My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

[Mootsbill]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Finding no pleasure in life is a common symptom of depression, I've been there an suffered it, go and see a doctor, therapist and take up exercise. Drinking causes depression so in the long term it will make you feel worse. I would tackle the depression head on and try to be AF whilst doing it. Good luck ;0)

[martye]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

AGUYFROMNC;1454861 wrote: My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

I am known I think on this forum for being blunt and to the point so I say that is a cop out and complete bullshit! I will let everyone else deal with your other questions

But I call bullshit. Results or excuses and all I can hear are excuses!

[kuya]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

martye;1455244 wrote: I am known I think on this forum for being blunt and to the point so I say that is a cop out and complete bullshit! I will let everyone else deal with your other questions

But I call bullshit. Results or excuses and all I can hear are excuses!

Marty
I have learnt, after some time here, that sometimes we must save our energy for where it will do some good.

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

I understand your bluntness, OK when I was sober for almost an entire year, I went to the therapists, went to the phycologists. took the anti depressants, took the anxiety medications, took all the combination of drugs that were supposedly suppose to make me happy. I want to be happy , enjoy the things in life like some of the closest people do. nothing just emotionless and not happy.
I did all these tings that were recommened to me to fix myself before dating, that is one thing I enjoy companionship...So when I thought I was ready I met a girl who told me all the things I wanted to hear, ur mine forever, your so differnet in a good way from the rest of them, ect,,,, Then one day I told her I was going to go to my phyclogist appointment, she asked for what? I told her about these mental issues I was going through, after that the phone calls became very infrequent, we used to text each other all the time during the day, finally it all came to an end. I know why, but it did not return me to drinking. I tried my best to just put it aside and move on. Even sex is not that pleasurable, I hope I can say this but I have always had a problem since high school with erectile dyscfunction. Sometimes I fake it that I am happy, Tho I am not. Really the only thing in this life that has made me happy was alcohol.

[kuya]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

IF you honestly believe that alcohol is the ONLY thing that can make you happy ( which is a VERY inflammatory statement to make in this place IMO)

Then WHY are you here?

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Oh im sorry if offended anyone. I thought this was a discussion forum, just maybe , maybe looking for that missing piece of information from someone who can help a fellow sufferer. That's why I am here.

[kuya]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

AGUYFROMNC;1455299 wrote: Oh im sorry if offended anyone. I thought this was a discussion forum, just maybe , maybe looking for that missing piece of information from someone who can help a fellow sufferer. That's why I am here.

No offence....just confused.....EVERYONE else is here because booze is ruining their life, yet you want to contend it is the only thing that makes you happy.

You are either in denial about your alcohol problem or on the wrong forum.

We are not here for a discussion, we are here to quit or control our alcohol consumption.

You, it would appear, are happy with your alcohol consumption, therefore you are NOT a fellow sufferer IMO

[Siren136]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Guy, I'm not sure what a phycologist is supposed to be. I'm going to assume this is supposed to be a psychologist. Psychologists aren't allowed to prescribe meds, at least in the US. I think you may need to go see a psychiatrist. This forum is no substitute for medical evaluation. You may have issues that need to be evaluated by a trained professional. You obviously have a lot of obsessive thoughts that haven't been addressed yet, as well as depressive symptoms.

Please seek out a psychiatrist trained in OCD and Depression. You deserve to live a life full of joy. Right now I don't think you are really living - you're surviving.

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Thanks for your opioins, spelling error that's all. I always get the two confused, yes I go to a phychiatrist, the one that prescribes meds.

[Siren136]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Then get a new one. If you were off alcohol for a year and all they did was medicate you (and still couldn't get it right) then you need to see someone else. Medication should get you to the point where you can see and discuss your issues in a clear light. Try seeking out a professional who specializes in OCD and Depression, maybe some anxiety issues. The reason alcohol makes you happy is that you are self-medicating.

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

OK

[Struggles 106]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

NC GUY

Very interesting discussion here.

I notice that you said (in regard to meeting someone new) you might "LET" her stay on facebook.
Excuse me but what is that about? If you go into a relationship thinking that you can LET anyone do anything then that is a problem IMO.

But then maybe that is just me. You are doing some things that could be helpful, seeing a psychiatrist etc. BUT meds are not always the answer. A therapist who specializes in addiction would be good I think.

I say fuck facebook. It's an external provocateur for lots of different emotions if you let it be. It is so inconsequential to building a good happy sober life.

And I dare say alcohol doesn't "make you happy" . It makes the things you detest bearable. That is all; it is a masking of what is really going on that needs to be addressed in a sober way.

I wish you all the strength you need to get where you need to be. You are not incomplete without a woman in your life

[aihflvt]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Taking what Ann says a step further, alcohol may make things bearable for you, but it also makes you unproductive and useless. Does being useless and unproductive make you happy? I'm sorry if this is blunt, but as I've posted earlier in this thread, I know what you are feeling, even though the root of our problems is quite different. Like everyone else has already said, you've got to quit the pity party and do whatever you need to do to get your life straightened out. The happiness at the bottom of a bottle is illusory. Not only will things not improve until you recognize that, they will get worse because with each drink you are wrecking your health. My wife told me to write every time I felt like taking a drink. I have been more productive in the past nine days than I was during the past four months. Perhaps finding a productive outlet for your energy other than drinking might help you too.

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Wow, I am really starting to rethink what you all said, some of the things make absolute sense, I cant control her having facebook, and don't need to worry about it if I really trust her.
I remember the last post saying when I drink I become useless. So true because when I wake up and I downed a fifth of vodka, I am useless the next day.. Really all I want is a woman who understand me and doesn't use facebook. Until then I will remember some of these powerful posts.
Thank You

[Struggles 106]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

NC GUY

You can't love somebody until you love yourself.
Until you can offer a clear-headed grounded approach to a relationship
You have to find your way alone before you can
add someone to your life.
As I said I hope you don't feel incomplete without a partner
I know a lot of women who feel this way. Not a good mindset
Drinking does nothing FOR you but it does a lot TO you.
All of it BAD
Isn't it a waste of time to be drunk, which means you are not experiencing
life as it is, and another waste of time trying to recover from being drunk?
Life is way too short for that crap