The Kradle Will Not Fall...

[kronkcarr]

The Kradle Will Not Fall...

Kradle,

Isn't her paragraph so cool? ❤ 😍 👍 Have a wonderful day.

kronkcarr

[Sake123]

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Hi Kradle - I just started reading a few pages of your journal. I am really sorry to hear that things have not been going so well. I don't know exactly what you're going through but a good friend of mine had a similar situation. All her neighborhood (best) girl friends turned on her. It started with her BEST friend planted seed in the other ladies in the group. They went to law school together..had their kids together...And all the sudden they all acted like she had murdered someone. Everyone just shunned her. And her daughters are very good friends with these women's daughters. She's a city council member and very connected to the community. She went through a deep depression over it. Just couldn't understand what happened. And to this day, still doesn't know. These women are now civil to each other but she lost 3 close friends all at once.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometimes people just change/drift/or get a stick up their butts and that's that. For whatever reason, the universe has different plans (and people) for you lined up. All you can do is take care of yourself and your family. Your true friends will materialize..the rest are just well...wasted space.

Anyway - I hope that things are getting better for you. When life is especially difficult I like to think there is something awesome waiting around the corner!

[SoberSoul]

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Hi Kradle, just caught up on your Thread and am glad to see that you've had a few positive moments lately. Depression whether situational or chemical, is the absolute pits. Having no one to share with (person to person) makes it so much worse. Thanks be for MWO.

So glad you are not drinking; just makes it worse. We are going to connect soon I hope. I am in a bit of a swirling, terrifying situation right now with my granddaughter's undiagnosed illness so I play catch up here rather than post and read daily.

Wishing you friendship, serenity, self-love and warmth of family. xxx

[Kradle123]

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I want to start the 100 day challenge today as apparently there are exactly 100 days until the new year...not certain what this will accomplish but it is a doable goal and will keep me accountable.

I will post here daily even if it's only a single word like ... Hi :wavinr Damn :durn:

:l

[K9Lover]

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LOL Kradle :H

Pick ANY old word and post it...we're here for ya! :h

[Kradle123]

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OMG I just saw all these posts from Sake and Mama and Nora and Kronn...and there you are K9 !

I swear even after all this Time I can't navigate the forum!! I need new glasses...:H

Sake your post brought instant tears to me. Thank you for sharing your friends story . I feel so profoundly affected by it. I simply don't know why people are able to act so horribly to other people, especially those we have shared history with... It's so foreign to my mindset...if I don't care for someone, I walk away but I'll make it clear why I am leaving. It's just civil, IMO ...
Anyway, thank you for your kind words. They help :l

Okay, so here I am checking in. had a fun night with the girls. Went to see Todd Schumacher - the drummer from the Band Styx...man oh man what a blast form my past! He was teaching a Drum Cinic here in town which is all partnof that Living Out Loud music program Matt joined last Summer..he did not attend which broke my heart but the girls loved it. He was an outstanding teacher to the kids as well as the consummate professional and one hell of a musician...you wouldn't think that actually sitting through a 15 minute Drum Solo could be so riveting...but it was! :band2:
A lot of the technical stuff he taught was way over me but he also spoke to the kids about success as a professional musician as well as just in life.
Here are his 4 steps to success-

1. Always show on time to practice - preferably show up early..
2. learn every piece of music you are given to learn. listen in the shower, in the car while your cooking..
3. Never tell anyone you're busy...for anything...everyone's busy. They don't care if you are too.
4. (and I thought this was key...) always offer to carry the Amps...

Most people don't do these small things or they fall down on 1 or 2. If you do these very simple things, he assured them, you can't help but be successful and you'll always be 'booked'.

You would have loved this guy Mr. G. Even if your not a fan of Styx...

Painting the porch still...some sun left before the October rains and cold take over.

