Army Thread Friday 8th March

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Move over Molls while I get on the high horse beside you.

I suppose I went over my agreed overdrafty and they are within their rights but, but the stupid charges have sent me wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy over the agreed overdrafty again.

I am so happy I got out of banking 25 years ago. Back in the day when a bank talked to their customers rather than sending letters 10 days after the event.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

I could always ask Mick to do a tour of chairs and settees an pubs and he could donate all the change he found down to me.

How come I only ever find 12 year old apples and bits of pizza down mine.

[Anjicia]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Morning army. Sweetpea hope you feel better i hate having colds. Off to the dr at 11. I have 2 small red sore spots on my lower neck that haven';t gone away since i got them last weekend. Need to get them checked. I think the guinea pig might have scratched my neck while i was holding her can't think of any other cause unless its a cyst or boil. that must be some mistake with the bank charge Jc i would call in to the bank and get them to check it. Must be off to get dressed and walk to the surgery which 25 mins away. Need a bit of exercise.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Morning Foxy,

Got it sorted with a very nice lad at the bank. Should have read the small print. An unplanned overdraft wallops a massive charge. Just got to pop into the bank and put in ?60 so it's better than ?125 I suppose.

[satz123]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

:sofa: Mornin' from the bowels of the corporate world .
Where people get paid twice costing ?1.5 million and we have to aplogise profusely & beg them to pay it back

[Zenstyle]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

mollyka;1474479 wrote: nighty night Zen if you're heading to the land of nod -- mebbe early days for 'reaching out'?? - Just saying --- personally I'd run for the hills??! Sorry, my selfish head on me - but.......... Life jackets an all that yeah??

Mmmm... yeah. I absolutely understand that I am in early recovery and should be retaining my strength for myself and that is a given. I'm kind of expecting that anyone reading our thread understands that I know which way is up as far as all that goes. Believe you me... I get it! Between rehab, IOP and AA I am very much "programmed" as to what I should and should not be doing. I took a leap of faith and it went wrong... that's pretty much it. One of the things about working an honest programme is that you end up taking it on the chin with the bad parts.

I didn't really want to say it as it's ugly and it may upset people, but she said she had been raped. And at that point it was almost 11pm and she had no place to stay and I couldn't have her here at my gaff... I'm daft but not THAT daft. I really shouldn't have mentioned it and honestly wish I hadn't now! The "intensive" part of IOP is just that, and by Thursday night my emotions are usually running high.

The bottom line is that it cost me a few quid I can ill afford to put her up in a motel, but I can live with myself knowing I did the right thing. I don't think me being in early recovery should stop me reaching out Molly. BUT... she was totally ungrateful and that is a shame... and that is why I was upset. Bottom line... having slept on it, I've come to grips with the fact that it's her addiction making her behave that way, pure and simple.

Anyway... silly o' clock here. One thing I really dislike is these early morning wake ups... I can't do a thing without waking the whole house up darnitt. I should have taken a magic rehab sleeping pill last night!

[Zenstyle]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

JackieClaire;1474501 wrote:
Zennfer, as per usual, agree with Molls. Step far away from the relapser, please.

:H PLEASE step away from the relapser... :H

I KNOW! Jaysus. That's why I'm bothered about it and why I mentioned it... I put myself out there too much on this one. What's done is done and no Zennies were harmed in the making of this film! I'm A-OK with it all in the cool light of dawn. She's an addict... what did I expect? )

[Zenstyle]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Mick;1474497 wrote: hi everybody...you all ok..? Had a good one last night ..went to a meeting..held in a pub once a month..you know the script ..take a bottle of your own pop cos I aint paying 2 nhalf quid for a coke!!anyways sitting in the chair..getting a wee bit bored sticks my mitt down the side of the cushion..kerching ..a coin ..and another and another and another etc..ended up with 2 ?1 coins 1 10p 1 20p 2 2p and 3 1ps..ha you can take the man out of Scotland ..but not Scotland out of the man!!!:H

What kind of meeting? Surely not an AA one... in a pub. But is IS Scotland after all!

I'll be right back... I have to go and make coffee and check the sides of the couch for small change.

[Zenstyle]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Don't be daft Mollers... you didn't upset me! Honestly, you didn't. Your instincts are right and it could be considered pushing it to to over extend oneself like I did. There was no chance of me using with her though... druggie I am not.

