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[Byrdlady]

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It gets better, Scottish! The drunken person we used to be is squashed out by our new normal. As they say in the cartoons...try and Ac-centuate the positive and E- liminate the negative!! Try and concentrate on all the blessings you currently have and not what you are missing out on. We aren't missing out on a thing! We have much to be thankful for! We have 2 good arms and legs and most of our marbles left!! Life is about being in the moment, not what's in a glass!! Try and be mindful and grateful!
I'm pulling for you!! Hugs, Byrdie

[kuya]

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scottishman;1513859 wrote: such wise words here, as ever, thank you

its a sunny saturday and the mind turns to getting pissed , its like a lifelong phantom that refuses to die, a life or death struggle, and some silly part of me keeps trying to talk me into the dark side, the circus of the madness of socialising drunk.

I know where it ends, misery and shame, i guess the thing about being an ex alky is that we become aware we are a "divided self".

You know THAT is really weird because I feel the opposite. When I drank I was a divided self, now I am 'back to normal' and whole again.

Scotty....... Do you think there is still a part of you that thinks it is 'normal' to be able to drink alcohol?

.I think a HUGE number of people who consume regularly have problems with alcohol and are in their own private hells, and would give so much to be you but don't know how to quit.

Here at the statistics for alcohol consumption in Scotland. The death rate is SIX TIMES HIGHER THAN THE UK !!!!!!!

Scotland tops UK alcohol league

Little wonder you feel the odd one out. HOW you got and STAY sober is little short of miraculous, my friend.

[K9Lover]

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:l Scotty! :l

I've missed you! I can't add much to the excellent advice you've already gotten, but you know there's no point in dwelling on the past. It's over and you can't change it. What you should change is that crusty underwear you've been wearing for 2 weeks! :H

Don't be a stranger :h

Your favorite person ever,
K9

LOL

[Seethepony]

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Actually, the really annoying thing about being sober is that you don't suddenly turn into superman...
In fact, one or two gigantic mistakes I've made in the past 2 years (well, 1.9 years) have been made ten times worse by me thinking "Aha! I am sober! And smart! I am Mr Rational! Whatever decisions I make will be pure genius cos I am no longer pissed!"

And you can't blame alcohol when everything goes pear-shaped!

But one doesn't make quite such a fool of oneself, sober. There's some consolation in that! You're less likely to die in a knife fight. You never have hangovers. You remember good things - and you can make good things happen, as opposed to watching life roll by in a passive haze. Do you have more control? Sure. But you don't suddenly become a master of the universe. That takes some getting used to!

Good luck Scottish fella, it's worth it.

[scottishman]

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thank you!

as for k9, she always has time for a witty retort, maybe its time she worked out and got off that computer chair :H