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    #1

    How do you explain to someone you love?

    My husband is very suspicious of this. He thinks because I got the book and have some of the pills, I will be fixed. Now, this minute. His other alternative is for me to go away. Probably so he won't have to deal with me. Fine, I have my laundry cart and my dogs.
    Anemone
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    #2
    How do you explain to someone you love?

    Perhaps your husband could read the book and see that you are not alone in this struggle, or perhaps an Al-Anon meeting? He needs to understand this is a brain wiring issue, not a moral defect, and that you are doing your best to overcome it.
    I'm really easy to get along with once people learn to worship me

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      #3
      How do you explain to someone you love?

      I have given him the book. I will share everything with him. But it will be an uphill battle. He just simply doesn't get it. He is a "Wine Professional" A certified big deal. I am an embarrassment to him.
      Anemone

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        #4
        How do you explain to someone you love?

        Dear Anemone,

        First off I don't know if I have personally welcomed you yet. Welcome aboard!

        Can't fix it in a day but many have spouses who have no addictions and don't get what you are going through.

        Hang in sweetie, you can do this with or without his help just listen to Lushy!

        Hugs, Mary

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          #5
          How do you explain to someone you love?

          Hello amemone,
          I feel lucky to have a wife who is supporting me through this, and most things I do. However, there are still things she says and does that make me think.....'.she doesn't get it'.
          I don't think anyone who hasn't been here can really know what it's all about.

          Best wishes!

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            #6
            How do you explain to someone you love?

            Anemone, when I gathered all my courage to tell my husband that I might have a problem with alcohol and I didn't know what to do about it, his reply was...

            WELL JUST STOP BUYING WINE THEN...

            Some people don't understand...
            A F F L..
            Alcohol Free For Life

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              #7
              How do you explain to someone you love?

              Mine too Irish.....wish it were that easy!
              "Be still and know that I am God"

              Psalm 46:10

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                #8
                How do you explain to someone you love?

                Mind you Southernbelle, if it was that easy, I wouldn't have met all the beautiful people on here, actually there wouldn't even be a here.. Can you imagine, NO MY WAY OUT!!!!
                A F F L..
                Alcohol Free For Life

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                  #9
                  How do you explain to someone you love?

                  My Sound Tract again.......
                  No where to run to
                  No Where to Hide

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                    #10
                    How do you explain to someone you love?

                    Thank you fan. I need to hear that.
                    Anemone

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                      #11
                      How do you explain to someone you love?

                      not only are you not an embarressment, you are a very brave person. you are facing a problem head on. you are not running away. you may not be able to explain it to him right now, but you are doing what is right for you and your health and I, for one, am very proud of what you are accomplishing.
                      Learning to live life on the outside of a bottle. :flower:

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                        #12
                        How do you explain to someone you love?

                        Anemone,
                        You will be fine. Find your way. I hope that your husband can find a way to support you. It would be so nice if you could do this together but in the end this is for you.
                        Don't hide, come here.
                        "Keep your eyes and heart focused on the end goal at all times, and never settle for less."

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                          #13
                          How do you explain to someone you love?

                          You no longer need to run and hide......face it head on...you CAN do this

                          and the better you get...the stronger you will be .....and your self esteem and self confidence will return......happened to me...can happen for you too
                          Sometimes I wonder...."Why is that frisbee getting bigger?"...and then it hits me.

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                            #14
                            How do you explain to someone you love?

                            If you dont get the support and respect you deserve from your husband, you will certainly get it from us here.:h
                            Welcome, glad to have you with us and we take this journey with you my dear:goodjob:
                            When I told my partner that I had signed up for the subscription here on MWO I thought he would fuss a bit about the money but when I told him he said "He couldnt care less, as this site has helped me more than he could or anything else had". I was so proud of him......(pity he's bone lazy 'round the house......now that's another thread all together!!!!!!)

                            Wine snobs...dont start me:H
                            We are all here for you, when your feeling crappy you have us.
                            Love
                            Victoria xxooxx

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                              #15
                              How do you explain to someone you love?

                              I agree with Victoria. You will get complete honesty, respect, and empathy from everyone here. My husband will never get "it". And that's okay. He doesn't have a problem in regards to alcohol. We are so lucky to be living in an era where we can log on and find tremendous support and friendship in our struggles. Some husbands, boyfriends, significant others, family members may not ever get "it, but logging on here offers an opportunity to bring yourself (myself and everyone else) back into the world of people we love (where alcohol is not an issue). MYO is a great place for us to be. We get "it", and we are all striving to be at a better place than we are at.

                              Julie

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