I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

[red67]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

I forgot to say I am VERY proud of you Nicelife!

[nicelife]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Thanks Red - YOU should be proud of YOU too! I got cocky and arrogant!

I used to sometimes cringe when I read reply posts because a lot of the time the content is about the replier, AND it should be too. We can't walk another's road and really we can only talk about our experiences. For each one of us, it is, as it is.......

[kuya]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Trying to get sober the second time scared the bejeezus out of me! My first quit was quite easy (only took me 23 years! :H:H) and I was sober 9 weeks. I drank one night, thinking I could have 'one night off' and it took me 8 terrifying months to get sober again.

It is weird cos from the sober side I still can't believe it was really so hard.....and this is where our addiction tricks us. When we are sober we can't remember the effect of all those receptors firing so we can't believe that it will be hard to stop......so we decide to test it and BAM ! ......it's got you again.

I have just quit smoking, three weeks now. I quit once before and it was easy so after 9 days I thought I could have 'one'. Five years, seventy-three thousand cigarettes ( YEP 73,000 !!!) and fifty thousand dollars (YEP $50,000 !!!!) I have quit. Every time the thought crosses my mind I remember how badly I wanted to be free, how scared I have been this last six months cos I had quit drinking but feared I would NEVER be able to quit smoking.

So Scandanavian, Antabuse or no Antabuse , your brain will be screaming for you to keep drinking......your lady friend will be confused about where her 'drinking' buddy has gone......and you risk never getting sober again. You must be crazy

If it was this easy we would all just take Antabuse and stop at will.......does it occur to you that it doesn't work that way for a reason? People who mess about like you are planning just stop taking the Antabuse ....... And then they are in a worse situation than before .....

.I have seen it happen with a friend's old brain damaged mum......wouldn't take her Antabuse cos she was always gonna stop again tomorrow.

[Mick]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

I have had 2 recent holidays with out alcohol...didnt think it would be possible ..but it is...have you ever thought of alcohol free drink....personally with that amount of time in af ..I wouldnt even consider it..and going back to the start again

[Byrdlady]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Scandinavian;1486969 wrote: Siren: thanks for the reply. I wish you all the best on your journey to stay AF. Have you tried Antabuse by the way? I know it sounds like I get paid for talking about Antabuse, but for me it just is too good to be true. Without it I would have never managed 14 weeks AF. And the last month or so have been really really good and easy!

techie: thanks. I want to try AF vacation, but just not right now.

Byrdlady: I am flattered that you took the time to dig into my past. It does seem that I have some problems with alcohol. However, I am not planning on moderation, I am planning on drinking for a few weeks, and then getting "back on the 'bus" (i.e. the Antabus). As for being sincere about my "previous" somewhat unhealthy alcohol habits, I do agree with you that I should be more open about it. However, I am on my 14'th or so week AF now, so I really don't feel the need to start explaining about it if she does not bring it up.


I am very happy from the support I get here, but I often feel that only other Antabuse-users can understand me.

Wow, this is like watching a bad film....we all know the outcome. Your 'somewhat unhealthy alcohol habits' are called ALCOHOLISM, and you don't just 'get over it'. It makes me cringe to think that you think that this little pill holds all the magic. Good luck with that. And as for your fianc?.....my heart bleeds for her...now it's on her to ask all the right questions before you give her honest answers....so you have someone/something to blame if it blows up..."Well, she didn't ASK!!" This is a sad situation. But like Red said, you've already made your mind up. Why bother going AF until the holiday, why not just get it underway now?

I think that the real power of the MWO site is to learn from others....This place is a real TOOL....IF you choose to use it. You have solicited our thoughts by saying I NEED HELP....if there is one thing I have learned as I get older it's that I don't have to learn EVERYTHING the hard way.....If 99 people walk off a cliff and die do you think you'll be the lucky 100th person? I doubt it.

AL is still the most important thing in your life, and it will be until you remove it completely. Good luck. Byrdie

[sugarbeat]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

What can I say only the sneakiness of the drink is unreal, a very real danger(a miserable depressing few weeks followed by the pain of getting back on the wagon again) is facing you flat in the face and you choose not to acknowledge it it, its nuts
As they say cunning, baffling, powerful

[BHOG]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

So: I bet your eyes are sore from all this negative feedback. Well, Scan, you asked for comments. You got them. "doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result, is the definition of insanity"-(Thomas Edison, I believe).

WHY in the name of all that is holy, would you want to go through the "quits" again? And WHY are you trying so hard to chase the GF away? She knows you as someone who does not drink, or someone who quit. So you are going to get drunk and act how around her? Good bye happily ever after.
I won't apologize for being harsh. You did ask for our thoughts.

