My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

[martye]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

The whole "not using facebook" things seems you have a trust issue with who ever you date.

There is nothing wrong with anyone using FB, my partner is on it all the time she loves its. I have no issues at all. I have no issues if she has ex partners on there or talks to other males, none of it bothers me.

Reason being I trust her and I trust our love for one another.

You need to learn to trust, not makes rules that will make it easier for you. If you tell them they cant use FB I can assure you they will they just wont tell you.

You need to comfortable in who you are. The sober you. You need to love yourself! When you achieve this nothing else will matter, as you will know you are a good man full of potential and love and if there are toxic relationships in your life you will remove them as you love your self first.

[TheSunFlower]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

AG....I recently read about all this happiness stuff. Yes, AL makes you happy.....but, at the end of the day it doesn't.

It told me to not plan on happiness for a year. My emotions will be all over the place.

So I am doing one year of "it totally sucks".....I rather have one year of sucking.....than txt 20.

[tree23]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Finding little or no pleasure in things one once enjoyed is called anhedonia. It is a symptom of depression. And yes, that is the technical term.

[Change]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Hi AGUYFROMNC,

By reading your post, could the problem possibly that you're not 100% happy inside anyway. No amount of girlfriends or friends can alleviate that inner dwelling.

Without really knowing you, could you perhaps start some hobbies or explore ways of making yourself happy without a girlfriend? I really feel for you having a girlfriend situation one year after being sober, you'd think "life" could reward you with more hey?! I guess that being happy, having a partner and not drinking are all seperate things. Find the right person to spend our lives with is something that can take time. Alc will not bring you happiness in the long run, all it will do will make you miserable. Perhaps start exploring some new interests, eg, exercise is good, some study or bettering yourself somehow. You could perhaps strengthen some friendships also, so you don't have to rely on a girl so much.

I hope that helps a bit

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My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

martye;1455796 wrote: You need to comfortable in who you are. The sober you. You need to love yourself! When you achieve this nothing else will matter, as you will know you are a good man full of potential and love and if there are toxic relationships in your life you will remove them as you love your self first.

Ain't that the truth? Couldn't have said it better myself.

[aihflvt]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Guy, haven't heard from you in a few days. How are you doing?

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

I had to move to a differnet apartment, I had to wait until internet was back on. I was reading these posts, there very meaningful and I appreciate the replies, I been trying to remain sober and those feeling of guilt are just overwhelming, Whoever said that about it being a trust issue, very very true, I have a problem it seems with that, you are right they will do it regardless use facebook, Its better to let them be themselves and use it then argue about it and see who they truly are. You are right whoever wrote without trust a relashionship doesnt mean anything. I need to instill that into my mind. the alcohol would let me forget everything and anything, just temporarily though.

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Heres an update, If anyone cares, I wish I could change the headline, but that is how I feel. Friday I had my appointment with my therapist, they dont do nothing for me, this is like the 4th one I been too.. Whats funny Is I hate eing alone , and When I come Home I have nobody , escpicially now anymore that another girlfriend left me, so what becomes my best friend the bottle. Im trying to remain sober, tho I hope therapists work for you, Monday I am going to try one more different therapists as I read , You have togo sometimes thru many to find one that works the best. They give me all these meds that do nothing to make me happy. Sometimes I dont mind the nasty hangover in the morning, its alot better than some of these side effects from the meds I get..Thanks everyone this board is a great help

[Hippyman]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

AGUYFROMNC;1459689 wrote: Heres an update, If anyone cares, I wish I could change the headline, but that is how I feel. Friday I had my appointment with my therapist, they dont do nothing for me, this is like the 4th one I been too.. Whats funny Is I hate eing alone , and When I come Home I have nobody , escpicially now anymore that another girlfriend left me, so what becomes my best friend the bottle. Im trying to remain sober, tho I hope therapists work for you, Monday I am going to try one more different therapists as I read , You have togo sometimes thru many to find one that works the best. They give me all these meds that do nothing to make me happy. Sometimes I dont mind the nasty hangover in the morning, its alot better than some of these side effects from the meds I get..Thanks everyone this board is a great help

Are you telling them the truth about your drinking? They need to know how you are struggling with alcohol. :l

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Oh yes I tell them, Alot of the same, I should try to quit and talk to my phycatrist about it, sounds they have no solution, but I kow you have to do it yourself if you really want to quit. Trying is getting harder and harder.

