ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

[JackieClaire]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Quest for the key;1449035 wrote: Right, I'm gonna come clean.
I'm not doing well with the old AL at the minute. In fact I'm back at square one - one on, one off........
I'm under a great deal of stress at work, and using the bottle to run home to and "destress" - wtf ? I'm at a stage where I thinnk it's never going to change.
It took me till dinner time today to just recover - and that's after driving 30 miles to work. Dangerous. sat in a 1.5T battering ram doing 90 miles an hour - not good.
I know I need some sort of help - I just don't know what to do.

I'm sorry to burden yer - I'm just struggling is all :-(

Don't be a daftie. Now to start get the idea you're a burden out of you head..................right is that done. Good I'll carry on.

Weird that I read this that you were running home to distress not de-stress. If you boil it down that is what alcohol is bringing to your life distress.

First things first then. Have you spoken honestly with your husband. Not like I used to weeping and wailing after several glasses of wine and making all sorts of impossible promises.

Secondly trip to the doctors. They've heard it all before and probably more. Yep they'll go on about AA but they're getting more savvy these days. Most likely you'll be reffered for specialist alcohol counselling and treatment. No.............they will not drag you off to a nut house, take your children away or share any of your medical records with any one unless you give them written permission. (I'd always believed that was the case and just had it confirmed this afternoon you have to give permission.).

Thirdly I'll not lie to you it will be shite. But we'll be here to guide you through every single shitty moment. OK.

Never mind picking a day. Today's as good as any. If you've already started then tomorrow. All booze to be removed from the house toot sweet.

[Hippyman]

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mollyka;1448942 wrote: Just back from the funeral - awful sad really - all I could think of was Pat (Andrews mammy) and me as two young ones, sitting outside the classroom waiting to hear about our brats (Andrew and Simon) at parent-teacher meetings!! She was a lovely lady!
Goin to have a coffee now and then head down to see Jamie, lucky to see on FB that it's Laura's burfday -- shit I'd be the worst in the world if I'd missed that!

Sorry you are sad Molly!:huggy:heartsnflowers:

[sweetpea29]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Hi Jackie and Hippy

[Quest for the key]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

JackieClaire;1449143 wrote: Don't be a daftie. Now to start get the idea you're a burden out of you head..................right is that done. Good I'll carry on.

Weird that I read this that you were running home to distress not de-stress. If you boil it down that is what alcohol is bringing to your life distress.

First things first then. Have you spoken honestly with your husband. Not like I used to weeping and wailing after several glasses of wine and making all sorts of impossible promises.

Secondly trip to the doctors. They've heard it all before and probably more. Yep they'll go on about AA but they're getting more savvy these days. Most likely you'll be reffered for specialist alcohol counselling and treatment. No.............they will not drag you off to a nut house, take your children away or share any of your medical records with any one unless you give them written permission. (I'd always believed that was the case and just had it confirmed this afternoon you have to give permission.).

Thirdly I'll not lie to you it will be shite. But we'll be here to guide you through every single shitty moment. OK.

Never mind picking a day. Today's as good as any. If you've already started then tomorrow. All booze to be removed from the house toot sweet.

Thanks Jacs :l

I haven't had any of the dreaded shite tonight - chicken stir fry and corrie in front of the fire

You're right - I should make this day THE day. I'm scared :upset:

I'm planning already - when this tender goes in on Friday - celebration - why can't I celebrate another way ? I have it when I'm happy, sad, stressed, relaxed, shite - every opportunity !!!

I just want to live a bloody normal life !!!!:upset:

And thanks everybody - I might not name everybody but I am grateful for all you help, advice, support and encouragement :thanks:

[limers]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Hi all, after all my shyte yesterday about been indifferent, today im craving like a mad bint, its not nice. However im off to choir and by the time I get home offie will be shut, thank God they shut at 10pm here, will not give in but really,bad cravings hit for the first time this time.
Quetie, your not alone and its not easy.............

[JackieClaire]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Hello yous two. Just gonna put the kettle on. Anyone fancy a cup of tea.

[limers]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

I want to talk to you all later about something, want your advice. Will be back on after choir. I know exactly whats behind my drinking thinking and need good sound solid advice.