[Wagoneer]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

This post made me sad. I am only just over a month sober after many, many tries. When I read it, the hairs on the back of my neck stood up. I certainly wish I had an on-off swtch like you seem to think you do. I am afraid though, it will not be as easy as you think to stop once you start. I really don't understand the need for the "Alone Time" with your booze." . Such a waste. And you are not being forthright in your relationship which I find sad as well. Best of luck to you. But I really hope you change your mind. JMHO

[supermario]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Nothing good can come out of this decision.. every single person I've talked to has told me that they deeply regretted their relapses. Like Frequent Traveler, I am also 92 days sober today and I often find myself considering taking that first drink, for old times sake, to test myself, to have a great time.. and that seems to be the issue here, after being sober for a while, we tend to FORGET about the misery that AL brought to our lives. I understand that you are feeling great both physically and mentally but that's probably because you've been sober for a while. Also, your plan to drink and then stop could fail and you could become a drunk again.. Why take that risk?

[K9Lover]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Hi Scand,

In the title of your thread it says 14 weeks, but in your first post you put 14 months. I am assuming 14 weeks is the correct amount of time? Because I'll be honest, you would NOT even be considering this if you had 14 MONTHS sober. No way. I am on Antabuse and I do NOT understand what you are thinking. Why would you give up everything you've worked so hard for? You are setting yourself up to fail. I hope your future wife understands. I think I would feel betrayed if my fiance all of a sudden started drinking and later I found out it was a problem that he'd been hiding from me.

[Zenstyle]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Scandinavian;1486969 wrote:
I am very happy from the support I get here, but I often feel that only other Antabuse-users can understand me.

If we're on brutal honesty then I will say... Get over yourself! Of course I can understand your addiction, I have one myself!

What I see in your posts is confusion. I didn't read through this entire thread, and I don't know you, but I am wondering if you have had any therapy? Sometimes (more often than not) the addiction is a by-product of an underlying issue and maybe you would feel more at ease in your own skin if you do a little bit of work on yourself in that regard. It's just a thought, and I'm certainly not beating you up as I am not one of those people that wants to lord it over someone and shove my "knowledge" down their throat... but I WILL say that coming to terms with the problems that fuel one's addiction is a very free-ing thing. It's like putting the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle together... and it might be beneficial for you. Again, just a thought. If I had all the answers I wouldn't be on this site, now would I?

[sweetie78]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

What about love?

I understand wanting to drink on a holiday but even if you do decide to drink, do it with your relationship in mind.. how long have you been together? Has she ever seen you drink? if not it might raise questions.. also you should be upfront about your antabuse incase she finds it while grabbing an asprin from the medicine cabinet... If your drinking was so bad you needed medication deciding to drink in the way that you have could be a downward spiral. Try and revise your plan, if you must drink, limit it to one OR two drinks with a meal, if you decide one stick to one, if you decide two, put a glass of water between them and think hard about whether to take the second, but dont decide one or two without a definite answer because it will quickly become three or four. Also - like everyone else, i agree that alone time with AL is a BAD idea. but the most importan thing here is.. this is the woman you want to marry, cherish her- dont lie to her and dont throw away your sobriety on what is supposed to be quality time with HER not AL.

[Struggles 106]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

I WANNA CHIME IN TOO

Hey Scan--

Are you freaking kidding me? I, like K9, am an antabuse user as well. And no , sorry, I do NOT understand either. Blows my mind.

Frankly, clearly, you are not prepared for an alcohol-free life. Dishinesty with the fiance? I'm not even going there except to say WOW that's a great foundation for a marriage.

Along with the drinking on vacation plan let's just throw in some drinking alone after the vacation. ????

With or without antabuse I'm not drinking. Have "fun"

[Scandinavian]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

First let me clarify that I have gone about 14 weeks AF, not months as I wrongfully wrote in the first post. I also wrote "I feel great both mentally and psychologically" which I now find pretty funny



Anyway, thanks for all your thoughts. I was pretty sure no one would support me in my pretty stupid "plan".


However, I believe it will work because:

1. Antabuse works so perfectly for me
2. I have great respect for alcohol, and
3. These 14 weeks sober have shown me that my life is very good when I do not drink a single drop


But as most of us here know, the ways of alcohol are inscrutable, and there are many x-factors in my "equation".

[kuya]

I NEED HELP! 14 weeks 100% sober. Now I am planning to drink in my vacation.

Scandinavian;1487584 wrote: First let me clarify that I have gone about 14 weeks AF, not months as I wrongfully wrote in the first post. I also wrote "I feel great both mentally and psychologically" which I now find pretty funny



Anyway, thanks for all your thoughts. I was pretty sure no one would support me in my pretty stupid "plan".


However, I believe it will work because:

1. Antabuse works so perfectly for me
2. I have great respect for alcohol, and
3. These 14 weeks sober have shown me that my life is very good when I do not drink a single drop


But as most of us here know, the ways of alcohol are inscrutable, and there are many x-factors in my "equation".

'.....life is very good when I do not drink a single drop ' ........there's none so blind as them that cannot see