The house that G built.

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

jane27;1692298 wrote: Nice going G. Clearing the table of everything non essential or required helped me get through the first months. The less things on the blackboard, the less things you have to remember. Loving your energy.
Yo Jane! Yep, i'm keeping it simple and taking it slow, but still with a pro-active progressive AF mind set + running.

scottish lass;1692389 wrote: You are doing really well G, and sounding so good doing it.....a different guy!

Cool to hear that observation SL. Thanks. I am far more positive and with direction than recent AF attempts. I believe in it. Mostly, for me anyway, we must be ready. So far so good. No predictions or fancy talk. I'm just pushing through, being mindful of the process and actually enjoying it somewhat.

[paulywogg]

The house that G built.

I hear you Mr.G,that's what i'm trying to do too,slow and steady,and not dwell on stressers that i can't control,when i was at my doc's office he said there's always gonna be stress,why not just deal with it,find a different way,cuz the drinking ain't working anyways,too true! happy to report i'm on day 10,gotta make this my last day 10 dangit!

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

paulywogg;1692479 wrote: I hear you Mr.G,that's what i'm trying to do too,slow and steady,and not dwell on stressers that i can't control,when i was at my doc's office he said there's always gonna be stress,why not just deal with it,find a different way,cuz the drinking ain't working anyways,too true! happy to report i'm on day 10,gotta make this my last day 10 dangit!

G'day Pauly,

Day 10 is huge! Bravo! Yep, i sure deal with any sort of stress or whatever life throws at us far more effectively when living sober. It's a total no brainer. I know from experience that in the first few weeks, even though i get stronger and healthier each day, i must still work a little to push through. After 30 days, things start to rawk for me, and just get better and better. 6 months is a big turning point for me too, but i'll live simply day to day until then. Having said that, things are rawkin now, slowly. But i am deliberately keeping my life simple and as stress/worry free as i can.

How do i do that? Regular running at my own pace (no stress/expectations), avoiding too much unnecessary people interaction, and heading off any potential conflict if i see it coming and get myself out of that situation. Later with more sober time, i'll deal with conflict where necessary, but for now, i'm trying to keep on an even keel emotionally and not allowing myself to get wound up. Not always possible, but i can reduce it by being careful with my responses, reactions, and feelings. These are just my simple early sobriety safeguards.

Have a bewdy out there y'all!

[bkyogagurl]

The house that G built.

G- think I met one of your angels today... Thanks for sharing.

Day 4 going on 5 for me..

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

jane27;1692758 wrote: G, what's your max sober time in recent years? Sounds like you made it passed 6 months. Having just closed in on 7, wondering if you can offer any watch out for this or that advice with regard to relapse?

Does being sober change the dynamic of your musical process/expression?

Jane, i made it to 2.5 years from Oct 2008 to april 2011. It was a great experience and i really moved forward in many area's of my life. I went back to drinking because i became too complacent as i recall. i.e. i didn't grow in the area's important to me, which is making music, and i recall being a little 'lost'. I was very busy with a full on day job too, working with people which i loved, but my life became far too one dimensional and giving, rather than taking more time out for me. I've now cut back on my day job hours radically, and can now concentrate on music and a bit of community work, so i'm striking a better balance for me. Now to maintain sobriety and go kick some ass.

I play my guitar better when sober. I played well when drinking, but i've found a 24/7 sober mind has access to more other wordly portals.....

As far as your journey goes at 7 months, or at any stage really, do what makes you happy, and keep growing as a person whatever that means for you. Complacency is my enemy. Not to be confused with relaxation.

Keep it going Jane. More treasures will be revealed!

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

bkyogagurl;1692763 wrote: G- think I met one of your angels today... Thanks for sharing.

Day 4 going on 5 for me..

Good job on 4-5 days BK!

I tell ya, these angels are bloody everywhere 'round here! Today i went for a beautiful long run and there were blue sky's all arvo. Bloody angels again! :goodjob:

[coriander]

The house that G built.

Hey there g.
Great stuff on building up the days. Hey yoga and Jane, sending support your way.
Interesting day here. Been thinking about my life,my world, my universe. Oh yes i am selfish but for the moment i have to be, to live, to exist. Why can we not exist in selfishness for a while, if that's where we need to be to heal? Why does being selfish,or being called selfish, hurt, as a character flaw?
I'm not one for angels, g, but i believe in karma. I believe that the body tells you things. And i believe that when you have to go against the grain, to stay true to that. I believe that nature, and animals, tell the truth beyond all contamination . And my security comes from that.

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

I agree Cori. Maybe i'm just seeing things re the angels....

I don't think we are selfish to focus on us whilst healing and getting sober. I call it self care, and if i don't do what it takes to get myself healthy, then i'm no good to anyone. It's not something that has a timeline or we can rush. Yes, animals and nature are sometimes the only things that seem real.

Me, i am getting angry. It's a healthy anger though. Angry at staying on the booze for so long and basically wasting my life as the years roll by.

Take it easy out there y'all.

[coriander]

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Good point g. I've never allowed anger to enter my being, which is both good and bad.
Had a lovely text from a vet student I've been mentoring, so lovely to know she's going well.
Self care.
Self care.
Self care.
Wowzers, I've never done that before. It's new, scary, doubtful, foreign.

Go hard g man, it's nice to know of your success.

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

Noice one.

G'night Cori, night y'all.

[paulywogg]

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I don't think getting/staying sober is selfish at all,i think drinking is selfish,think about it,you're spending time in a fog half listening to people,spending money that should be going into the household,letting people down,now that's selfishness!

[coriander]

The house that G built.

It's a controversial point pauly,to be sure. When none really knows others, do they have the right to be judgemental? I think not, but that may well be their nature. Whi hi understand. So be it. Would never rubbish anyone, so sad to field the accusations.
Best wishes to all.

[K9Lover]

The house that G built.

Hi my beloved G-Man!! :h:h You sound good and strong these days...I am darn proud of you! :l

Hi Cori, Pauly and Jane!

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

K9Lover;1692908 wrote: Hi my beloved G-Man!! :h:h You sound good and strong these days...I am darn proud of you! :l

Hi Cori, Pauly and Jane!
Yo Niner! Thanks Mam. It's good to see you back. Stay in touch. :h

jane27;1692986 wrote: Mr G, you do sound good. God, its so weird the way anything that causes a positive feeling (a person, their post) can trigger what feels like the addictive brain. (Someone had posted about Dopamine Deficit Syndrome. Man, do I totally have that. (Feels good! Want more!). I even over did it with saline nasal spray last week, and let's just say, this is definitley a case where moderation is essential.

I have ranted and bitched all over the place today, and GAWD does it feel good.

Thank you G, for being you, for being constant & simple. I wish I could be more like that.

K9, sup girl?

Good thing i live near the beach Jane and so the saltwater clears my nose each time i swim. You are perfect just the way you are, right here, right there, right now.

Day 16. Have a bewdy out there y'all. Take it easy.

G bloke.

[Guitarista]

The house that G built.

jane27;1693002 wrote: Nice going on day 16 G, and thank you.:l

2 1/2 half years is a lot. Does is feel like another planet, or can you connect with it?

PS Adding bewdy to the glossary.

Thanks Jane. It was another planet for me, but a far more exciting one, where i realised anything is possible. I will be more careful not to allow myself to get too overwhelmed with all of my possibilities this time.



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Anxiety Cure, Improve Mental Health, Cure for Anxiety and Depression