[sweetpea29]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

JackieClaire;1449164 wrote: Hello yous two. Just gonna put the kettle on. Anyone fancy a cup of tea.

Ta Jacks, but i is a coffee girl. Be a dear tho a take this galaxy hazelnut away from me before it disappears x

[sweetpea29]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

limers;1449167 wrote: I want to talk to you all later about something, want your advice. Will be back on after choir. I know exactly whats behind my drinking thinking and need good sound solid advice.

Sorry Limers, wasnt ignoring ya x

[Cinders]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Limers and Questy,

I so understand the cravings and the insane thinking.

I have always been very jealous of those who just wake up one day and that is it. I don't know if that will ever be me.

However, right now I am determined. I am not allowing myself to think that taking a drink is an option. It isn't, at least not for me. So, that is off the plate. But, that doesn't make it feel better when I start to want to drink.

I remember in A Piece of Cake, Cupcake Brown was completely amazed when her AA sponsor told her, "Just because you want it doesn't mean you have to do it." That concept had never occurred to Cupcake before.

I keep remembering that line.

Kuya also reminded me that alcohol truly is poison. Period. For me, not only is alcohol poison, but at this point for me it is deadly poison. I have to keep reminding myself of that, too.

Cindi

[RunningCourage]

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Back again. Sorry - had to go winge!

Questy - JC said it in a nut shell or two. And i SO HEAR you about being scared. It is scary and at times IT IS SHITTY....

BUT - you will get your life back. In the end YOU will be calling the shots. It is a bit of an either/or - either you settle into a life of booze, embrace it and let it suck you dry... or you reject it and YOU take YOUR life into your own hands.

Life is good for everyone. Booze is bad for us.

There are so many great analogies bouncing about these boards - but really, I do believe that if you want something enough and you work towards it, you will achieve it. Whether that be simply going to the cinema more often to see more movies; training to run a 5K race; having 24 hours clear of booze, or a life time free of booze... if you want it enough and work towards it, there is so much we can do and be.

:l

[RunningCourage]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Cinders;1449174 wrote:

I remember in A Piece of Cake, Cupcake Brown was completely amazed when her AA sponsor told her, "Just because you want it doesn't mean you have to do it." That concept had never occurred to Cupcake before.

I keep remembering that line.

Ooooh. That's IS a good line / way of thinking Cinders.

[RunningCourage]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

:hallo: hiya SnowPea,

Better today thanks. Still not feeling right, but I've got it off me chest. Just gonna rest up and play word here for a bit

[JackieClaire]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

Quest for the key;1449160 wrote: Thanks Jacs :l

I haven't had any of the dreaded shite tonight - chicken stir fry and corrie in front of the fire
You're right - I should make this day THE day. I'm scared :upset:
I'm planning already - when this tender goes in on Friday - celebration - why can't I celebrate another way ? I have it when I'm happy, sad, stressed, relaxed, shite - every opportunity !!!
I just want to live a bloody normal life !!!!:upset:
And thanks everybody - I might not name everybody but I am grateful for all you help, advice, support and encouragement :thanks:
It is scary, hun. We're doing something that we never thought we could do. It was a bit like child birth for me. I was terrified until Mr JC pointed out even the Queen had done it 4 times and survived.

And I would celebrate the opening of an envelope or any day with a y in it. We are not normal and never will be. To be honest now I'm sober I quite like it

limers;1449167 wrote: I want to talk to you all later about something, want your advice. Will be back on after choir. I know exactly whats behind my drinking thinking and need good sound solid advice.

Not a problem, Limeyloo, my gorgeousness.

sweetpea29;1449168 wrote: Ta Jacks, but i is a coffee girl. Be a dear tho a take this galaxy hazelnut away from me before it disappears x

Instant Ok and just chuck the chocklit this way. Anything to help a fellow sufferer

[RunningCourage]

ARMY THREAD 23/01/2013

sweetpea29;1449168 wrote: Ta Jacks, but i is a coffee girl. Be a dear tho a take this galaxy hazelnut away from me before it disappears x

DO NOT GIVE IT TO JC!!!!!

Ummm....eh.... me... you can give it to....ehm.... me?

Pretty please?

Pretty PRETTY please?!

My precious galaxy chocolate... precious.... *reaches out long skinny mucky arm*