Feeling on a different level?

[Mootsbill]

Hi guys, sorry haven't posted for ages, hope your all well. Been reading posts and catching up. I've managed to stay mostly sober this year only one slip up where I went on a binge which left me feeling awful, since then have really upped my game in protecting my sobriety.
My question is does anyone else feel the strain of being on s different level? My Husband works hard all week as do I so we rarely spend time together, then at the weekend he drinks and I don't, take this evening we have been out for dinner where he has sank a bottle or so of vino, he got all belligerent, we had a row and he stormed of to bed, he will be apologetic in the morning and I've had a Nice evening painting my toenails and watching tv but this is not an isolated incident. He's a great husband and has no problem with going to the cinema or theatre and not drinking but with the summer weather brings lots of bbqing, afternoon drinking sessions and this is happening all the time! I also get wound up with his inconsistent parenting when he's been drinking, all week he wants the kids in bed at 7ish and then Friday comes, he has and few and suddenly I'm a boring old mum because I want them in bed so I came enjoy my evening!!
Any thoughts, sorry for long post! Xxx:thanks:

[3June2013]

Feeling on a different level?

Mootsbill, one piece I've taken from all my reading and researching on our disease is that removing alcohol from the equation gives us the opportunity to see things far more clearly. So if our relationship was strained before, and after the alcohol is removed it is still strained, then it wasn't the alcohol that caused it. Likely the alcohol was simply a mechanism for dealing with the strain in the first place. Does that make sense? I was sure my relationship with my non drinking partner was going down hill due to my drinking. But now that I am sober I see that it really wasn't the cause it was a result. So now I am carefully looking at it from a whole new perspective.

I agree with molly, talk to your husband and tell him how his drinking affects you and that you've decided to stop. Maybe he will give it a go too?