weak spots sort of thing but ...... is she right ?
Now I KNOW I had a problem when I was drinking every day - small amounts too but EVERY DAY. I knocked that on the head & then kept going and did not drink at all.
Mr Satz said I was in a boring routine 'cos I wouldn't go to pub. It's ok to drink and get pissed but only when he is drinking and in the pub.
What do you think Army ? Is my sitting with my family late one night after playing cards in Oz gettting told I have a problem 'cos I have a different drinking pattern to them - my rock bottom ??
Mr Satz joining in - the traitor - telling about 'bottlegate' last May! And saying in next breath he didn't realise I had a problem
HIS idea of the problem was that I drank at home and wouldn't go to the pub to get pissed with him.
I'd love your advice. Do I need to draw a line now and stop completely ? 'Cos if I do I know it will be a huge change in our marriage - 'cos I won't be going to the same places any more where drink is the focal point - and he is already complaining I am in a 'rut' 'cos I don't mix in boozy pub circle any more - but I needed that to stay sober last 6 months
Am I an alcoholic ? There I've said it ? :upset:
Answers on a postcard please
I did not miss it AT ALL ! Seriously not a bit.
I KNOW if it was a normal Christmas I would have gotten through - but holidays are too intense for me and out of my comfort zone.
But when I go on hols I love cold beer or 2 at lunchtime, evening time and wine with dinner. Then I'm done. While the rest of them drank late into the night - shots and all ! Not once was I drunk or falling down.
My DD decided to confront me and said it was problem drinking to want a drink at lunchtime.
WHAT is normal drinking ? Go all day then at a certain time in the evening it's ok to get blathered ?
Now she is a cow sometimes when SHE has a few wines too many - picks on us all about various things - our weak spots sort of thing but ...... is she right ?
Now I KNOW I had a problem when I was drinking every day - small amounts too but EVERY DAY. I knocked that on the head & then kept going and did not drink at all.
Mr Satz said I was in a boring routine 'cos I wouldn't go to pub. It's ok to drink and get pissed but only when he is drinking and in the pub.
What do you think Army ? Is my sitting with my family late one night after playing cards in Oz gettting told I have a problem 'cos I have a different drinking pattern to them - my rock bottom ??
Mr Satz joining in - the traitor - telling about 'bottlegate' last May! And saying in next breath he didn't realise I had a problem
HIS idea of the problem was that I drank at home and wouldn't go to the pub to get pissed with him.
I'd love your advice. Do I need to draw a line now and stop completely ? 'Cos if I do I know it will be a huge change in our marriage - 'cos I won't be going to the same places any more where drink is the focal point - and he is already complaining I am in a 'rut' 'cos I don't mix in boozy pub circle any more - but I needed that to stay sober last 6 months
Am I an alcoholic ? There I've said it ? :upset:
Answers on a postcard please
You were happy NOT drinking. Do this for you not for any one else. Stay close cos we love you:l
Keeping it simple. Keeping it real.
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