It's a fine line between helping/paying it forward/doing service and over extending yourself. But I'm aware of what I'm doing here and it's not for forever. Once my rehab buddies either (a) relapse and drop off the face of the earth or (b) get themselves established I will off the hook so to speak!

It's a strange thing... I bonded with them all. Kind of like being stuck on a desert island with them for a month. And I'm now (on the outside) in a position to help the others. I'm going to reel it in though. Giving people a lift to meetings and shopping is one thing... what happened Wednesday with that girl is another. So the boundary has been set as of now. )

[Zenstyle]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

As an aside Molls... I think your friend from Aftercare may be "deflecting". Sometimes peeps go all out helping other people and what's behind it is that they are expending their energy on others to avoid expending it on themselves... it saves them having to deal with their own issues. And knowing that, I need to be bloody careful myself and start drawing a line!

[Anjicia]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Hi again not long back from dr's and having a bowl of tomato soup and toast. Its a horrible day with heavy rain and i got drowned walking there and back. How is your mate from reahab doing? Is she back at her own place now? She was ungrateful not to call back and thank you but as she is a addict and well her thinking is all over the place if she's using. Sorry ti hear she was raped thats awful. Oh the doc gave a coarse of ant biotics to take for the week and he reckons it was a scratch of some kind could have been the guinea pig or somethiung else. My own gp is away but this guy was nice. Just in for the rest of the day as its too bad to go back out. Forgot to get some catfood but we'll survive till tomorrow.

[Zenstyle]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Firefox;1474567 wrote: Hi again not long back from dr's and having a bowl of tomato soup and toast. Its a horrible day with heavy rain and i got drowned walking there and back. How is your mate from reahab doing? Is she back at her own place now? She was ungrateful not to call back and thank you but as she is a addict and well her thinking is all over the place if she's using. Sorry ti hear she was raped thats awful. Oh the doc gave a coarse of ant biotics to take for the week and he reckons it was a scratch of some kind could have been the guinea pig or somethiung else. My own gp is away but this guy was nice. Just in for the rest of the day as its too bad to go back out. Forgot to get some catfood but we'll survive till tomorrow.

Glad you got it sorted Foxy.

I've started making my own cat food btw. I cook ground turkey, chicken or fish and let it cool then put it in the food processor with a bit of cat food and crushed kitty multi-vitamins. I make enough for 3 days and keep it in a tupperware in the fridge. It looks like pate but I pity the poor sod that would make THAT mistake! :H

I honestly can't say how my rehab relapse buddy is doing. I haven't heard a peep out of her and I decided I will not call her, for a couple of different reasons. The story she told me and what really happened are two totally different things, as I found out yesterday morning. So I'm chalking it up to experience. But, no, she's not back home as she hasn't got a home to go to. She got kicked out of the half way house for relapsing, she has no money, and her family are up north... she came down here for rehab. It's bloody awful but i have to just say to myself that she made her own bed. She had the opportunity to make a go of it and she decided to use. So, really, what can anyone do at this point? It's up to her now... (

[Anjicia]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Yeah Zen i agree with you on that one you have to put your own recovery first addicts specilly will lie and manipulate to get what they want i had an experiance few years with a druggie girl who i didn't know was a addict but she conned me out of some money with a sob story as well but i put it down to experience and never got involoved again. Sounds like your rehab will end up on the streets for a while doing God knows what to support her habit. But its her own doing and sad for her but she has to learn and want to get clean again. Its a sad bad mad world out there at times.

[sweetpea29]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

Hiyiz from the lazy moo :hallo:

Foxy- hope the antibiotics sort ya out x

Molls- enjoy yer 'me' time, look forward to hearing what ye have treated yerself to

Zens- thanks for sharing your experiences from recovery. You sound like a very generous and caring gal and ye 'know' this already but its time for you to look out for yerself and put your needs first:l
In the past i know ive been guilty of jumping-in where theres been a crisis and busting a gut to help folk, all the while ignoring my own needs and issues. It is hard to change from being that sort of person without feeling like a selfish git

Hi to everyone else :wavin:

Nearly time for me afternoon snooze!

[sweetpea29]

Army Thread Friday 8th March

satz123;1474538 wrote: :sofa: Mornin' from the bowels of the corporate world .
Where people get paid twice costing ?1.5 million and we have to aplogise profusely & beg them to pay it back

:H Well Satz have ye sorted the prob yet?

Was overpaid once a long time ago but the buggers just arranged to get it back by taking monthly instalments from me paycheck. I didnt get a choice to pay back or not!:upset: