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    #1

    FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

    Gotcha, ha ha !! I finally have achieved something I only dreamed of in the past - the 30 days abstinent milestone.

    I will be celebrating by going out for sushi tonight but somehow I feel like it's anti-climatic.

    I have so many people to thank that I will not name names except to say that if it wasn't for Kradle's PM's I would have never returned after my last relapse. :thanks:

    What was different this time? I had reached a point where I was sick of my own empty promises and very aware of how fighting this alcohol conundrum was either going to be a life long activity or I was going to have to bite the bullet and give it up. A stumbling block for me had always been that I was not a heavy drinker by most standards but only I knew the attachment and psychological addiction I was dealing with.

    I am surrounded by drinkers almost every day and had to come to terms with this too. My husband said last night that the delicious shrimp coconut curry I made was so good that it warranted a nice glass of red which he poured and drank. Before, this would have meant an immediate end to my abstinence but, aside from a whimsical sigh, I happily abstained.

    I realize now that society and today's marketers falsely glamorize alcohol and it's just not all that it's cracked up to be. Just watching the drunk cottage gang at the 'Cottage Opening' weekend was enough to reassure me I am doing the right thing. Espcially when my 9 months pregnant DIL's Grandpa told her to take her bra off in the living room so we could all see. We all laughed good-naturedly but I saw my son's MIL cringe in embarrassment. I never want to be the asshole who makes people cringe again.

    No drinks for this Sober Gal. Onward and Upward. :h :h
    Tipplerette

    I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

    "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
    ? Lao-Tzu
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    #2
    FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

    Good for you!
    March: 23 days AF, April 26 days AF, May _23_ AF days
    May 29: back to day 1
    June: The battle continues......

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      #3
      FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

      Congratulations, Tipplerette!!

      Your posts this month have been so much fun to read! I'm glad you are as proud of yourself as your post readers are of you!!

      Unless its a close-kept secret, I would love to try your shrimp coconut curry (sans vino)! There is a Real Foods Recipe link below if you are willing to share .

      Enjoy your day!! :h NS

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        #4
        FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

        Congratulations!!! Well done!!

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          #5
          FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

          NoSugar;1505442 wrote:
          Congratulations, Tipplerette!!

          Your posts this month have been so much fun to read! I'm glad you are as proud of yourself as your post readers are of you!!

          Unless its a close-kept secret, I would love to try your shrimp coconut curry (sans vino)! There is a Real Foods Recipe link below if you are willing to share .

          Enjoy your day!! :h NS
          Thanks, No-Sugar, I made up the recipe and it was simple. Because there were just two of us and I am trying not to cook massive amounts of food at a time I made enough for two but you can easily double this recipe: I fried 1 small onion, half red and half yellow pepper and two cloves of garlic in coconut oil for just a bit. I added a heaping tbs of red curry paste and half can of coconut milk and let it simmer for a bit. For the last five minutes I threw in a handful of peeled shrimp and let it bubble for a few minutes. No need to thicken as the full fat coconut milk did the trick. I served it over rice. it's a keeper.
          Tipplerette

          I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

          "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
          ? Lao-Tzu

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            #6
            FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

            Hey Tipps

            You sound great! So good to hear all of that. It's always good to see drunken nonsense so we can see what we do not want to be!

            30 days is wonderful! Next Monday I'll have 5 months and I could not be happier about that. Some credit to AB, but still ya gotta take the pill. And I'm taking it when I need to.

            I am inspired by your post. On my way to business stuff in Chicago with loads of drining expectations and opportunities. One of my colleagues that I rarely see did comment the other day "I can't wait to see you in Chicago. We'll have some wine."
            I didn't go into it on the phone but I have no intention of drinking wine or anything else.
            She does not realize how bad I am with alcohol. I believe she is a "normal" drinker.

            Have a wonderful week Tipps!

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              #7
              FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

              Also-I knew when I read your heading that you were not talking about alcohol. Just by your recent posts I thought that it was a joke. Glad for that-I had faith in you

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                #8
                FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

                Ann Carolina;1505460 wrote: You sound great! So good to hear all of that. It's always good to see drunken nonsense so we can see what we do not want to be!

                30 days is wonderful! Next Monday I'll have 5 months and I could not be happier about that. Some credit to AB, but still ya gotta take the pill. And I'm taking it when I need to.

                I am inspired by your post. On my way to business stuff in Chicago with loads of drining expectations and opportunities. One of my colleagues that I rarely see did comment the other day "I can't wait to see you in Chicago. We'll have some wine."
                I didn't go into it on the phone but I have no intention of drinking wine or anything else.
                She does not realize how bad I am with alcohol. I believe she is a "normal" drinker.

                Have a wonderful week Tipps!
                Wow 5 months, you must feel like a new woman. There are lots of nice things to sip on at the hotel lobby in Chicago. I had lots of wine in the Chicago Airport while stranded there last winter. Not going there again. I wanted so much to do this with AB but could not get any. A few people offered to send me some (bless their hearts) but I managed to do it cold turkey.

                Life is great, ain't it...
                Tipplerette

                I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                ? Lao-Tzu

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                  #9
                  FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

                  Tipplerette;1505436 wrote: Gotcha, ha ha !! I finally have achieved something I only dreamed of in the past - the 30 days abstinent milestone.

                  I will be celebrating by going out for sushi tonight but somehow I feel like it's anti-climatic.

                  I have so many people to thank that I will not name names except to say that if it wasn't for Kradle's PM's I would have never returned after my last relapse.

                  What was different this time? I had reached a point where I was sick of my own empty promises and very aware of how fighting this alcohol conundrum was either going to be a life long activity or I was going to have to bite the bullet and give it up. A stumbling block for me had always been that I was not a heavy drinker by most standards but only I knew the attachment and psychological addiction I was dealing with.

                  I am surrounded by drinkers almost every day and had to come to terms with this too. My husband said last night that the delicious shrimp coconut curry I made was so good that it warranted a nice glass of red which he poured and drank. Before, this would have meant an immediate end to my abstinence but, aside from a whimsical sigh, I happily abstained.

                  I realize now that society and today's marketers falsely glamorize alcohol and it's just not all that it's cracked up to be. Just watching the drunk cottage gang at the 'Cottage Opening' weekend was enough to reassure me I am doing the right thing. Espcially when my 9 months pregnant DIL's Grandpa told her to take her bra off in the living room so we could all see. We all laughed good-naturedly but I saw my son's MIL cringe in embarrassment. I never want to be the asshole who makes people cringe again.

                  No drinks for this Sober Gal. Onward and Upward.
                  What an eloquent , beautiful post, dear Tipp.
                  YOU are the change we (me) need to see. My dear friend. :l
                  You know my slippage story so won't get into that and I SO meant to 'Thread you out' baby on your 30 days!!!:yay:
                  Like Ann said your posts are always so much fun and insightful to read. I can clearly see your peaceful sancuary by the river, your cottage, your delicious Shrimp Curry (can you make this with the powder instead of the past? ) and soon your baby boy grandson toodleing along in his diaper with you in hot pursuit of course!!

                  You are so right on clarifying the stumbling block: I went from a fairly heavy drinker, which brought me here, to a much more moderate one...but that can be the death knell really. I could carry on like this forever, never truly being free from it, just tethered here at the perverbial bar, bobbing up and down :yuk: that just leads to those empty promises you mentioned and ultimately an empty life- Can't do that.

                  I love that I can share this journey with you; brings me to tears to have you and all MWO as life lines here. don't know what I would do without you....well, yes I do: I'd be sipping away, or more acurately 'slipping' away every night wondering what the hell just happened to my life...

                  But now, no more wondering...just full steam ahead no matter what...no matter who as dear Byrdie would say

                  Thank you for your PM the other day. A bit buried as usual here under the munchkins, but reading , posting, reading posting - reading, posting... Staying close.

                  I will not fall! I will not fall!

                  And I will be brushing my teeth...

                  :l
                  On My Own Way Out Since May 20, 2012
                  *If you think poorly of yourself, you can fail with a clear conscience.
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                    #10
                    FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

                    Very well done you, when I say I'd love a glass of wine to friends I really mean it. I think now its more that I still want to feel part of the gang again, the gang I will never, ever be in again. You have every right to be proud of yourself now. It really does become a way of life.
                    AF since 9 December 2012 :yay:

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                      #11
                      FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

                      Thanks guys, again.

                      Spidie, I think we want the wine glass in our hand and the ceremony of uncorking the bottle, swirling it around, ching ching - here's looking up your kilt, etc... I still do that but now it's the careful pouring into fine china tea cups of the fancy shmanzy tea.

                      Kradle, you get it, you really get it. We were similar types of drinkers. We can almost claim success by our methods of moderation; we can actually do it and everyone knows it and wonders why we still need to quit. But they can't see the turmoil that goes on in our brains. The wanting more, the self-condemnation and, for me, the sleepless nights.

                      So united we stand together and I sure as hell am sticking around here long enough to get a few Nelz stars and to finally be in a position to help others.
                      Tipplerette

                      I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                      "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                      ? Lao-Tzu

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                        #12
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                        Oh Tippy, I am SO proud of you! I knew you could do it!

                        Keep fighting the good fight my friend! :l
                        :heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:

                        Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.

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                          #13
                          FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

                          Wonderful, just wonderful! We are all proud of you!
                          February 27th, 2013. A New , Successful Start. :h

                          When everything seems like an uphill struggle, just think of the view from the top!!

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                            #14
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                            Good for you, Tip. I was that same kind of drinker, not every day, but not completely under my control. It took me 5 years to quit after joining here. Now I'm truly free to live my life anyway I like, without alcohol nosing into my time and freedom.
                            My life is better without alcohol, since 9/1/12. My sobriety tool is the list at permalink 236 on the toolbox thread under monthly abstinance.

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                              #15
                              FINALLY... I CAN HAVE A DRINK!!

                              Great job, Tipps! You will never regret being sober! I hope you will accept this small token of a huge job on behalf of the Newbie's Nest:

                              :day5:

                              Your hat, my dear! Here's to a lifetime of sobriety!! Well done! Byrdie
                              All you gotta do, is get thru this day. AF 1/20/2011
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