Hugs and heart
:l:h

[Kradle123]

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Checking in as I promised myself... Popped over to Nora's thread and everyone is heading to bed ... :biglaughmonkey:

Long day here too...Mathieu Mathieu Mathieu...oivay! :upset: that is all I can say on this front.
Hubs is off in the woods for three days trying to bring home the bacon...so to speak.
I'm solo parenting and doing it sans AL wich is nice.
:l:h
Everyone

[NoraC]

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:wavin: Kradle......Sorry I went to bed when you popped on. I'll catch you tonight!!! :h

[SoberSoul]

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Hey Kradle, I loved the four points your former Styx drummer gave the kids.

I am in for the 100 day challenge as I am totally abstinent since the 19th of September. So I'll use your thread to check in. Looking forward to the Sober October Thread which either I or someone else here will start too. I am kind of excited right now about moving forward without the crutch of booze.

Despite the overwhelming fright that creeps up on me as we await the news on my granddaughter's health, I feel calm, serene and happy most of the time. It sounds like you really have the ability to smell the roses too, Kradle. Your enthusiasm for life is a gift and it's contagious.

Looking forward to journeying along side of you... thanks for always being there and pulling me back here when I stray.

[Sake123]

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Hi Kradle - Thanks for sharing those pointers. I bet it was a blast to spend sometime with him. And drum solos can be pretty freaking cool.

Hope your day is going well. We are trying to stain our deck but I'm afraid the weather has turned to fall far too quick. Hoping for a few warm days in a row so we can get it finished.

Anyway - have a great day!
Amber

[Kradle123]

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Well, despite the sick feeling in my stomach I believe the answer for me is to call forth deep compassion for my for my friend Kristin.

The twins talk to her tiwns. How can they not. They are still best freinds... see each other day at school..and today, one of them told Madison that the reason her mom doeasn't like me anymore is becuase I drink and so apparently does my husband...
Anyone who know the story behine us knows this is completely insane...I tried for months to get her Sober, told her all about MWO...even printed her out 'The Best' of... and it wasn't until she hurt my children in a drunken stupor that I had to pull away.

Also, she knows better than anyone that my husband hardly drinks at all...geez, she and I used to talk about it all the time...

Of course it's all ludiscrous and Madison said as much..in as much an ii year old can say.

This shows another way in which AL can hurt us...how it can turn a wonderful beautiful woman like Kristin in to a deeply disturbed individual...

I'm on my 100 day challenge and so far so good. I don't want to drink over this..i really don't. How loathsome it has all become...Poor Kristin. She has closed the door on a wonderful opportunity for grace and growth and compassion.

Alchohol has just ruined so much. Thank you all for bing here.
If anyone is struggling tonight, think of me. It all most stop here...no matter what.

Hugs and heart
:l:h

PS: Sedona said in the car she knows how to fix it...'2 Wordss ' She says. '2 words... I'm sorry. Just tell each other 'I'm sorry.'
I am sorry. For everything...'

[Mr Vervill]

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Yes, I'm sorry indeed, for all involved. For you, Kradle, for the kids, and for Kristen.
I just think Kristen is just projecting her failures onto you. She feels so guilty of her own behaviors, that she just can't reconcile them with herself. She must blame someone else. I'm sorry this has to be you, Kradle. Hopefully she'll be able to see what's happening before long.
So sorry, Hang tough.

[Sake123]

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Ah Kradle - What can you possible do but take the high road in a situation like this. I am very sorry that this has happened, to have such a good friend more or less disappear..so very unsettling. Sounds like she is in a lot of denial or there is more here than meets the eye. In any case, you have a right to feel hurt, to mourn the loss of your friendship and of course, do whatever you can to let your daughters continue their relationship(s). Time will help ease the frustration, anger, pain and sorrow you must feel over this. But it's one of those things where you may never really know the truth. Just continue the path you're on and don't let her drag you down. Wish her well and be content in knowing that you did nothing wrong.

[NoSugar]

The Kradle Will Not Fall...

Hi, Kradle.

I thought of you when I read this: The eightfold path to chemical addiction recovery | Counseling Today

All the best to you on your 100 AF day plan!

[NoraC]

The Kradle Will Not Fall...

Oh Kradle - I am so sorry. It just hurts that she would say those things. If I'm not being too nosey......what did she do your kids? Didn't she injure them when they were staying with her?? How can she not take responsibility for that???