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[vachkiri]

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[RingingCedars]

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woah! hang in there cowgirl! lol patience is a virtue...keep reading and posting and learning .... how long are you actually sober today? why not start by telling a bit about yourself and asking for whatever help you thought you would find here? again hang in there....apologies from myself re:chat, I'm not on as much as I was at one time.....chat can be a real life saver at times....it used to be very active a couple of years ago.....I hope those that are interested in reviving a lively chat group are successful! be well.....

[Nelz]

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Far from the truth....this site is more than helpful.

But yes, it may require some patience as we are all in different time zones.......and today being Mothers Day, some people have some prior engagements.

Stick around long enough, and you'll get great advice/support and make some real friends around here.

[Frequent Traveler]

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This site made the difference for me and still is.

FT

[kuya]

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Impatience is a common theme with us drinkers. Maybe it stems from lack of self worth.

I remember being so irked at what I saw as lack of response, now I know it was a slow period on a Saturday night.

Put me off though so I always try to respond to new folk.

This poster had loads of responses though on other threads so may be a little unrealistic

[Byrdlady]

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I'd like to invite you over to the Newbie's Nest, link is below in my signature line as well as the Tool Box....there are 100's of tips and skills there to help you.
Like anything else in life, you must put in something to get something out, this site is no different. There are wonderful, caring people here who are willing to help you....Byrdie

[vachkiri]

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Thank you all for your responses....
As you might have noticed, drinking makes me aggressive :-( I hate myself when that happens.
Sorry.

[Snapdragon]

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vachkiri;1505087 wrote: Thank you all for your responses....
As you might have noticed, drinking makes me aggressive :-( I hate myself when that happens.
Sorry.

Hello Vachkiri - we're a forgiving lot here (we've all done our fair share of stupid things when drinking - ie: texting, emailing or leaving awful phone messages! urgghhh - so glad those days are over!!)

As Brydie says - hop over into the Newbies nest - despite all of the different time zones, there's usually someone happy to respond.

Snap x

[Tipplerette]

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Welcome, Vachkiri, everyone feels neglected at one time or another. When we post, we hope people will read, respond and encourage us. Sometimes we get missed, ignored or whatever and it hurts as we take it personally.

Don't worry, despite this fact, the people here are very helpful and full of encouragment. I hope you stick around and ride out the times when you feel devalued. We, drinkers, are an emotional bunch (I think that's what gets us drinking in the first place) but we are all here for each other.

Take care, looking forward to getting to know you better.

[Wagoneer]

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Hi Vachkiri! No worries. It has happened to many of us. Freakin alcohol. Like someone else said, many of us are in different time zones, so sometimes it takes a day to get a response. It used to gurt my feelings sometimes, but I finally got with the program and realized it was not personal at all. I have made some awesome friends here. I'm in the Northeastern US. This is a great place to be. Welcome

[kuya]

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vachkiri;1505087 wrote: Thank you all for your responses....
As you might have noticed, drinking makes me aggressive :-( I hate myself when that happens.
Sorry.

Don't worry at all......nobody will mind, alcohol does that.

One thing I have learned sober is to ALLOW my self to feel anger when appropriate and not push it down. If someone annoys me now I deal with it NOW, hand it back to the CORRECT person thereby allowing me to move on and not feel like a victim.

This forum is a good place to vent and that alone makes it priceless.

[RingingCedars]

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kuya;1505158 wrote:

If someone annoys me now I deal with it NOW, hand it back to the CORRECT person thereby allowing me to move on and not feel like a victim.

I suspect you're not going to like this Kuya, but something to consider: isn't that thought above like saying someone else is to blame for your feelings? Isn't that allowing one to be hostage to someone else's actions in the first place? Perhaps the correcting needed is being affected by other's in the first place? I struggle with this.

[RingingCedars]

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vachkiri;1505087 wrote: Thank you all for your responses....
As you might have noticed, drinking makes me aggressive :-( I hate myself when that happens.
Sorry.

Glad to see you back. Dont'cha worry there. Haven't said this in awhile but I was the queen of drunk posting when I first arrived here. I sometimes couldn't even sling a comprehensive word together, never mind coherent sentence! :H:H (not funny really)

Again, :goodjob: coming back and welcome!

[kuya]

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RingingCedars;1505282 wrote: I suspect you're not going to like this Kuya, but something to consider: isn't that thought above like saying someone else is to blame for your feelings? Isn't that allowing one to be hostage to someone else's actions in the first place? Perhaps the correcting needed is being affected by other's in the first place? I struggle with this.

Yeah me too, RC and so much is intertwined it can be hard to know which bits we should own. But my old method of swallowing ( drinking) my feelings definitely didn't work. Now I will be direct about it and often find that most things are just misunderstandings.

Very few people are insular enough not to be upset by the criticism of others, I am not sure I would want that existence, regardless of the inner calm.

[mama bear]

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Welcome vachkiri
very budy time in my life right now, so I apologize for the delayed response
I work full time and have just started a two intensive addiction therpay program every night for three hours after work
all the best to you and welcome to the family