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[Snapdragon]

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K9Lover;1487227 wrote: Hi Inchy,
BHOG made some great points, he's a wise man, you should listen to him.
When I first thought about getting sober, it was so overwhelming, I just couldn't imagine NEVER drinking again. But I took it day by day and slowly changed my routines, my habits...and now I can't imagine how I had the time to sit around and drink myself into a stupor every night. Don't look at the BIG picture right now, just change one thing...then later change another thing...etc, etc. It CAN be done and I truly think you want it. Keep trying my friend!
K9

Hi K9 and BHOG - both of your points help me greatly too. I think that the 'panic' at considering the greater picture is what seems to be a stumbling point for many of us newbies. Thought of NEVER having another drink scares me to death - I keep thinking about never having a 'toast' at a wedding or all of the other 'normal' things that have been a major part of my life for decades. I will try not to think about the big picture any more. Will try and focus on today and tomorrow and hopefully over time the thought of AL will fall further and further into the background. :thanks:

[K9Lover]

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Hi Snap!

When you do look at the BIG picture, honestly how many weddings do you really go to? Maybe I don't have that many friends but I haven't been to a wedding in years! Those odd occasions weren't the problem for me. For me, it was the daily, alone drinking. Part of me wished I was a person that drank at bars and out in public, because then you just stop going to those places, right? Well how do you stop being at home? You can't. Making small changes really helped me...eventually they all added up to get me to where I'm at now. You can do this too...I know it!

[BHOG]

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Disclaimer:
The thoughts I have posted on this thread are NOT my originals; they came to me from various sources on this site many years ago.
I am proof, however, that it can work. It worked for me, and I am happy to pass this along to anyone who wants some ideas.
i do hope these ideas help someone. Then I will feel I have done something positive for this community.

[InChains]

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k9 - i really relate to the problem of drinking alone and at home, I hardly ever go out, i drink in my living room and bedroom, I even make attempts at doing what i'd do sober, i just can't manage it. I've never really occupied these places sober, so it will be a big change for me.

So to all, have decided that doing this too slowly isn't working either, I'm getting frustrated, so I'm going AF again next week to try and move on quicker. my other half said something to me earlier that made me think, a very simple thing. I told him, i could not imagine doing certain things sober, because I have never done them that way. He said to me 'What would be the difference' and you know, I never realized drinking or not... i am the same. There is no difference, it's just being awake, functioning and living life.

[nicelife]

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BHOG;1487335 wrote: Disclaimer:
The thoughts I have posted on this thread are NOT my originals; they came to me from various sources on this site many years ago.
I am proof, however, that it can work. It worked for me, and I am happy to pass this along to anyone who wants some ideas.
i do hope these ideas help someone. Then I will feel I have done something positive for this community.

You know what BHOG - you DO make a difference and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your guts!!!!!

[InChains]

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slipped. was tapering. failed to keep to limit last 2 days, trying to go AF next week, gonna be harder now. Hoping for the best. Out of action for the weekend with work, anniversary etc

-Inchy

[Wagoneer]

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Hoping all is well with you Inchy.

[InChains]

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Intending to go AF on wednesday, hoping to accomplish more than one day this time, been on this merry-go-round too long now, an awfully long servitude to a substance that has only ever made me a worse person than I was before. I've been thinking alot lately, about who I might be sober, I haven't yet met my adult self, I have robbed myself of that. Theres a lyric that makes sense to me in a song

'I've been running away for so long.
When I finally caught myself
There wasn't much left.'

guessing there aren't many metallers out there, this is a song called King Me by Lamb of God, their singer is a pretty amazing guy and a recovering alcoholic, alot of Resolution (most recent album) has references to this, it's one of my all time favorite metal albums and the lyrics are phenomenal, don't expect anybody to listen but check out the lyrics for king me or ghost walking and you'll see what I mean.

Anyway, bass to play, life to lead, will be back soon to check in.

[Byrdlady]

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You know what, Indy? You are gonna LOVE you! I tell ya, once you get out from under the AL CLOUD OF DELUSION and the skies clear up, you will find that the person you THOUGHT AL brought out (that social, lovable you) is still there. Being AF is not a death sentence! It is different, but it is so much better! I think you will learn to love yourself again, like so many of us have. Your mental age will catch up with your chronological age! It is a journey, and it takes guts...but you have guts! I've seen you in operation. We will all be pulling for you and we have your back! Sometimes, it just takes a leap of faith..... Byrdie

[paulywogg]

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jeez,those lyrics fit how ive been feeling to a tee!

[InChains]

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I find it comforting to know that the man who wrote those lyrics has endured some horrendous things in the last year, but is still sober and more successful now with the band than ever before. Good can come of these dark places.

[free at last]

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In Chains, thinking of you. One of my favorite poets, the mystic Rumi, said "What you seek is seeking you." I think you are on your way to finding you. Warmest, Free.

[BHOG]

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Inchy-
I'm glad you are looking at amking an effort to spend more time AF. It is those earlyu milestones that can make the difference.
I was quite convinced that I was brilliant when I was drinking. Now that I am sober, I'm better than that. And I am able to remember last night this morning. (I was reading, Mrs. BHOG was watching Country Music awards.)

[InChains]

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AF Day 1 (Again)

So, sincerely hoping/praying that the site stays up tonight, 11.14 am here. Not sure how to feel except scared. I need to do this, I just hope somehow it's not as hard as it was before. I don't want to hurt myself, but I don't know if I will.

[BHOG]

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You can do this, Inchy; remember is it one day, or one hour, at a time. Don't worry about going "AF" forever, just take each day as it comes.
you CAN do this, Inchy---