[Struggles 106]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

Hey NC GUY

You said " They give me all these meds that do nothing to make me happy."
A very telling comment IMO. They are not MAGIC meds. No pill can "make you happy".
Maybe you are right, maybe the therapists you have seen are not the one for you.
I think you have to work on things when you are sober for some length of time. You have to give your mind a chance to clear and not be diminished from alcohol.

I live alone too and used to go out and drink and try to find "friends" This of course was foolish and self-deluding. Alcohol does not create friends. It creates a false reality that feeds on itself ad nauseum. The bravado and fake confidence that comes with drinking is just that-false. You wake up in the morning the same self-hating frightened broken person you were in the first place.

Maybe it's time to try antabuse. I do apologize for bringing it up so much but I just know that it helps me-NO I take that back-it has SAVED me a lot of grief. As I have said I could not get it from my doctor so I order it from River Pharmacy. It could be considered expensive but to me it is a small price to pay for sanity.

The bottle seems to be your only friend, but how about YOU being our own best friend? It is hard, since we tend ot berate ourselves mercilessly but it can be done.

I wish you strength and determination to get where you want to be

[Hippyman]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

AGUYFROMNC;1459703 wrote: Oh yes I tell them, Alot of the same, I should try to quit and talk to my phycatrist about it, sounds they have no solution, but I kow you have to do it yourself if you really want to quit. Trying is getting harder and harder.

Have you tried baclofen. It worked for me and for many, many others!

[Supercrew]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

AGUYFROMNC;1459689 wrote: Heres an update, If anyone cares, I wish I could change the headline, but that is how I feel. Friday I had my appointment with my therapist, they dont do nothing for me, this is like the 4th one I been too.. Whats funny Is I hate eing alone , and When I come Home I have nobody , escpicially now anymore that another girlfriend left me, so what becomes my best friend the bottle. Im trying to remain sober, tho I hope therapists work for you, Monday I am going to try one more different therapists as I read , You have togo sometimes thru many to find one that works the best. They give me all these meds that do nothing to make me happy. Sometimes I dont mind the nasty hangover in the morning, its alot better than some of these side effects from the meds I get..Thanks everyone this board is a great help

Therapy might be good if you were looking to deal with past stressful events, but I don't feel therapy is necessary for quitting drinking, and meds won't make you happy, they can only mask feelings that you have.

The thing that makes people happy and keeps people happy is progress. Daily progress and the feeling of moving forward is the true key to happiness, and meds can't do that for you.

As far as the drinking, you have to look at it for what it is....a bad habit that you trained yourself to have. You made yourself believe that it makes you happy, and makes you feel good and it's your friend, when the reality is it's just poison you pour down your throat because it numbs your feelings of not making progress. So basically it makes you feel ok about sitting idle and not making progress in your life.

When I quit I had to incorporate working out and physical fitness into my plan for 2 reasons, one because it is something that you can actually see progress if you stick to it, and also because it releases "feel good" chemicals in your brain which can help you feel happy.

If you really want to be sober, make a plan. If you are interested you can PM me, but basically Write down what your perfect sober life will look like, and focus on that, then start working backwards to get to where you want to be. The only thing alcohol does is numb you and make you feel momentarily content with where you are sitting.

[AGUYFROMNC]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

I stayed in a rehab center center for 2 weeks, I learned more about alcohl and drugss that I ever would imagine. I appreciate yalls help but seriously, If i pop a pill nothing happens just sleep wait 6 weeks nothing happens drink sometinh imeddiate efffects and somewhat there to cope with life and not thinking of the past over and over again.. sad but true

[paulywogg]

My conclusion is that the only thing that makes me happy is Alcohol

i feel like that sometimes too a guy,i know if i drink ill be instantly happy for awhile a least,and if im anxious it goes away asap,i dont know why its like that,i hate it and dont want to drink,but its calling my name today LOUDLY